I feel gay when I put things up my butt

I'll readily admit that I discovered the pleasurable sensation of being penetrated anally at an early age, but no man has ever engaged in sexual activity with me, and I have no desire to reciprocate. However, if there are gents who don't see it that way, it's a simple matter of live and let live.

The early Christian taboo against sexual gratification via that means has some very logical grounding; fertility was venerated because it was necessary to reproduce new believers before the Romans could wipe them out. That emphasis doesn't seem justifiable any more in the days of overpopulation and birth control, so if two people seek to pleasure each other physically via a non-traditional approach, what's the harm?

It might also be noted that many early Christians had reservations against ordinary bathing as well. The people at the site referenced by the link below have other issues, but the reference to lice as "Pearls of God" has been advanced by other commentators, among them the late Bertrand Russell in his "History of Western Philosophy".

I don't know why everyone is so concerned about being thought of as gay. I like things up my butt too, but I don't think the act of using anal toys can be classified as gay.

Anal stimulation is wonderful. I love playing with my toys. The feeling of the prostate being massaged makes my orgasms so much more intense. I just wish I could get my wife to participate more. She did for a while, but now has no interest in it and I have to hide it from her.

I dont think so. many hetero males like it, many more would do it if they gave it a chance

No need to 'feel gay' about enjoying the feeling of a butt plug inside you. Wether straight, bi or homosexual who should feel guilty or 'out of sorts'with it?

I found it strange the first time ,but its such an amazing sensation,its well worth trying

The person who said he feels gay when he has a butt plug inserted, and is confused about it...should just enjoy the experience and the good feeling and not try to analyse too much. I myself am completely hetero but have never questioned myself or my feelings, and yet I enjoy enemas with large nozzles and sometimes only a nozzle or something of that sort.. just for the sheer pleasure it brings. So there is really no need to question one's sexuality just because of pleasurable feelings in one's anal area. It all has to do with the prostate gland....so don't fight it!!

As a bottoming bisexual male, I feel wonderfully 'gay' when I have a butt plug neatly tucked into my butt. But there really is no need for your straight men to feel that you are a homosexual simply because you enjoy this kinky pleasure.

I was concerned for a few years as well. In an animal sicence class in college the subject was seman collection. One of the methods for stimulation to produce seman was manual stimulation. The vet or tech insereted his hand and massaged the animals postrate. Another was the insertion of a e-stim wand into the rectum of the animal to produce the seman. It was then that I realized that it was very natural and that all males had the same reaction. It gave me a lot more confidence about my sexuality.

Straight-Bi or whatever one claims.....It does not make one come across as gay if anal play is involved, it's all in the head and what one enjoys.Common sense rules.

I'm a Bi-Sex guy, like it both ways, if I'm condemned for that So Be It...It's my body and I do to it what I want and what feels good. So, guys jump off the scared train and jump to the fun train, but then again it's what one likes or dislikes, if you like your butt played with then have at, if not then just don't do it. Plane and simple.

Read, study, research----and see what the doctors say about anal dilation, over board play can damage you, but if one goes at it using both heads to think then it can be a pleasurable experience.

I've just got into anal play in the past few months, going at it slow and easy on the size, so far UMMMMM, like it, up to a 1.5 inch size. Feels great when coming out a very good pleasure, all kinds of sensations I have never felt.....

Play, be easy, go slow, and use lots of lube.

SWAK1 😁

I agree Switchablesusie. I never thought of it being gay to like the feeling of somethig in my butt.

I know this "confusion" all too well...I've always considered myself a pretty vanilla person when it came to good ol' regular sex. Mostly missionary-position and nothing kinky when with girlfriends. One girl changed my mind by casually reaching back and *accidentally* inserting one finger. I don't know if it was the surprise of the strange feeling but I haven't looked back since. A curious finger is my favorite addition to a vanilla blow-job nowadays.

The way I see it, if you're attracted men and have fantasies involving men, then you're probably gay (or bisexual). If you enjoy having women playing with your bum (finger or toy) then you most certainly are not gay. You'd be surprised, actually, how many women find it attractive when a man is so confident with his sexuality that he's okay with a little probing.

I'll put it this way...if you like having anal sex with a woman, does it make you gay for wanting to put your penis in her bum? Just my two cents...

I'm definetly straight, but really like the feeling of dildo 😜

I am definitely BI and love everything about good anal play with the right person or persons >😄

Too bad for years I worried about being Bi-straight or Gay. To hell with the labels, just go have fun. 😄

Never let what society thinks influence what you do. I've heard people say a guy is gay if he does the splits. Having flexible hamstrings has everything to do with sexual preference. lol. Most guys and girls enjoy anal stimulation if it is done correctly. The reason people don't try it is because of the sterotypes that goes with it.

It's normal to feel like you may be gay just because you like to stick things up your ass and this is only because we believe that is what all gay men do. Not necessarily true... A lot of gay men prefer the more emotional and intimate connection between them and their partner and very seldom have anal sex.

i love having things in my ass and would love to get fisted by an experienced top so by that factor alone I'd consider myself slightly bi curious but definitely not gay. The only thing that turns me on is having an experienced man fist me and nothing else.

Nothing gay about me, but anus and prostate stimulation is great!

Not gay at all! The ass is a sensitive zone for everyone. Most just don't have the guts to try it out!

I like things up my butt. Have since I was a kid. And I struggle with the "gay" label also. At best, I think I'm bi. I like butt plugs, dildo's and have even had anal sex (safe). I've been wanting to have someone fist me, but haven't found anyone yet. I love sites like this. It's easy to feel you're the only one who does this. Thanks!

Enemaken said:

I like things up my butt. Have since I was a kid. And I struggle with the "gay" label also. At best, I think I'm bi. I like butt plugs, dildo's and have even had anal sex (safe). I've been wanting to have someone fist me, but haven't found anyone yet. I love sites like this. It's easy to feel you're the only one who does this. Thanks!

You struggle with the label gay, and you say you think you are bi?

Which do you like more, sex with men or women, or do you have no preference?

If you're gay, you probably only want sex with men. If you're bi, you probably have no or little preference.

Having sex with women because you can't find the men you want, DOES NOT make you hetero or bi, it makes you gay.

You should have fun regardless of who who have sex with.

I love having things in my butt, but at the same time I have absolutely no interest in any sexual activities with other men. Although sometimes it feels 'gay', it only feels that way because of what our perceptions tell us the world considers to be 'gay'.

I love to be anally stimulated by my wife with beads, dildos, enemas, and her fist but have no desire in ever doing any of these things with any man. I think that what stimulates us, and who stimulates us are two separate things that are entirely personal preference. Everyone should find what is best for them, and forget about their perceptions of what is considered normal or acceptable by the world around them. If we disguise how we feel we are only cheating ourselves.

I agree with Skybear, Superlotus and Dr. Batch. Society has created labels to corral and confuse and, in many cases, identify a political or social difference. As an 'out' bi-sexual male, I have discovered what many others have as well: labels are meant for filing cabinets and jars of jelly, not people. I am a human being first, with all my desires and faults.

This concept of labels extends beyond this forum obviously. Labeling has been the cause of great pain in the world since the beginning of social groupings.

These days I consider the words "gay", or "straight" to be more of a political statement than anything to do with bodily functions or desires.

I'm totally straight and I like suppositories, enemas, diapers and but plugs. I'm shopping for an old fashion curved douche nozzle that will fit on my enema tubing.

I remember when I wouldnt buy a cock shaped toy as I didnt want to feel gay or anything, that stopped years ago I just buy what I like now lol

Don't know why, i absolutely love anal, getting your ass to gape after taking out a big toy is one of the best lings to experience.

My experience with anal toys is strikingly similar. The thing is, I am completely not attracted to the male form, but completely enamored with the female form. Weirdly enough, I got into anal play because I stumbled upon some shemale porn on the good ol' intarweb. Then I realized I really liked girls with dicks, LOL.

I don't consider myself gay because I have zero attraction to the male body anatomy. Litmus test? Go to a public pool shower without stall doors and I feel the urge to turn away from even looking at another guy. But put me in the female stall (pardon me ladies) and I go ga-ga (no pun intended). Still, the idea of being f**ked by a female with a dick (or a strap-on) is an absolute turn-on for me. Recently I'm also getting into feminization play (solo though).

I'm also married by the way, and my wife knows all these. She's not comfortable with it but she's tolerant and we love each other more than ever. Whenever I have the urge to have an enema / anal toy / feminization session, she just leaves me alone to it.

I do wish she would be willing to get more involved though, but hey, you can't have the best of everything right? I am considered very fortunate to have an absolutely understanding wife, alot of stories that I read about people with weird sexual inclinations like me ultimately end up in dysfunctional relationships.

Last year I told my wife of nearly 14 years that I liked anal play , at first she was fine and I was surprised but when I made the mistake of showing her my toy collection she freaked out which I cant blame her. I think she thought a buttplug was ok but when she saw a cock shaped dildo maybe she thought i was gay or bi which Im not.

I always loved anal games and to put things inside me. I remember my first gf, my first sexual experiences long time ago, where we practiced oral sex. My attention was not only drawn by her pussy but also, and maybe more, by her little asshole. She liked it and I was happy. She didn't play with my asshole, I did it afterwards, when I was alone again, but it was ok.

It's not of wanting to feel gay, that was never my intention. Of course I think about, how many gay-percent I have, but it's not really interesting for me. I have no experience with another man, but I don't think, it's impossible for me, just had no chance to prove it. Perhaps a female-looking shemale with a nice ass would be nice.

What does Gay have to do with liking anal stimulation. If it feels good do It.

As many have already pointed out the fact that you are anally erotic has nothing to do with your sexual preference for female, male sexual partners or both, so being anally erotic does not make you gay!