Mothers wanting to come in to the doc with us girls .

What is it that makes our mothers want to come in to the docs with us girls .

is it so they can make us more embarressed than we are or is it cos they wish to compare there vagina's to their daughters ???

idea's people

Gynoslave,

I am uncertain of what the specific particular motivation or motivations that are involved. I do know for a fact though, that the dynamic is not just limited to the female gender, males have to deal with it also. I remember quite well in late adolescence right around 11, refusing to be seen by the doctor uncovered below the waist with my mother present. It went that way, mother in room...no doctor...period.

G.N.

I think mothers are just naturally curious and protective of their children, regardless of gender. In other words, they want to see your stuff :😃

I am actually facing this issue right now. My daughter is suffering from Menorrhagia (heavy bleeding) and Dysmenorrhea (severe cramping) during her period just like i did when i was a child. i didn't know it wasn't normal until i was 32 years old, but i won't let her go through her life with these problems stopping her from living her life.

Thing is, she is 15 and has never been to the GYN ever, so this will be her first visit. i know she will be scared, and she is a very modest young lady (nothing like me...lol). i am wondering how to handle it since my first experience was horrible and my mother made me go alone. i don't want her to hate me like i hated my mother.

i am going to talk to her about it, but does anyone have any suggestions? Do GYN's have a special way they handle a young lady's first visit if you let them know ahead of time? i'm at a loss here of what to do.

i even considered letting her watch me go through it before she had to do it. She will probably say no, but i don't want her to be afraid of it.

soumise

Its a shame your not here in england . we have fpc . family planning clinics for young girls from the ages of 13 upwards really. im 22 and i dont have to go back for 5 years again now.

but they are really sweet and treat girls with respect and they dont always take the underware off . if its just for the pill they prescibe it and ask them to go back 3 months time and check their breasts but unless your having a coil fitted they dont do anything else. just prescribe what will help the problems .

i think this is where usa takes young girls to the extream and get them in to the gyn chair .

but like you i am ok lets go for it .

but other wose i cant think of anything except say to her what you say goes and ill be there for you .

We have family planning clinics, but that is usually where the poor people go when they have STD's.. at least that is my experience. i would rather let her go to my Dr, cuz i'm really picky and this guy is really nice and has daughters of his own.

i'm trying to avoid the pill as long as possible with her because our family has very bad reactions to birth control. i personally puked every month when i had to start a new pack of pills, and then i gained a LOT of weight. Eventually they started effecting my skin and i have permanently darkened skin on my face around my upper lip and on my cheeks. It's extremely embarrassing, and i have to use sun block all the time to keep the skin light so it doesn't show. To have the skin lasered costs too much money, so i just have to put up with it for now.

i don't want my daughter to be permanently "scarred" like this so if we can avoid the pill and just work with diet and exercise, then that is how we will do it.

soumise

Soumise-

Absolutely take your dear girl to your Gyn. He knows you and he knows your history and there is no reason he shouldn't know your daughter as well. Tell her that if she wants you to be there with her, you will. And if not, that's okay too, you'll be outside waiting for her when she's done. Tell her than anything she tells him is confidential and it doesn't come back to you if you think that will make her more comfortable.

Tell her what she will experience during the exam, but I don't think you have to be so graphic as to take her with you for your next exam. Above all, be supportive. If you can, I'd make it a girl's day out and celebrate the occasion. Take her out someplace nice for lunch, then to her appointment, and maybe some dessert or a good ol' hot fudge sundae on the way home. That's what my daughter and I did and it was wonderful!

Oh yeah, one more thing. When the appointment is made with the Dr's office, by all means, let them know that this is her first appointment. I'm sure she'll get extra-special handling.

Play On!

LadyDoc

I think it is awesome that you have been supportive and want to make it an enjoyable experience and not the dreadful thing that is sounds like it could be. I would have loved to have the option of having a parent in the room during the first full physical. I would have also liked to have been without the jokes afterwards from Dad. Too many parents in our era did not even give their children the option maybe it was what was forced on them and they did not know any other way. I think the openness and giving an option and idea of what to expect is the refreshing element that will make things better for your daughter. I wish you all the best and hope that the Doctor is understanding on this being her first exam.

I think they are just protective

I would never want to embarrass any of my kids. I took my daughter to the doctor, and after talking to her, he said she would have to have an internal.

I naturally got up to leave, but she said that she wanted me to stay, which I did.

I think most mom's are naturally protective, and sometimes nosey, about their daughters health. And, since mom's have gone through the exams they can help prepare their daughters for what can be a difficult and painful experience. I know with my mom it's both professional interest in my physical health and empathy for my emotional health.

I know a guy at work that his wife is present at all of his exams he says his wife takes notes and watches intently as his doctor probes his prostate. He told me a couple of weeks ago his standard navy doctor had a young intern blond girl when he got to the prostate he had her do it. He came in talking about it for a week with a smile on his face. My wife said her mother never let any doctor do a gyn exam on her she was very conservative and when it came to that area her mother didn't want to discuss it. She had to figure it out on her own she said. You should be glad that your mother takes in interest in your health.

Mom stopped coming when I was 14

After I started puberty my mother took me to the doctor but she waited in the waiting room until the exam was over so I could speak with the doctor about any personal concerns and then she spoke to my doctor.

.

@gynoslave said

is it so they can make us more embarressed than we are or is it cos they wish to compare there vagina's to their daughters ???

My parents had seen me naked all my life when I lived with my parents because we had a clothes optional house at least in the morning and we didn't pay attention to closing doors when getting dressed or if we were in the bathroom.

I sincerely doubt mothers wanted to come into the exam room "to see or compare our vaginas."

Hadn't come across this thread, why the fuck would my parents take me to the dr so they could compare my vagina?

My mom has no sexual interest in me so I don't have modesty issue with them seeing me, could literally ask and although odd I wouldn't be bothered.

Parents took me to monitor my health and ensure I asked the Dr what I needed to etc.

I could talk openly at home about sex but I think it's good older girls go in the room alone to ensure they can talk openly.

I think it is mainly that they are genuinely concerned with our health, and maybe some might be protective as well. But I don't see mom's doing it just to embarrass us or to compare vaginas or check out their daughter.

My mom was in the exam room when I was younger, and maybe a bit longer than I would have liked her in there, but I understood why she did come in. At 14 I started going in by myself. I would talk with the doctor then my physical exam would be done. After the exam the doctor would talk to my mom and discuss any issues or let her know all was fine and healthy.

It's not just girls that moms go to their physical exams.

My mom has always come in with me for mine and that is true with most of my friends.

Moms are just interested in our health and I know my mom likes to talk to the doctor while he's examining me.