Hmm.. you know, I'd forgotten this happened to me! Once had an accident in elementary school. The principal or whoever it was (also nurse I think, by how he handled things), took me into the nurses office/clinic, and helped me change into some spare clothes they had. I distinctly remember his very very gentle white latex-gloved hands, and how he told me everything was OK, and that these things happen. I think he offered to help wipe me or something, and I know he undressed and dressed me for sure. I was talking about and crying at how mad my dad was going to be at me, for peeing my pants, and this guy was so nice to me. I..think I was 6 or 7 maybe.
Yes, I did get SCREAAAAAMED and cussed at in my face, by my father for quite a while (better part of an hour), for peeing my pants on accident. I… don't remember if he grabbed me by the neck this time or not. It truly was an accident, as I'd had to pee real bad, thought I was fine and was heading to the bathroom, then just let go like a waterfall, nothing I could do, and started freaking out.
Now that I think about it, I think I had messed my undies very badly once at school too. Same school I think possibly. I remember being quite sick at the time as well. The nurse then too, just took care of everything. I was so upset I couldn't even look at myself, couldn't handle touching my clothes or anything.. She took care of everything. Didn't make a fuss about it, didn't make a scene about it, just told her what happened while crying rivers. On went the gloves, etc.. and to the bathroom we went to sort it out. She was very nice and gentle with me.
I.. don't remember getting screamed at for this one, may have been younger, or my dad might have been on a business trip or something.