Any tips for anal fisting? I have done vaginal fisting a few times successfully and more unsuccessfully.... but now my boyfriend wants to try anal fisting and I'm very, very nervous of the idea. Any hints or tips ASAP would be great. Thank you.
Lucky you Pyewacket. I'm jealous.....
There aint gonna be a quick fix for this..like the other posters said it takes time to tone those muscles.Thats the bad news..good news its a fun ride,what I did was gradually built up to different sized butt plugs starting small and working up...forgot the size I started with but ended up with a 5" plug about a 15" circumference took several years.I hope I aint breaking rules but my toy store was bigsextoystore.com
my wife never made it on me past the ... elbow ;)
You and my husband have my sympathies. That as far as I've gotten with him too.
I love to grab his ribcage.
I have never made it past the knuckles. Whooooooo!
ive only got 4 fingers in cant get the thumb in myself
Takes YEARS of practice.
Have fun on the journey and stop worrying about the goal. After all, you're not learning how to play a video game (takes hours in my case lol)
There are many threads started here in this category. Please take some time to read what other members have to say. What works for one does not work for all. Go slow and enjoy.
Anal fisting takes alot of lube and time of slowly working yourself up to something the size of a fist! The best thing to do is to get several different sized toys and over time slowly stretch yourself out but listen to your body if it hurts stop! Dont keep going because you can do some serious damage if you force anything and tear your self it is going to be really painful! I recommend that you get you some j-lube for anal fisting it is supper slick and fairly cheap you can find it on ebay or any vet supply online. That being said just take your time and slowly work your up and enjoy the journey!
There is a forum website just for fisting it is www.fistforum.com It is full of information on any type of fisting and plenty of people there that are willing to give any advice that you might need.
Me and the wife are trying to get the fist in, it more me than her but i think ive got her curious about it.. Ive bought latex gloves lots of lube and big dildos to get her stretched but after about 2 months of trying i still cant get the fist all the way in.. Its sooo frustrating.. Has anybody on here got any advice on technique or anything that will help me get the fist in!! It makes me hard just thinking about it i want to do this sooo much!
use tons of lubricant
I was trying it tonight and bled a little. It was almost no blood at all but still a little. I checked just a second ago and there is not sign of blood at all. Is extremely minor bleeding normal after attempting to anal fist?
first tip for anal fisting: use a mirror or a camcorder/webcam and WATCH what is going on, it doubles the pleasure and minimises discomfort! ;)
second tip: send your videos to me ;) -just to see if you did it right, what else?!?? :)))
I have to agree with all the positive coments. I had my first fisting and the sensation was incredible I can wait to do it again.
@Sissykat, once you've done it, it becomes easier to do again.
I was anally fisted 5 times last Tuesday. Once with two hands in.
Bliss, but my backdoor is still tingling
I fisted myself once and it hurt at first, but I came right after it stopped hurting. I kept my fist inside myself for a good 10 minutes. I'm afraid to do it again though.
my wife (L) Fist me the first time I loved it I came in 60 seconds flat
I would love to find a woman who would stretch me and fist me!
I have asked to wife to try me out, after all, I do use the large Tantus "softserve" silicone toy often
I got anally fisted all the way for the first time this year. Tried several times in the past in a sling but couldnt get all the way in. Maybe this guy who waylaid me in a bathhouse was more cruel or had smaller hands. he just told me that him and his mate were into fisting and did I want to try it. Got me on all fours and poured plenty of lube from a squeeze bottle. Left door open so a small group gathered. when it was painfull enough for me to want to stop, he just kept going and I was virtually balancing on my hands and head with feet off the ground to try and lessen the pain when he suddenly slipped in. After that what can I say, it was just fantastic to feel myself impaled on this guy's fist and to feel round to his wrist with my hand. He then pushed it in and out a few times (and left me quite stretched for a few days) before fucking me. He then got me to fist him which I've never done before.
Too bad that she ask a question and is now an ex member, but a reasonable question and Owen has done a good job with his answer...
just like to add ...Make it FUN, you BOTH will relax more !!!
Before I got my vagina I used my rectum as it. I had anal sex quite a bit. One evening my gf decided she would fist my rectum. She gave me a series of enemas using a double balloon nozzle. After the second enema she lubed up her fingers and started inserting them. She started with two added the third, after a while the fourth finger was in my rectum. I was uncomfortable but not pain full. The next thing I know she tells me to relax and her fist is in my rectum. It hurt like hell but she continued to fuck my anus with her hand up to the wrist. After several minutes she was able to pull her hand out and reinsert it. I still had my prostate so I was able to cum . It was a good feeling. We continue to fist each other. I have fisted her vagina as well as her rectum
I've been vaginally fisted once and it was with a man with small hands. I would loooooove to be anally fisted, but I think it would have to be another man with small hands or a woman.....
Take it slow and easy with plenty of lube. When properly done it is a feeling like no other imo. Relax and enjoy!
I've been practicing fisting and large anal insertions for over 10 years and the first thing you need to know about it is that it is not an overnight thing. It takes a lot of time and patience and I'm talking over a year!!
If you've never taken anything bigger than a cock up your ass then the first thing you need to do is experiment on your own and learn to stretch your ass gently and gradually EVERY DAY to reach your goal of taking a fist. To do this you'll need some butt plugs that gradually increase in size, train with them till you're comfortable with the largest size and then move up in size. It's like stretching any muscle, to get it as loose as ou want it and not suffer any permanent damage, you have to go SLOW.
Now let's talk about the pain. There are two types of pain you will experience, one of which you DEFINITELY want to stay away from. The first is stretching pain. This is the initial discomfort you will feel when you first stretch your ass past it's limits. Once you feel this pain stop immediately and wait. Don't take the toy out, just wait a bit, take a few deep breaths and see how you feel. Never push super hard. Always apply steady even pressure and breathe deeply till the toy just won't go any further. Sometimes it helps to bear down really hard for 3 seconds and then relax your ass. As soon as you relax it you can feel the toy slide in a bit deeper. If it doesn't don't worry, that's your ass telling you it's going as far as it's gonna got TODAY. Do this for 20 mins per day and you will feel your ass start to open up easily and quicker.
The next type of pain is the pain you definitely don't want. It usually happens when you are feeling really confident that "today" you can do it! Today is the day you will reach that new width you've been trying for but then all of a sudden you feel an unusual sharp pain and the rest of your stretching session is just painful no matter what you try. This is your poor cute little ass telling you to STOP!.... So do it. Stop immediately and give your ass a rest for about 3 days. If you don't listen to your body at this point you'll pick up some bad habits which could and often do lead to permanent damage.
Lastly let's talk about creams and lubes. When it comes to lube it's always about personal opinion. In my 10+ years of experience I've tried all the fancy lubes but for anal sex, it's pretty simple. VASELINE, CRISCO VEGETABLE LARD AND BODY MOISTURIZERS are the best for anal stretching and ass play. Why? Well it's quite simple. Oil based lubes won't thin out, are usually slicker and last far longer than water based lubes. This is what you need when stretching out your ass. Also, if you can get it, I've discovered a product called Albolene which is a makeup remover but as far as anal lube goes it is the king of the slipperies. :)
Oh - and always use tons more lube than you think you need. Lube your ass up and once you think you're using enough ADD MORE!
DESENSITIZING CREAMS: rule of thumb. Don't EVER use them when exploring new widths or depths. If your body is too numb to feel pain how are you gonna know when to stop? Only use them when you're playing in your "safe" zone and set it aside when training for wider toys
In conclusion just remember to listen to your body, go very slowly, use tons of lube and enjoy tge journey. It may take months, it may take years but it's your body so work with it and NEVER let your BF push you into something you're not comfortable with. If he tries anything, offer to do the exact same to him and watch him chance hie tune ;)
My wife and I went out partying one time for our aniversary. Usually my wife doesn't drink but on this night she did. Anyway, whenwe got home she was massively horney. (which pleased me to know end) We got to playing and she started fingering my anus while giving oral sex. She started stretching me but I was in heaven by the way she was into the oral so didn't say anything when it started to burn and hurt. Just as I orgasmed she managed to get het her whole hand in me. With her hand against my prostrate I think I set a new personal record for amount released. She gave me time to relax then slowly removed her hand. It hurt more coming out than I noticed going in.
All the advice about fisting -anal-or vaginal fails to mention that stretching sufficiently for fisting is not for beginners or even moderate indulgers, These openings snap shut or gradually close within minutes to close to their original size and only after many years of stretching and some fissures will allow larger objects and limbs to enter. There have been emergency room cases where objects forced into colons won't come out because of hasty insertions. So if you think that you can swing overnight with the pros, you may have to bear the embarassing consequences. Stretching is a slow, tedious, but eventually rewarding experience.
I have been anal stretching for a number of years now and I love it. I've had no adverse effects or 'accidents.' Reciving a fist anally is good, but I would recommend a good, unrushed session of dildos, fingers, etc., to open you up first. Find a position that suits you and use lots of lube. Our preferred lube is PJUR Original. It is latex safe and seems to go a long way. Never goes sticky or dries out! WWW.PJUR.COM. It is expensive but worth every penny.
Good luck. I hope you get there and enjoy it :)
I love doing this to a man. The feeling as my hand goes in and the look on his face are so erotic. You can read lots of articles on how to do it on the web. Try these for starters
I tried it with a girlfriend, but she liked the vaginal better. Very slow and plenty of KY. Never go from one to the other without washing.
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