Does your libido diminish the older you get?
Oddly enough one of my biggest fears is that Doc would loose his sex drive. He is about your age tootall. I read this thread as often as it pops up for the simple reason of that it is a fear of mine. There is a slighty greater than a ten year diffrence between Doc and I so I try to read and get information from others as to what I might expect.
Our relationship is NOT based on sex by any means, and even if Doc could never get a woody again that would never change my feelings or love for him. You always hear of these little old men in nursing homes or wherever trying to cop a feel or constantly jerking off, or what have you, so I just always assumed that men were always horny no matter what their age. After all, Tony Randal fathered a kid when he was like 82 or something like that. Needless to say, I was utterly shocked when I first opened this thread and read that some men have a decrease in their libido, truely shocked!
As far as precum in concerned, well Doc is very drippy, which I absolutely love and is a huge turn on for me, not to mention it's quite deliicious, lol. We have been together five and a half years now and I have not noticed any change as far as that is concerned either.
I don't know what is normal and what is not as far as this stuff goes. I know that as a general rule men hit their sexual peaks starting at about 18 and women usually in their mid to late 30's. I was no exception to that either. After a 13 year drought and at the age of 37 I came out of it very very thirsty, lol. I met Doc when I was 38, he gave me my first drink and well, I can't seem to get enough to drink, I always am starving of thirst and can never ever seem to get enough of him.
I hope I never stop being this horny and I hope he doesn't either. It's fantastic to be horny all the time, not so fantastic though when I can't see him to do something about it I have to admit.
Yea at age 53 things have changed. one thing i have noticed that bothers me is the decrease in precum. I can mess with myself for a while and no drios, makes me sad. Alwayes like to taste it
I totally agree with Nutcase. My libido hasn't diminished since menopause but there certainly have been other physical symptoms like dryness and a tendency to develop UTI. My urologist recommended a vaginal estrogen cream and my gynecologist heartily endorsed the idea. I had the choice between Premarin and Estrace. I chose Estrace on ethical grounds and because it's bio identical. I've been using it for about a year and the difference is quite startling. Talk to your doc, Nana.
Nana, see your gyn about getting one of the vaginal estrogen creams available. Wife is on the back side of menopause and was experiencing symptoms similar to what you describe. She has used Premarin and Estrace-both work quite well. She is no longer dry and enjoys sexual activities again. Two suggestions: let your partner insert the cream and don't be afraid to use additional lube.
i have to say my libido has not diminished with age, i have just reached sixty. i still get strong erections all the time, i still leak a huge amount of precum, but i will say that my ejaculation is maybe down a little.
I am going thru menopause and have noticed a drop in my libido-seems as if getting to sleep is more impotant than sex and I am having trouble with natural lubrication as it is dry and hurts now trying to have intercourse.We have lube but I keep trying not to use it hoping each time it's not needed and then it is. :-(( I didn't think it would affect me but it has.
the biggest sex organ that a man has is not between his legs ... but between his ears. Brilliant ! that put a smile on my face because I know it's true. I'm in my 50's and don't have a problem with erections ... yet, I hope it don't change as I get older.
My libido has not decreased with age. I still have virtually the same sex urges as when I was younger. However, the physical capabilities have diminished considerably. The line from Little Feet's "Old Folks Boogey" says it all: "Your mind makes a promise that your body can't keep". Fortunately, there is medication that circumvents-but not overcomes-the aging process and allows physical pleasures to continue.
My sex drive is through the roof !! Ever since I hit my 30s ( and divorced my ex husband before that), I have had multiple Orgasms and amazing
Lovers/Boyfriends/Doms. I am in my late 40s, and my last Dom/Lover was 53. He did NOT need any "pills", btw, and we could go all night with
various breaks and um..fun activities, hehe. I have had Orgasms that have lasted 10-15 minutes with the right man. It's not a myth, it's true!!
(I was in a very unhappy unhealthy marriage when I was much younger, and the sex was good at first, but he was a selfish lover, unfaithful, and remains
an alcoholic to this day. He went to rehab for the 15th time, according to my grown children. I can guarantee that his sex life must be terrible due to
excessive alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes.) I am open minded, healthy, happy, confident, and comfortble in my own skin. I masturbate every day, sometimes more. The more sex I have, the more I want. I should say, the more kinky sex I have, the more I want. I don't have any sort of type of man in mind, and I have been known to be a Cougar and date younger men, or men closer to my own age, or just a bit older. The key is to find the right partner that you share intense chemistry with, trust and respect, and have a playful friendship with. Then, the sky is the limit as far as being sexually adventurous and trying new things without felling guilty about various fetishes and kinks. I try to switch at times, and adore and cherish my Lover, and cater to his needs and fetishes, just as he cherishes me and wishes to please me just as much. I do draw the line at scat, severe pain, anything creepy or illegal, etc.
And the key to amazing sex? HOT passionate kissing and just enjoying and pleasing each other. Slow down and get completely lost in your partner!!!
*swoon* ;-) I will say that just because a man cannot have an erection does NOT mean he can't use his hands, mouth, and toys to make his woman feel great !! Be creative and don't put so much pressure on performance!! There is nothing wrong with a man wearing a strap on to please his wife, btw. Just food for thought.
Libido at 93,you can look forward to no erection or orgasm. Up to now it was fun all the time, with women and the enema bag. The good part it still feels good down there, just seeing a full red enema bag and taking all slowly the the most pleasure and little pain. If your like me thats what you can look forward to.
it does if you have a lot of stress in your life, say what you want but sex is good for your health, its one of our primary functions, if we werent meant to have sex a lot, it wouldnt feel so damn good xD so if you have so much stress that sex is waaay down on your priority list, your libido will decrease with time.
It was like she was describing my life almost word for word... My husband and I started going through this about 4 years into our marriage though, and it's been this way for the last 5 years. Sometimes it's really difficult to find a reason to stay married because we live more like roommates than like husband and wife.
He has been to the doctor, had the blood test, and they gave him a low dose test cream. Then they doubled the Rx Cream.... Then they tripled the Rx cream and none of it helped, but they completely refused to offer him the shots. He is only 36 right now. This started when he was around 28, and lost complete ability to have sex since he was 34. It's very frustrating to live this way and it damages one's self esteem on both sides of the marriage.
No. it's getting better. and it takes longer to get an orgasm. I like that!
I got married 4 days after my 60th birthday, and my wife still makes me feel like a teenager! :-)
Not with me. I am approaching 50 and I find that I require more sex now than when I was in my twenties. Being older, and wiser, I find that I am enjoying it more now.
I think that all of us have some decine in hormone production as we age, but any sudden loss of libido may signify a drastic drop in testosterone and certainly is worth having it checked by a physician. On the other hand, people who remain physically active as they age should, with proper diets, maintain a healthy libido. There are a number of foods and over-the-counter remedies that counter some loss of libido, but there are a number of serious diseases that can also trigger the loss of libido and merit a thorough check-up by a physician.
It's also wise, as was noted below, to understand the effects of medications on libido.
I think its a combination of age and meds. Im like you Sgt_Pear_Bottom.
Here is a good article from Columbia University's website:
A poster above noted L-Arginine as a good stimulant for increasing blood flow, not very expensive, maybe $14.00 for 100 capsules? Take 2-3 a day or every other day or so. Be picky about the brand, "Country Life" seems to work for me. Available at most health food stores or health supplement sections of grocery stores.
Tobacco use of any kind restricts blood flow as probably already noted in this thread and elsewhere in zity
lol, nope, increasing definitely - significantly - almost scary how much so, lol...
Your drive for it is generally decreased by how much you want it through time and not necessarily affected by age. Though that is the more common thinking and one that is probably considered by more people to actually hold true. It is just defined by how much you want and how much your drive for it in consideration to what you think about it and how stress holds up to the whole idea.
No - it just takes me longer to get going!
I no longer get spontaneous boners that won't go away. Now I have to work to get a boner.
To be honest I think my sexuality has changed as I've gotten older.
My libido definitely goes more in cycles now.
fortunatelly not yet :-)
Almost 50 and no chance...Libido is just as strong as ever
Charlotte, It's often been said that men hit their sexual peak at 18 or so, and women hit theirs about 35 or so. Sexually speaking, it would make sense for a 35 year old woman to date an 18 year old guy.
I did without for almost 13 years, did't miss it, didn't want it, didn't interest me in the slightest. I turned 37, and I am not sure what got in me, but suddenly this Virgin Amish Nun no longer wanted to be Amish, a nun, or a virgin. If you get my drift, lol.
In my late 30s I am more horny than I've ever been - if anything it is increasing with age - a good thing - I think! Perhaps, it is getting a bit out of hand - I want it way too much now, lol.
I am 73 and diffinately yes.
With me, my libido is as strong or stronger than when I was young. The more I use it, either to stroke, or ejaculate, the stronger my libido is. In fact, I am horny all the time and I am in my 70's. The enema fetish has gone a long ways to keep my libido at a high level. I used to ejaculate every day but I do find that as I got older it was, and is, harder to ejaculate.
I strongly believe in the credo "If you don't use it, you lose it." In this busy world, with usually both husband and wife working, there is a tendency to use the excuse "We don't have time" or "The children are always around" or "We, or I are just too tired all the time." The lack of sex, I believe, contributes to a manufactured lower libido rather than real older age related. My young age wham--bam sex is over and my much more enjoyable sex is now in my 70's. Believe it or not, you young people!!!
For the girls, and just heard about this. Don't know effectiveness...(don't need it yet, but maybe when I'm 80...)
Interesting news story on it the other nite here locally.
And btw: I agree with all the guys who say that the hormone decrease has led to more consideration, longer times before ejaculation, and that it makes a guy a better lover. I certainly am.
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