Oh, WOW... how did I convince wifey to try pegging... and what was it LIKE? This is gonna go TOO LONG... but a lotta you DID ask. :-) To those without interest, stop HERE!
As we aged, our sex life dwindled... I experienced increasing ED, wifey needed hormone creams that in retrospect given her family history were probably a bad idea...
I was anal erotic and into enemas from age 6, wifey would not even let me TOUCH her anus (dirty), nor wanted to touch mine(dirty AND gay?). I had kept my enema interest from her for 30 years married. My equipment was kept around for "relief of occasional constipation" and used in secret. I thought I was the ONLY person in the world who actually LIKED enemas. When daughter started high school, she brought home a school newspaper that contained an article about the then new internet, where you could find out about ANYTHING... even sex with enemas. OMG, gotta say YES to wifey's interest in a PC... NOW!!!
With the PC I had little trouble finding an IRC chat group "Sex With Enemas", then a spam email led me to join Nozzleville enema chat where I soon lost my shyness when others showed equal interest in enemas AND other anal pleasures. I was eventually convinced by chat friends to tell wifey about the full extent of my enema interest, and invited her to participate. She wanted to learn how to give, and I was a VERY willing subject. She gave me enemas for maybe 3 months, with both bag & douche bulb, but became more and more turned off, mostly by the occasional brown stains on the nozzle. She is VERY feces phobic, was not even fond of changing baby diapers which task was shifted to me as often as possible. Eventually I went back to solo for my enemas, but at least I did not have to worry about getting CAUGHT... except for the "pervert" label which she occasionally applied to my anal activity.
When the ED set in, she became ever more insistent that I use pills to overcome it. I am quite averse to any unnecessary medication, so resisted. My tongue still worked, for her too, ESPECIALLY when she got too aroused to protest my gentle anal massages. She still maintained the only real sex was PIV... The standoff continued until a week long vacation in Provincetown, with all the adult toy stores to peruse. I had found out about the Feeldoe from on line friends, and it appeared to be an answer to MY anal interests and her need for a "penis". It could also be used for HER to take MY anus... YESSS! We sat for a long time looking over the water in Provincetown harbor and discussing possibilities. I finally agreed to try pills if she would try pegging me with a Feeldoe.
It took a while to get the pills AND the long red Feeldoe MORE that my online friend thought would be best for ME who was regularly sitting down on a BIG dildo enema nozzle. The egg end of all Feeldoes were the same, so little difference for wifey. We decided first try would be me lowering onto her 'doe... and I did my own lubing. Wifey was very concerned about fecal contamination of her vagina, I had cleaned myself out well, and planned to avoid any genital contact with her that was not isolated by red plastic. Of course LUBED plastic is a LOT slipperier than we planned, a hand was required to guide the toy to target, AND to hold the egg in her, and it turned out messier than desired... but it went IN, felt YUMMY in my tummy, and we BOTH went off. I think that is the LAST time she got off with it, when she realized lube from the shaft MIGHT have transferred to HER. We bought a harness which helped mightily with isolation and held it in well, but she never really ENJOYED again. The pills worked SOME... but not perfectly. We tried ONCE to use the MORE as a penis for her, she found it too hard, hurty. We bought a Realdoe, which felt softer and much like my erect penis. One try with that did not work, she expressed fear of fecal contamination. She wanted to try a flat bottomed strapon dildo that did not penetrate her. We bought it, but never tried it together. After I experienced some unpleasant side effects from the pills, we sorta drifted into agreement that I could do my own enemas and anal toys and she would take care of her own needs too. I built an adapter for my reciprocating saw to drive the flat bottomed dildo into me solo... it is TIRELESS and EFFECTIVE.
Wifey was diagnosed with incurable pancreatic cancer 17 months ago. Our sex life has not improved... but she no longer calls my enemas "perverted", and does ask for me to give enemas to HER when constipation takes over. However, for HER there is no pleasure in the enemas, only relief. Sorry, but not all stories HAVE happy endings. :-( I do hope YOURS do! :-)