Mamasboy, we are friends, and you know I will tell you exactly how I feel, and will tell you straight up exactly how it is. There are two sides to this situation, or two things for you to consider I guess would be a better way to say it.
1) She is a nurse, indeed she sees and deals with incontinence issues, the people who have them, and all the products accordingly. One thing about nurses, generally speaking is usually we are pretty open, honest, and strait foreword with things. If she told you she doesn't care if you have to wear diapers, then really, she probably doesn't care that you wear diapers. Also as a general rule, medical professionals in general tend to see past medical issues with family and loved ones, almost to a fault at times. We see so much of it we don't get excited about stuff like that. Unless you are actively bleeding to death, or something similarly traumatic, we will just tell you the Advil/Tylenol and or cough syrup is in the drawer in the kitchen, and we don't give it another thought. So if she is telling you that she doesn't care, then again, as a nurse myself, if put in the same position would say the same, she really does't care, and it really doesn't bother her, now or down the road.
2) You mentioned that she just got out of a messy divorce. (Danger, danger Will Robinson) comes to mind here. I have never been through a divorce, and actually and oddly enough, only know a few people who have, but even the easiest of divorces are no picnic from what I understand. If she tacked on the word messy in front of the word divorce, then it was probably messy indeed. Remember, we nurses usually tell it like it is. Does she have kids? If so, are you ready to be a part time daddy? Or are you ready to have to deal with her ex? I know you are thinking to yourself, "slow down there Mashie, we haven't even gone out on a date yet". But we aren't kids anymore. Most people at our age date with the intent of finding a permanent relationship, which means you will be dating her, her kids, her ex, and all the other baggage that she comes with. If you are the first person she goes out with after being divorced, depending on how long it's been, are you a rebound guy? Is she looking for a relationship or is she just afraid of being alone? These are things you need to think about and consider before picking up the phone and calling her.
I am not trying to piss in your Wheaties, and I won't tell you to call her or don't call her, only you can decide that. But I am giving you an outsiders perspective from a friend you can trust, and who doesn't have a hidden agenda.
Good luck my friend.