I hate to keep saying this but, "Yeah! What she just said"!
Mashie, I couldn't have put it any better myself, a karma to you sweetie, like you don't have enough already!
My partner and I have been together just shy of a year, and we've played together several times. Those times aren't frequent enough for either one of us, but it is what it is. He's a stickler for schedules, planning, and making sure that every thing gets done. I am too, in real time. We're both a little anal that way; it's one of the many similarities that brought us together, and it's one of the things that keeps us together.
Our planning sessions are part of the foreplay for us, it helps the anticipation build and gets the juices flowing, as if we need help in that department. By the time he gets off the plane, I can barely keep myself from starting an exam right then and there!
But when we get down to it, I try to get him to forget all about the clock and just relax. So what if it takes me an hour and a half to administer an enema to him, or it takes him two hours to do a complete physical on me. The important thing is that we are together, enjoying ourselves and each other, and we are having a great time. There are days, like Mashie said, when we just want to cuddle for a while. If no medplay gets done that day, so be it. Aside from that, I want my exams to take as long as they need to!!