"Lets face it, U know if ur girl is going to give it to you or not right at the begining of your realationship, If u don't, U don't have very good communication skills.. "
Really? Do the ladies in Australia wear a placard on their first date that says "I like anal, fuck me now"? I'm the first girl to encourage direct communication, but that's a little over the top. For me at least, that time of exploration and "getting to know you" at the start of a relationship is like one gigantic session of foreplay, with most of your clothes on.
I think I can speak for many women in the US when I say that we would prefer the kindler, gentler approach. I recently entered a physical relationship with a man I've known for two years, but not "that way". We've talked openly and honestly about our likes and dislikes, especially where kink is concerned. He asked me if I was anal erotic and we talked bout that for a while, then he asked me if I had ever indulged in anal penetration. I was honest and said yes but only a few times. One was very pleasant, the other not so much. He asked if I was game to try it again, some day. I said I would like to, as long as he would allow me to return the favor with some strap on play. That perked him up considerable, so he's not kidding when he says he's anal erotic as well.
We figure we have lots of time, we're both in our fifties so there are no small children to interrupt us. I envision many a long, lazy afternoon in the naughty room, doing pretty much anything we please.