I feel gay when I put things up my butt

I've never climaxed from anal prostate stimulation but I'm curious and want to try.

I'm troubled as sometimes I feel really gay about doing things to my butt hole

Not sure why you would feel gay when it feels so good. A prostate orgasm is like nothing you can experience from a regular orgasm. It feels wonderful. It just about takes your breath away.

I've never climaxed from anal prostate stimulation but I'm curious and want to try.

I'm troubled as sometimes I feel really gay about doing things to my butt hole

I don't understand why you feel "gay" when you put things up your butt. You described yourself as BISEXUAL in your profile. Mathematically, that's the same as "hetero plus gay."

You might as well get comfortable with what you enjoy. You are only getting one life to do it.

My husband enjoys a good butt-fucking from me, and I assure you, he isn't gay and has no sexual interest in men. He just loves the way it feels.

As far as NOT climaxing from only prostate stimulation is concerned, don't worry about it. VERY VERY VERY few guys can actually do that. The rest lie.

Do a search for anal and prostate toys. You'll get a lot of ideas.

Not gay at all; perfectly hetro! i have a 4" vibe which my partner (a GP) uses on me. It does not cause an orgasm, but hell does it enhance it 😃

Enjoy what you makes you happy. Forget the label, just enjoy.

You need the right person doing the stimulation and then you will feel differently about being massaged inside!!!!

This isn't an official definition, but I don't think "Gay" has anything to do with enjoying anal stimulation or not. It has to do with the gender of who you are attracted to. Since both genders have butt-holes, anal play is hardly a good criteria for determining if you are gay or not.

I wouldn't worry at all about it ... just explore your curiosity and make your own decision if you enjoy it or not. If you do, then let your partner know, and explore the possibility of sharing your new interest.

BTW - If your partner is the same sex as you, then I think that constitutes being gay (or bisexual) ... and I don't think that's worth worrying about, either.

Aaron,

Forget all about the labels of "straight", "bi" and "gay". You are who you are and your sexual preferences shouldn't matter to anyone but you.

The simple fact is that the anal region of the human body is (thankfully) equipped with a huge number of pleasure sensors and most people, whether they admit it or not, enjoy anal stimulation. Virtually every straight male in my life that I've known well enough to discuss it with has admitted that they enjoy anal stimulation, by a female or their own devices. Bi and gay guys just have a wider selection of potential partners.

Enjoying anal stimulation does NOT make you gay. Even if it did, so what? If you prefer the sexual company of males exclusively, then it's a pretty safe bet that you can be considered gay. If you like both males and females, then you'd be considered Bi. Females only -- you're straight. But that doesn't change who you are. It's just a descriptive term.

I've never been with a guy, but I've enjoyed anal stimulation for as much of my life as I can remember. Clear back to early childhood. So, I'd be classified as straight. Actually, I'm really "bi-curious". I enjoy anal stimulation so much that I wonder what it would be like to have a real cock up my ass. I'll probably never find out, since I've never met a guy that I've been sexually attracted to, but I can't help but wonder.

Just forget about all the societally imposed "classifications", and simply enjoy what you like. With whomever you like. Life is too short to deny ourselves the simple pleasures of our bodies.

ldb

Its your body, you should be able to try what feels comfortable to you. I had the same thought when I first tried fingering my butt. It took a while before I became actually comfortable with it, I had to come to terms with it on my own. I wasnt like I was going to turn gay because of it. Its just another form of stimulation and one should enjoy.

The whole thing interests me and all but I am afraid of losing respect from my partner. If somethings up my butt, does it seem feminine with me being the receivor and all?can any males here relate?

I'm a hetero male and enjoy having things up my butt and have no questions about my masculinity. Anal activity has nothing to do with gender. It's about deriving pleasure from what you are doing. Some people enjoy it and some don't. Forget about it being masculine or feminine. If it feels good, do it. If not, don't. There are plenty of other things to worry about. Hope these thoughts help.

I'll second what Sam42 said. I'm also heterosexual and enjoy the sensation of anal play. It's a shame we live in a society that thinks it's gay if a man wants to play with his butt.

And there is a certain feminine aspect involved. You become the receiver. It puts your partner in the role you're accustomed to being in or if you're alone it lets you experience the sensation of penetration. But that's not a bad thing. You can get in touch with your feminine side without giving up your masculinity.

Aaron,

I love things up my butt, and I'm not gay. 😁

I don't have a penis I can assure you of that, but if I may put in my two cents worth here.

As a woman, when my man lets me play with his backside, or lets me finger him, insert things into him, or "take" him back there it's sexy as hell.

Doing any of those things is a huge turn on for me because I like doing that, but it's more of a turn on because I know he really loves that.

Pleasing him is my only goal when we are in bed. Pleasing him makes me happy. Seeing him turned on just turns me on all the more. That's what happens when people are in love see.

Sex becomes more about pleasing the other than pleasing yourself.

If your woman really loves you, talk to her, tell her what you want. Most women find it a huge turn on to do things to their man back there. It puts us in control, and goodness knows men love that as much as we do, if not more.

Communication is the key. Talk to her.

I agree with Mash .

Some women like to have something in their butt ,

Some men too , may be more more mens than women because mens can have the plus of the inside feelings from the ass and outside feelings from the penis .

Women have " only " two inside feelings .

Michael63031 you have to give lessons to a lot of mans , who just lives as chickens , they are so blocked and so wrongly macho .

Most of such mans don't appreciate a vibrator because themself will give more pleasure to their wife , to small brain and opening of toughts to understand that a combination of lover and machine can be delicious . How much mens will accept to have icecubes in their anus just when cumming ? and in fact they are afraid to climax more strongly because there were arroused by an anal attouchement . Some womens say they don't need a vibrator they have all what they need , OK if they will never change their way of sensuality , ok if they cook without spices , to add spices don't mean you chang of restaurant .

To my friends Mashie and Arthur!

We need to open a clinic. I can completely identify with what Mash said about getting pleasure from her man's pleasure. I feel exactly the same way. And in case there are any doubts, my man is most manly to me when I am "taking" him with the feeldoe. That's because he has completely exposed himself to me and made himself vulnerable. It takes a lot of courage and intimacy for a man to do that.

Now I have to say that I may be the "odd woman out" here. What Arthur was talking about, using a vibrator and being stimulated by my partner at the same time, is frankly, a little more than I can handle. It's good for a very short period of time, after that it gets to be too much. My favorite form of stimulation is my partner's fingers and tongue. As long as he's fully equipped with both of those, I'm a happy gal!

Play On!

LadyDoc

Not wrong to do so. After all there are a lot of sensitive nerve ending located in the anal area, and let's not forget the 'ol prostate! My wife, and I, love the action,feel and excitement of using my anus to accept her gloved fingers,a dildo and an enema nozzel!(not at the same time) 😜 Doesn't make one gay or a fem, just a great willing partner! 😉

Why not. I wouldn't recommend discussing it with your buddies in the pub though 😄

Coming back to bwgreens original post, I think that one probably would get more respect from taking responsibility of ones own sexuality. At least from the kind of women I have in mind.

When I had the privilege of introducing my girlfriend to anal sex, I know she felt quite comfortable in the knowledge that I knew from own experience what I was doing - and so did I.

Over time this has turned to be our preferred way of playing - and I am quite sure my gf doesn't think me less of a man for that reason.

Sex is great, and if two curious persons don't explore every orifice with whatever appendages fitting, they are missing an opportunity.

Obviously I do not subscribe to the perspective that the baseline for sex(es) is that men has sticks to poke and women holes to poke into, and thus don't relate the activity of 'being poked' to something feminine.

Anal sex is one of the variations of sex where we can actually share experience between the sexes. Don't miss that opportunity.

Enjoy yourself

I found that a partner will do all kinds of stuff when you first meet, then it changes. Anal play is fine but my partner did it a few times when we met and then started saying it was gay and she don't like it. This sounds like an advert for swinging I'm sure >😄

It's really too bad the word "gay", has been destroyed in it's meaning by a few miscreants in our society!There was a man by the name of Gay Johnson,who had truckstop restaurants years ago; and the lead character in The Misfits,(Clark Gable)was named Gay!

There is nothing wrong with the word,only the perception that it has been given.Just because we enjoy a fetish,doesn't make us any less male.Besides that, I''m rather fond of a gloved hand, or a nice dildo in my butt. So there!

I used to think putting things in ones butt meant he was gay. then I got curious and tried a prostate massager toy.

it's a lot of fun and likely very healthy for the prostate. but I still fantasize about women while I use it. (though often dominant women ;-)

I have several toys for my butt- anal bead, vibrators, strapons, butt plugs and all sorts of enema equipment- and have no problems with any of the women I play with considering me but heterosexual. It's all in your sexual orientation.

Still, being gay is only defined by who you're attracted to, not what you're doing with your body. If you're not attracted to men there's no reason to feel gay, things in the butt or not 😉

Is it Feminine to have things up your butt?

or are we confusing what we do in bed with our gender identity? Common mistake!

I think back on the things in life I may have missed being gay paranoid or afraid of what females would think about my preferences and trying to fit into the " whats considered normal" box.

Society has placed so many fences in place to curb and channel our thoughts, desires and feelings to what is considered vanilla normal. Every one has kinks.... That is a fact..

I know what feels good to me, I now know my boundaries. This may not be your idea of what's good or whats bad. I will no longer judge others except when it comes to people who do not have the capacity to make there own decision on what is right or wrong. Or someone forcing another person to do what is not mutually agreed on.

Those are my fences, Satin/silky type materials next to my skin feels good. Is this Gay? My prostate being massaged feels good is this Gay? If I choose to participate in making someone of the same sex feel good, crossdress, have frequent enemas, or smell differently it is what I might like not what the government or society dictates.

My wife and girl friend both laugh at me about silkies when I choose to wear them, but both will find something they think I would like and buy it for me then we will laugh and have great sex. She loves the vibrator just above her clit. I like the vibrator on my prostate. Much the same thing except I have to clean out a bit.

Not much different than me buying a vibrator or sexual device I think they would like. Everyone gets a chuckle but then can't wait to "try it out"

If you wish to put this ex-military, retired cop, aerobatic pilot, successful business man in the box marked GAY then that's your problem.

Bottom line is, there are more mountains to climb and see what is on the other side before I take the big dirt nap.

I'm sorry I wasted so much time worrying about what others thought. You don't have to make the same mistake. If it feels good, dosen't hurt your body or hurt others then DO IT, enjoy.

Skybear, wanna talk about it call me 4048569287

Hey if it feels good do it. Your mind is busy with nonsense.[Ilove butts]

I'm straight, and I don't feel gay putting anything up my butt.

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You're straight and don't feel gay when you put things up your ass? In your profile you state you are BISEXUAL.

As a woman, I never felt "gay" about putting anything up my butt. MEN on the other hand much more often may express feeling "gay" when they have anal penetrations.