Doc and I have experienced this sub space one time each I believe. Because Doc and I only see each other every 3 months or so, we have to compact everything we do into that one week, which means all the sex, love making, talking face to face, cuddling, discussions on things we don't agree on and whatever. Because of this, and because we are believers in domestic discipline, we do actually spank each other for real issues. However because we are into domestic discipline and are spanking accordingly, there may be feelings hurt or ruffled during the spanking, but after we both, whether giving or getting, is able to be completely done with it. We are both relieved emotionally, feel more loved, and can be done with that particular issue.
It was during one of these domestic discipline sessions, that we entered into sub space. It happened to him first. I had him tied up in 4 point restraints, and I was spanking him, hard but not beating him or anything. Suddenly he was pulling at his restraints and getting pretty vocal. Finally he told me to stop, which is the first and only time I have ever heard him say stop. I stopped. He was sort of getting a little harsh as I was undoing his restraints. And again, he never does that. As I was undoing his last restraint he did a 180 and told me to tie him back up and to keep going. I followed his lead and did as he requested. I continued. 5 seconds later after I had started spanking him again he started sobbing and crying. I continued for another minute or so and then finished. I released him and then cradled him in my arms. Once he settled down, he explained to me what and where his mind was at, even though to this day I don't think either of us fully understand. In the end, the reason for his spanking was dealt with and done with. He also was able to deal with a few things from his past that he hadn't been able to face, and now those are done and in the past too. It was a fantastic healing session for him, and we talk about that session a lot, he is so thankful I was able to take him there.
For me it happened maybe a year later, again, we were doing the domestic discipline thing, but I was on the receiving end. He doesn't restrain me, so I was in knee/chest position. About a minute into it I suddenly found myself crying as well. And I seem to remember right before I started crying I to was being a bit mouthy/resentful. He continued to spank me and lecture me even though I was crying. I wasn't pulling away, and I never said stop. The thought simply didn't cross my mind. Some how deep down I knew I needed it, I somehow wanted it. When he was done we laid together and cuddled each other. I seem to remember getting very cold suddenly too for some reason or another which I also don't understand. Medical common sense would tell me it's because I was coming down off of a mental and physical rush. I was also very tired. We both felt so much closer to each other when this happened to us. I mean we couldn't be any closer I don't think, but just put us on an even higher level than before.
I too want to be taken back to sub space and he does too. It is a very special time, and somewhat out of this world. I am glad it doesn't happen all the time, but do wish it would happen again. I'm guessing it's not something that you can just make happen. I think everything has to be "right" for it to happen. I don't know?