Does libido decrease with age?

NO! I think much of it is how you look at life... you have to stay young mentally and part of that is learning.... and experiencing.... are there physical things that change as you age? Of course! Those changes, however, don't have to keep you from being active in and out of the bedroom, so to speak. 😃

My libido decreases based on the amount of stress I am currently under, or how depressed I am. Some days, especially when I am on here, I am horny as all get out, but others I can get a woody no matter what I look at or do, because I am so depressed or stressed out. My age does not have anything to do with it. I am raring to go when I am not so stressed out and down.

No question mine has decreased but it's hard for me to say why. I think it's a combination of factors though age plays a role.

My wife and I couldn't keep our hands off each other during our first few years of marriage. I worked a short distance from home and frequently came home for lunch. When I worked further from home my wife would drive our van with dark windows to a mall near my job and we would meet in the parking lot during my lunch break. This would happen every couple weeks or so.Well in to our 50s we were swinging almost every weekend and having sex with each other almost daily. A couple deaths, a couple moves to different states and other circumstances, including age, broke up our regular swinging group and even though we don't have sex with them anymore we still remain close friends with a few couples.

My wife and I began having a few health issues after we reached 60 and it put a real damper on our sex life. The biggest change for me was due to prostate cancer. The radiation took care of my ability to get an erection and ejaculate. For a year and a half after the radiation I was on Lupron and had absolutely no libido so I didn't really care. I finally refused to take any more Lupron and my libido gradually returned, though not to nearly what it was when I was younger. At least now I can once again experience a strong, enjoyable orgasm even though I don't ejaculate or get hard, it just takes a little imagination to get there. I still enjoy anal, oral and manual stimulation as well as e-stim. Once or twice a week keeps the edge off now. My wife will still do me orally or manualy if I ask and will help me hook up my e-stim electrodes.

As for my wife, she seems to not want sex anymore although if I initiate it she doesn't refuse it and seems to enjoy it. She was always highly orgasmic and still has orgasms. This happens about once a month now.

So in a nutshell, yes, age and health issues have definately caused a decline in libido.

And as a footnote, stay away from Lupron if you can-- nasty stuff.

I'm 58, as when I first became aware of what arousal meant/was, I am still that way today. My libido, like all others, is affected by my emotional and physical state at one time or another. If my mind or body or both is/are not right, then my libido is going to be diminished. If my mind or body or both is/are right, then my libido is going to be right up there as it was when.

G.N.

Mine has.

I am over 60 and mine has increased.

I take some medications for blood pressure and cholesterol and it still increases.

I am thinking it is because I am not so busy with work and the pressures one has at an early/middle age.

I have more free time and sex is on my mind more than ever before. I do not find that there is anything I cannot do sexually now that I could do when I was younger.

In fact I find myself trying things I would never have tried before. . . and always horny.

Life is good.

Rodger

It hasn't with me,I am in the over sixty group. I think about sex as much as ever if not more. Alas the equipment doesn't work as well due to BP meds. etc.

Excuse the expression but at 40 I cared about two things called them the two Fs Feed me and F.... me not always in the order but at 50 now I don't really care if I even get fed lol So for me yes, it sure has

I cannot comment for men but for a woman it definatly does. Half of it is to do with knowing what you like and being more experienced i think!

Not me but some of my male friends older and younger than me say they aren't interested and complain about how there ladies are always horny. I don't understand what it is. I'm always checking out the butts and they think I'm crazy. I don't have a partner right now but with my last girlfriend we were moving the bed. We were having sex at least 5 times a week. One night we did it 9 times. I think its all in the mind.

Everyone is different, but in general, hormones decrease as we age and reproduction is not a primary function or issue. I met a Dr. promoting bio-identical hormone therapy before I started feeling any effects of declining libido due to age. My mainstream gyno thinks it's crap, but I definitely feel the difference. And it's all good.

I have heard good things about bio-identical Hey Lady's its worth a try right?

maybe314

My new fiancee keeps my libido WAY up, and I'll be 59 this week!

I think the age factor plays a part, along side the physical, I know that when my bad knee aches and I'm tired and not feeling too sexy, I feel my age more and my labido less!

Doesn't help that my husband at 46 has near enough given up wanting anything sexual these days, and I do wonder if it's age, or does he just not fancy me anymore?

That in itself makes me feel worse, then the labido takes a dive, and I guess it's a self forfilling prophecy.. The more he rejects me, the less I care.. Until we no longer make the effort.

It's a huge shame, as I am an extremely sexual person, and have had to have extra marital affairs to relieve my need for sexual attention, the need just to be touched, needed and wanted in that way is still there.

It does make me sad that after 28 years together he can ignore that side of our relationship. Believe me I have tried discussing it. He just seems to have turned his sexual side off.

The rest of our marriage is fine, and we are happy, but it does feel like I am living with my brother at times!

Beth,

May I ask how long this has been going on? I have found that my husband and I kind of go in spurts. It may also be low T (a male hormone) Has he seen a Doc at all? I know at times I feel very inadequate. I feel for you and hope it improves.

maybe314

Beth, there are a lot of things that can be going on that could cause your husband to lose interest. First, have either or both of you gained a bit of weight? Has he had his testosterone level checked? Might he be diabetic? Have job pressures changed? Medications that affect desire and ability are so many as to be almost limitless. Any of the anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications can have a chilling affect on the libido. And the old standby of mental issues can be checked too.

I doubt there is another person in the equation, usually if that is the case, he would still be very "friendly", perhaps not as often, but still "friendly".

My prescription to see what is going on is a bit devious, but can have interesting results. Is there a sex act he has always wanted to try that you have been reluctant to do? Be aggressive, cuddle up to him, try to seduce him and then whisper in his ear, honey, do you want to_______________ (fill in blank). If he does not respond positively, then he needs to talk honestly, first with you and then with family doctor.

Good luck, and work on dealing with this - it is an issue that both of you must confront.

Speed

Excellent advice Speedvogel!!

Yes and the older you get the more knowledge you have. Now you can enjoy the variety instead of passing on some because of apprehension.

Beth - Is he quite the ALPHA type and very successful?

Many of the men that I see are tired of always being the decision maker and searching for power exchange/objectification. I don't have sex with them but they see Me for enemas/bondage/crossdressing because it puts them in a humbling position and takes them to a time when they didn't have to worry about being in control. They know I will take care of everything.

Maybe a little surprise Femdom is in order to spice up the psychology in the intimacy. You can start with a surprise hand job. When he comes home tell him (don't ask-TELL) You want a few minutes of his time and for him to follow You to the bedroom, get naked and lay on the bed. YOU STAY FULLY CLOTHED, watch him as he undresses and masturbate him until he cums. Then say "I just wanted to see if you still can. Now get cleaned up." and walk away with a smile on your face. It's not "Off-the-wall" wild but it is not likely what he's expecting and you'll be pleased with how you enjoy THE CONTROL YOU HAVE over the situation.

If You want more detail. Instruct him piece by piece as he takes his clothes off. For example - - "Stand over there. Take your shirt off, fold it neatly and lay it on the chair. Now your shoes, neatly beside the chair" - - and so on. TELL him - "Sit on the edge of the bed and lay back. Spread your knees exactly 1 foot apart" - - You get the idea.

Completely adopt the idea that he is nothing but an object for Your pleasure and use him as such.

Even if it doesn't suit You in the long run You'll know You tried and to move on something else the may inspire You.

If you decide you do enjoy it there are many sites dedicated to Femdom.

Wow! There is a lot to think about as a result of the posts on this thread. And a lot of good information. So... I'm putting my situation out there. I love sex, but several years ago lost the ability to maintain an erection. It's difficult to be interested if you can't do anything about it. My wife, who deserves sainthood, was very understanding. She said that she loves me no matter what and if we can't have sex, so be it. We cuddle a lot. About a year ago my physician had a blood test done that showed that my testosterone level was almost nonexistent. I started T injections as well as 5 mg daily cialis. After finding the right T dosage the level became normal. About a month after that everything changed. My wife said I turned into a horn dog - along with Who are you and what have you done with my husband? It was great fun for about a month. Then as quickly as it turned on, it turned off. We are now back to square one and baffled as to what could have happened. I am not diabetic and have no stress. I do take cholesterol medication and will start taking medication for high blood pressure. That's my story and I am sticking to it.

I always look at blood pressure meds a possible culprit in situations with sudden onset of ED. I am not a fan of the cholesterol meds at all. The whole family of statins can have crippling side effects which virtually all doctors ignore because they have been indoctrinated by the manufacturers to believe they do not cause total non function of the legs and other joints. They do. There have never been any tests nor any research done independently of the drug companies on the efficacy or the side effects of the statins. I am convinced that 50 years from now, they will be looked on as a total fiasco which made a whole generation into invalids. As a consequence of lack of real testing of these drugs, we do not know if they have any sexual side-effects.

I take flush-free niacin and have lowered my levels each time it is checked. The only side effect is a degree of flushing, but I sweat like a hog anyway.

Now as I step down from my soapbox, let us return to the topic at hand. I do not like Cialis at all. I found that it is the least effective of the three common ED drugs. Both Levitra and Viagra work for me. Currently, I am using some generic 100 mg. Viagra from India. These work very well, thank you;.

If all else fails, you may need to try an injectable drug like alprostadil. They work. Tri-mix which must be compounded for each patient, will raise an erection on a corpse.

Speed

Interesting, Speedvogel. I am in total agreement with you on the statins issue. However, my physician insists that there are many studies that prove their effectiveness even though I have never been shown one. I tried Viagra. It did nothing but dilate my eyes. It was like being in headlights. Levrtia had no effect at all. Next time I see the urologist I will inquire about alprostadil. Thanks

One of the first signs of clogged arteries is the inability to get or maintain an erection. since I've been taking blood pressure med,I've noticed an added decrease in response. I've discovered that L-ARGININE helps INCREASE blood flow, and I'm checking out Chelation therapy to unclog my arteries.............

Manybags

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Enjoy

maybe314

Not mine! I'm 69 but feel like I'm in my 40's.

I haven't read all the posts on this, but SSRI's (anti-depressants) can make it impossible for you to come. And they're almost impossible to get off of. If your doctor Rx's an antidepressant, just take up running. Or get some oxytocin (not oxycodone) as a nasal spray.

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Not mine! I'm 69 but feel like I'm in my 40's.

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Karma for you, and welcome!

Nope..... still going strong.... If you have tried one vagina.... Ya want to try them all....

Repunzel

I took SSRi's and they can cause a lot more problem than that, of course that is a big one. For me I was unable to sleep at all I don't know what is in them that caused that effect but had to fight the Doctor to let me off them. He even went so far to tell me to open the capsul and pour half of it out Now that seemed like very bad advise to me How on earth do you know what dosage your getting then?

Instead I quit taking them and found another Doctor Probably the best thing I could have done.

Good advise Repunzel

PS I think SSNRi's have the same effect but could be wrong.

It does, though it very well may remain high. There are also a lot of other factors which affect libido which seem to come with age, such as pressure, various meds, etc.

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