This article is about the SM aspects of enemas, that is, enemas that are given to induce discomfort and mild pain. This is a sexually oriented discussion, in that enemas arouse sexual feelings. It is not about the use of enemas to relieve constipation or other medical needs.
It’s important to state upfront that both parties need to understand what’s going to happen here. We are talking about giving and receiving an enema. There’s going to be a bowel movement (and one that is possibly not a private event). It will undoubtedly be messy, smelly and involves sounds and sights that are not for the faint of heart. There is also going to be leakage of the injected water, and you should be aware of the health aspects.
As with any S/M activity, it will involve consenting adults, and likely dominant and submissive roles, so if this disturbs you, now would be a good time to move on to something else.
Sexual fixation to enemas is not common. Admittedly it’s a strange, but not unheard of. My first experience with enemas was a child. It was not negative or in anyway hurtful. For whatever reason I, and from the communication with others, I have associated the two.
It’s reasonable to say that an enema is not that different from other fetishes such as whipping or spanking. The connection of pain to pleasure is related, and the discomfort, embarrassment and the general dominant/submissive aspect of the enema is just another variation.
The nuance is that enemas relate to a very low level of the mind. The ability to control one’s bowels and bladder is deep seated. Taking control or giving that control to your inner most workings to someone else is a very strong message. On the sub side, being exposed to that type of invasion is visceral. Adding to that is the discomfort and humiliation associated with a forced bowel movement in public, or at least in front of the giver (if desired, but certainly not a requirement)..
How it’s done:
There is an endless amount of equipment that’s available. Open top, closed top, disposal etc. The disposable types certainly produce a bowel movement, but will not produce the effect of a fountain syringe.
Nozzles are a big business in the enema world. You can actually have them custom made. The most popular is the traditional douche nozzle. It has a number if advantages over the straight tip, it’s easier to manipulate and has no sharp edges. Straight tips do have an advantage for men, in that the water can be directed on to the prostate.
Rectal tubes (colon tubes) are intended to be pushed into the rectum and into the lower part of the colon, about 10 inches. They deliver the water deeply and you will not feel the ballooning of the lower rectum. Many find pushing the tube into the subs anus exciting.
Double balloon rectal catheter are intended to seal the anus from leakage. They have two balloons (usually) that seal on the inside and outside of the anus. The nozzle is inflated in the recipient’s anus. That can be quite a rush for both parties. It gives the dominate party complete control over the sub’s filling, retention and expulsion. The double balloon rectal catheter, properly deployed will not allow the inadvertent expulsion of the enema. There may be some leakage, but the enema is not coming out until the double balloon rectal catheter is removed. Of course, there is danger in going too far, but for those that wish that type of experience, there is little that can come close. Enemas using a double balloon rectal catheter can be truly grueling.
Silver bullet nozzles are fine, and you will feel the temp of the water. It’s also heavy so there is a good sensation.
Open and closed types are all for the most part, similar. Open top allows easy refilling, closed top allow the dom to squeeze the liquid into the sub. The closed type also allows air to be mixed with the water. More on that later.
If the object is to stress the sub, soap is a must. It irritates the bowel and produces discomfort and a much more powerful expulsion. . Peppermint burns for even greater effect. Dr. Bronner’s is a favorite, if he only knew (maybe he did). Salt lessens the effect, oil is a real mess. Milk and molasses is a popular mixture. What happens here is that you are introducing food (in the form or sugars) into an environment that contains large amounts of bacteria. The bacteria will ferment the sugar and the result will be gas. The production of this gas will be quick and somewhat long lived. Of course that gas will cause cramps and will force an expulsion. M&M enemas are rough, and you should be really careful about using a double balloon rectal catheter or a butt plug. Alcohol and other strange liquids should be used with extreme caution.
If you use soap, especially a lot of soap, be sure to give the subject at least two tap water enemas afterward. Let’s be safe.
For the most part warm water is fine, hot uncomfortable, and you will feel the heat more during expulsion. Cold water is much more uncomfortable that hot. I have used ice water, but I do not recommend it. There is some concern that an ice water enema could be downright dangerous. It’s about the only form of enema that produces something that can be described as hard pain. Again safety first.
The books say to clear the air in the tube before administering. I almost never do. The reason is that you will feel the bubble of air moving ahead of the water. It’s strangely uncomfortable, and causes waves of mild cramps.
Air in the colon causes cramps (big surprise) and mixing water and air will enable the dom to induce cramps as desired. Most people say that they don’t like that part, but I have a hard time believing that there is no desire for cramping. If you are getting a large volume enema, you are going to get cramps, period. Small ear or infant enema syringes are somewhat useless for even a moderate amount of liquid, but they are however, quite useful for injecting bubbles air before and during the enema. Club soda does the same thing, it’s not really true pain like a whip, it’s just very, very uncomfortable. It also heightens the expulsion event. If you are looking to embarrass the sub this will do it.
Lastly, the best method of introducing air is with a closed top bag. Just one word of caution here. If you inject too much air it will, block the passing of the water. The cramps will get very intense. There are two solutions; one is insert a finger into the rectum as an attempt to move the bubble. The other is to have the receiver get on their hands and knees with their bottom as far up as possible. That should help move the bubble to the anus. Expelling like that is more like a geyser but it works.
Having a full or empty bowel pre enema is a matter of choice. I have deliberately constipated myself for the enema, and have also taken laxatives. Obviously a full bowel produces more stool. The bottom line is that a full bowel will make it harder for you to take a large amount of water. It will also be far more uncomfortable. An empty bowel will allow maximum filling. I frankly prefer to have my subjects full, because there is more that you can do with a full bowel and it really hits the point.
How many you take depends on how much punishment you want to give or receive. It seems that the majority of people give them until the returns are clear. Generally that’s two to five 2 quart enemas. Just taking a single enema is not that big of a deal. Taking 5-6 in a row is a challenge. You get increasingly tender, and since you can’t really expel the total volume during each injection, each one is a bit tougher.
It’s entirely possible to take four quarts. My first is always 4+. Subsequent enemas can be more or less. For me, I can take the most water with the first in a series. I do not wait to expel all of the water before repeating the enema. When giving, I am a bit more lenient and encourage my subs to expel as much of each injection.
Position is less of an issue; any way will work. Knee chest allows maximum filling, at least for me. On the left side is the medical way. My feeling is that a sub on his or her hands and knees shows a level of submission, especially if they are made to spread their buttocks. Over the lap is delightful, and the dom can play with the subs genitals and anus.
If you believe postings and chat rooms, there is a nearly equal split of male and female participants. For me (a male) prostate stimulation is a good explanation on why it feel so good. For females, I really can’t say.
The use of enemas as a preliminary to anal sex is well documented. It’s probably a good idea too. About the only caution is that the water can take some time to work its way out, so give yourself some time.
Retention, expulsion and control.
How long to retain the enema is a personnel preference and skill. I can hold four quarts for about five minutes. Many people find the act of retention a true pain /pleasure experience. Of course, it all depends on the object, the amount of water given and other factors. Few can hold a substantial amount (2 quarts) much beyond 15 minutes.
How you expel the enemas is up to you and the sub. Denying the sub’s use of the toilet exercises control if that‘s the object, and even Kellogg is said to administer enemas in the tub. It really depends on what you limits are and what you want to achieve. Some subs prefer to expel in private. Some enjoy the public aspect of expelling with someone watching on the toilet and telling them how and when. Understand that up front.
Holding until leakage can be the desired goal. It’s especially useful if you want the sub to know who is in control.
If the object is to have an involuntary release, things get messy. I have ordered my subs into the tub standing and just have them wait. They go through various stages from begging to use the toilet to eventual expulsion. I let them know that it’s ok the let the water flow and I am OK with the involuntary release. Trust me, involuntary expulsion of a four-quart soapy enema under the watchful eye of a dom is a unique experience. Afterward, I comfort them and wash and dry their bodies.
Butt plugs help retention, but only the double balloon rectal catheter will really seal the anus. You can accomplish a similar effect by having the sub sit on the edge of the tub with legs on either side. That will keep it in.
Squatting during retention is a challenge. Another punishment is to have the sub sit on the toilet and have them NOT expel. It’s bizarre, but physically and physiology that’s extremely difficult.
I actually prefer volume over forced retention. However it seems that “holding it” has a great appeal for many. I once had someone give me a enema and then made me get dressed and go out side. You can just imagine the kind of distress and the rather perverse pleasure she got from seeing me in that state.
Restraining someone during the administering and potential expulsion is somewhat dangerous. The lack of motion makes it very hard to work out the cramps. Expelling is worse, because there is no way to move and have the liquid pass elegantly.
The first obvious variation is spanking. Being spanked while getting or holding and enema is an excellent augment. There is the tendency to squeeze your buttocks while being spanked, and that will hold and drive the water deeper.
Having to clench the nozzle with your buttocks also seems to drive the water deeper. Try letting the sub hold the nozzle with his cheeks.
Making someone give themselves an enema in front of you is another variation. It shows submission to the dom and places the act upon themselves.
Nearly any activity directed to an individual that is receiving or holding an enema is going to be a heightened experienced. You can’t ignore the feeling and it gets progressively more intense. Performing oral sex is a common event and having the sub satisfying the dom before expulsion is common.
Having a full bladder does what you would expect, more internal pressure. It also provides a source of urine. Beer drinking is a plus here; lots and lots of fluid…
Golden showers are often part of the scene. It’s not dangerous to give someone an enema with their own urine. Someone else’s is questionable. Urine incidentally, burns it also has a dramatic mind effect
Drinking you own urine is also safe. It provides the degradation to the sub. Having someone make you pee in a glass and them have them drink it is a trip, especially if you are cramping bad. Once I was forced to take a mouthful of urine and hold it during a complete fill and expulsion. I was them made to spit it back into the glass in order to prove that I didn’t swallow it. She then made me drink the remaining continence of my bladder…
Hopefully, this sheds some light on what some would call a bizarre aspect of human sexual deviation. I can certainly see that. However for me, and the other people that share this fetish, it’s simply who we are.