My current urologist is male and quite good. The first one I ever visited, in the early 80s, also male, was brusque to say the least. Anyone encountering that guy would be put off on male urologists. I had a UTI and not only was his exam painful, the antibiotics he prescribed made me very nauseous.
Around that same time period I had a female GP - they weren't called PCPs then. She was considerate and slim fingered. She joked when treating me for some forgotten penile affliction. The odor of the regent she was using to reveal the nasty bits on my penis/scrotum smelled like vinegar. She said she was making a salad. She may have been the first doctor to palpatate my prostate.