Your age the last time a parent was with you for an exam

Zone9, he said there were many more mothers than fathers, though both accompanied some kids. All or most of the faculty was there -- both males and females.

@sprinterboi

A friend of mine from college...each of the boys was required to wear just a towel, which was removed and replaced as necessary during the exam. Each of the boys' temperature was taken rectally...

Your friend had a very hot experience. The only part that I find a little bit hard to believe is the rectal temp. Based on my own experiences and those from other people, everything else that your friend related sounds true.

My adventures continue.....

Growing up I had a Mom that was very dominating...in our household it was Mom and younger sister...our older sister was old enough to move out on her own. It was common in my household to walk around in our undies. My Mom would wear a nightgown around the house and my younger sister would wear just her panties. I would normally wear shorts with or without a t-shirt but since I reach puberty, I was to wear only my tighty white brief undies growing up.

After my parents divorce, we lived in a 3/2 apartment. My mom had her bedroom, I had the 2nd and my younger sister the 3rd along with 2 bathrooms. I would share the bathroom with my younger sis.

Most of the time, my mom would see me nude at the doctors office...at the time I reached puberty...she would inspect me once a week as suggested by the doctor. Normally this would happen on either Saturday or Sunday mornings. I would be sleeping in my undies...she would open the door and sit next to me on the bed. I was either half asleep or just getting up. I would always have the morning wood. She would sit down and remove the blanket...and I would have a hard-on. I would tell her that I have to pee and after a while she would ask if I need to pee..which I did. I would go to the bathroom...pee and then returning I would stand in front of her and she would lower my undies and feel my penis for a few moments and then leave, I would be close to cuming but standing made me not cum. If I didn't have to pee, she would just remove my undies and feel around my penis and dick and that would make me cum. She would take the base of my penis..hold it and then just rub the frenum for a while and then I would cum. She would be upset that I came too fast and threaten that she would take me back to the doctors for the electro treatment. This went on for a few weeks.

Weeks later went by and when I came back from school, I heard her making an appointment with the doctor. I wasn't sure if it was for me or my sister. My sister went to the same doctor and she was reaching 11 years old. The time came and the appointment was for my sister and I stayed home doing homework from school. My sister came back and she went right to her room...I knew something was up and I asked my Mom what was wrong and she told me that my sister is going through puberty and the doctor examined her very thoroughly...at this point I confronted my Mom about this and she told me that this is what doctors do and that she trusted him and he was an excellent doctor and that he took his time and gave us a thorough exam and that she as a Mother has a right to know about our bodies and what is developing. I didn't care for her answer but what was I going to do at 13 year old. I didn't think it was right.

Weeks later went by and my Mom would continue to inspect and her frustrations grew as I would cum very fast. I wasn't sure if she inspected my sister but I don't think my Mom did anything to her...it seems she was more worried about me.

She was so frustrated she would take me to the doctors for the electro treatment and continued to inspect for for many years.

To be continued...

Inspection at home!

My Sister and I were at the point that when we got home from school, we would both undress just wearing our t-shirt and undies. It was very common for my Sister to wear a t-shirt since she was going through puberty and developing breast along with her panties.

For me the t-shirt was optional, but I had to wear my white brief undies. I think this gave my Mother the opportunity to keep an eye on my growth and to control me in some crazy way.

When we got home and got comfortable in our undies, we had to do our homework if any. We lived in a very rural area so our friends would be far away, we only got to hang out with friends during the weekends. One day when we got home, my sis and I were talking about mom's obsession with the doctor and I asked my sis if our mother examines her. She said no, only that one time in the doctors office. I told my sister about my exams and how our mother does these inspections on me on the weekends. My sister was very surprised that this was happening and she didn't understand why our mother didn't inspect her. I told my sister to watch mom come into my room on either Saturday or Sunday morning when I'm sleeping. She doesn't lock the door so wait a few moments and then open the door and you can see but try not to get caught.

At that point, my Mom came home and we just talked and hung out as my Mom was preparing dinner and asking us about our day at school and our evening was normal.

Saturday came and as usual my Mom enters my room, I was sleeping and she woke me up by rubbing my chest. She asked if I had to pee and I said no, she removed my blanket and started feeling my bulge through my undies. On this day she rub my bulge very slow. She told me to relax. My dick was throbbing and wanted to tear through the fabric of my underwear. At that moment, I see my sister opening the door slightly. My Mom turns around and see's my sister run away. My mom gets up and I heard her talking to my sister and telling her that she needs to knock...my sister started to cry and asked why she is playing with my penis and she told my sister that the doctor wants me to inspect him and that I have a problem with premature ejaculation. I heard my sister sobbing and I don't think she knew what that meant. My dick got soft as I just laid there not knowing what to do, right at that moment, my Mom brings my sister into my room and has her sit on the opposite side of the bed. My mother tells my sister that I have a problem and as she is telling her, she holds onto the base of my dick and she points out to my sister that I have what they call an over-active frenulum. This was very foreign to my sister and she had no idea what my Mother was talking about.

My mother then gave my sister "dick education 101". While holding the base she explains to my sister that all men have penises, or dicks or also known as cocks. She continues to explain that the mans penis is very sensitive. He's sensitive on the balls, each ball is called a testicle. A testicle is what is responsible for producing sperm that makes babies. My sister was really getting into it and understanding more on how the male penis works. My mom keeps explaining to her that once the male produces the sperm it comes out from this part of the penis known as the glans penis. This slit on top of your brothers glan is were piss comes out and also sperm. She told my sister that sperm is also called "cum". Cum, my mother tells her, is a white creamy pearly substance that smells like Clorox type smell. My sister asks if I can make cum and my mom replied yes, once a boy turns 13 and older, he produces cum. How does the cum come out? my sister asks. My mom replied, right underneath the glans penis is a lot of sensitive nerve endings, that sensitive nerve endings makes the penis hard. Blood is rushed into the shaft of the penis and the penis grows and gets very hard. As you can see, she points out, your brothers dick is very hard. As you rub it or stroke it, after a while, the cum will start jetting out.

My sister was so amazed! My dick was throbbing super hard and twitching in my mothers warm hand. My sister asked my mom, so what is wrong with my penis. She then pointed out that right underneath the glans penis is my frenulum. At the moment its very sensitive and if I touch it or rub it, it will drive your brother to go crazy. Really?? My sister said. Yes! However, in your brothers case if you rub it too much, he cums to fast. My mom holding my base of my cock with her hand, instructs my sister to take her finger and rub it gently on my frenulum. My sister slowly and nervously takes her index finger and rubs it oh so gently...I thrusted my hips and my sister took away her finger really fast thinking it was hurting me. No! my mom stated, it doesn't hurt it feels really good to him. My mom turned to me and said doesn't it feel good, and in my heavy breathing I said yes. Pre-cum was leaking out of my dick and my sister noticed and asked if that was cum. No, mom said, that is pre-cum and that is used as a lube and it signals the guy is ready to cum soon. Rub the pre-cum from his dick and feel how lubby it is. My sister once again takes her finger and rubs the pre-cum lubbing my dick head. Good my mother told my sister...now rub some of the pre-cum onto his frenulum...as she was rubbing my dick it was super hard and throbbing. My sister turned to my mom and ask if she was doing it right...and my mom said yes..keep doing it honey...your doing great, your brother is going to cum soon.

Looking up at my ceiling, I couldn't take it anymore the teasing was driving me nuts as I was moaning and groaning. I begged my sister to rub harder as I was feeling my orgasm ready to explode...my mom told her to remove her hands...and I was on the edge ready to blow, she told my sister to quickly get a jar and some ice cubes from the freezer. As my sister was a way...my mom was pinching the base of my cock and it kind of hurt. My sister returns with the ice cubs in the jar...and my mom takes out one ice cub and rubs it on my throbbing cock. The sting of the ice was making my cock feel numb, she removed the ice cube and told my sister to take her finger and feel the frenulum again. I didn't feel anything. The numbness went away and I started feeling it again and my dick became super hard and she told my sister to lightly rub my frenulum. My sisters finger was small and she did it so light, it was driving me crazy...I wanted to cum so bad. My mom said that its either this or back at the doctors for the electro. My dick was so throbbing and my pre-cum was leaking really bad. It felt as if my mom and sister were teasing me for hours. I finally broke down and pleaded with them to please make me cum, I never felt this type of teasing on my cock before. My mom didn't listen to me as she took the other ice cube and placed it on my dick...at this point my bed was wet, I was breathing heavy and my mom was pinching the base of my cock, not letting me cum. My cum was being built up. She kept on teasing me. Finally she took out some KY jelly from her housecoat pocket and told my sister to open her hand, she placed the KY onto my sisters hand and she told my sister to wrap her hand tightly around my cock. My mom then felt my balls and kept a firm grip on the base as my sisters hand was jacking my dick up and down. I shouted and scream and arched my back. My mom told my sister not to stop that I'm ready to make cum.

My sisters was jerking my dick as my cock exploded with cum spurting out. This was the first time I actually shot a load like that. My cock expanded and the first cum shot flew out of my dick head with 3 more to follow. The first cum shot hit the backboard of my bed, the second hit my neck and the 3rd shot hit my upper chest and the rest of the cum just spurted out onto my lower stomach. My sister continue to stroke as it was super sensitive now as the last drops of cum oozed from the piss hole. My sister hand was covered in cum and she was grossed out, telling my mom she washing her hands and my mom just getting up from the bed, looking at me and remarking that I have a doctors appointment for electro on Tuesday after school and the nurse told me that you can't jerk off or cum from now until Tuesday.

To be continued.....

Great post, mboyd. Sounds like you were very well taken care of. Can't wait for more.

My mother came into the exam room until I was about 15? As a matter of fact this was a small town doctor and a friend of my mom's and both my older sister and I would get our exam at the same time until I was about 12. Around this time we both hit puberty and I had a semi erection during the exam and the doctor said that we should come at different time in the future. But mom was always there as I had a problem with one of my testicles and she was always talking to the doctor about it and they would both be looking at it. From when I was 11-13, she would point out the different stages of development I was going thru as well as my sister. Once I got older it was all about my testicle not dropping.Once I was 15 I had quite a bit of pubic hair and my penis was a decent size and I guess my mother decided she no longer needed to be there.

When I was young,my mother was always in a chair next to the exam table. She would be talking with the doctor as he asked questions. It was sometimes embarrassing when she talked about my bowel movements and what my rectal temperature was when she took it that morning.Often this was at the same time his nurse had me on my stomach with a thermometer planted up my rectum.Those were the days!

Back in the 60's, 70's and early 80's doctors were a lot thorough when giving an exam. Are Mother's allowed in the exam rooms with there child anymore??

I am 58 now, I grew up with much of what many have described, and hated every instance it happened from age 7 - 8 until my early teens. When I was 13 going on 14, we moved to another city, I was going to start a new school in the fall and it required a thorough physical for admission, the appointment was made, I was driven to the Dr's,registered, sat in the waiting room, all accompanied by my mother. When my name was called and I rose and proceeded down the hall to the exam room, my mother rose too and proceeded to follow, I did not see it until she started to follow me into the room. I stopped, turned and said no, she and the Dr started to argue, I walked out of the room saying "no privacy... no exam...I am leaving". I was in the lobby halfway through the door when a nurse caught up with me and told me that they would keep my parents out from that point on, I was so relieved !

G.N.

When I had my last full exam at familly doctor, my mum was in gabinet, but when doctor do genital exam, my mum turn back her head...

Up until the age of five it was always Mom. I hated going to the doctor and would always pitch a real fit.

At five my father told Mom that he would take care of the next visit. He made an appointment for the two of us to be examined at the same time. He carefully explained to me that I was going to see a man's doctor (general practitioner not a pediatrician) and I was a big boy now and would have to conduct myself as a man.

Boy did my Dad know all the right buttons to push. Nothing was more important to me than my afthers respect. When we were called he went into the examination room with me. Once there we were told to undress to our shorts and socks. BOTH OF US.

I found out later Dad had made arrangements for us both to get examined at the same time in the same room. The doctor was an older man who understood that I was terrified of shots.He explained the importance of getting a regular check up and told me he would do each procedure on Dad first and the me. And if I had any questions I was to ask him.

Eyes ,ears, throat, heart and lungs all were checked. Then he told us to stand and drop them. With no hesitation Dad stood and drooped his shorts and I wanting to be a man reluctantly did the same. We were both examined for hernia and I was checked to be sure I was developing correctly. Dad was checked for testicular cancer and we were both given a clean bill of health.

As we dressed Dad told me how proud he was of me and this was how real men conducted themselves at the doctor's office. We had a long talk on the way home about some of the things that were done especially the genital check but my Dad patiently answered all my questions and really put me at ease.

We did this once a year until I was Eight and Dad was killed on the job. Then It was back to Mom.

@jhenson16

We did this once a year until I was Eight and Dad was killed on the job. Then It was back to Mom.

That's very sad. He sounds like a great dad.

@gentlenozzle

I did not see it until she started to follow me into the room. I stopped, turned and said no, she and the Dr started to argue, I walked out of the room saying "no privacy... no exam...I am leaving". I was in the lobby halfway through the door when a nurse caught up with me and told me that they would keep my parents out from that point on, I was so relieved !

That was a good nurse! My (then undiagnosed) medical problems got a lot worse because my mother insisted on being in the room and taking control, even when I was a teenager in puberty. The fact that my mother--a woman who had not seen me nude in years--was allowed, even invited into the exam room when I was 13-14 years old was more than I could bear.

Between that, and the fact that I was expected to walk past the open door to the waiting room in my underwear to be weighed was the final straw, and I refused to go to the doctor again.

My mother would have had to physically drag me, and I had plans to literally run away if we tried again...I had already worked out several escape routes to leave the office and get myself home on the city bus or by walking. I was very serious, I would have done it.

I can't believe parents and physicians can be so inattentive to children's feelings. I now have a serious, chronic disease and I've been seen by a lot of staff in all sorts of compromising states. I've even allowed students in to the room, but never has anyone treated my privacy so poorly as they did when I was a child, at the most self-conscious and vulnerable time of life.

My mum was there helping me take my clothes off and sit me on the bed. she reassured me that it was ok for the doctor to look at my willy. Even at the earliest age i remember getting hard when the doctor pulled my pants down and then listened to my chest. Mum would smile at me and tell me I was doing good.

My mother was never present during the inspection in the office but I remember a school physical, which was quite embarrassing for me. It was probably in the 7th grade, when we were together 5 boys in the school office and stood in line in front of our doctor only in his underwear. She looked into his neck, check the spine, feet and listened to my heart. Finally, the welt shorts and pulled them a bit and dropped both hands began to touching the testes. Then came the rubber shorts back. I saw this examined two classmates in front of me so I knew what to expect and was a little nervous. When I stood before the doctor and she just listened to me, someone knocked on the office door and went inside. It was our teacher who had an hour with our class, carrying a class book. It was the nicest teacher in school. She was a little inhibited when she came, but came to the table and the doctor handed her a class book and asked her to do then write to it. The doctor did not respond at all and gave me a stethoscope to listen. The teacher leaned over the table and waited for the doctor answer. I was hoping that the teacher puts the book and go away because the doctor has already pulled the stethoscope from the ears and I knew then what she did. My heart was pounding so much faster at the moment. The doctor wrote down the card health and teacher said that thereafter the registration done. The teacher put a class book on the table very slowly and still leaning over the table. "I'll leave it here Doc, yes?" Said the teacher, but that the doctor held out his hands to my boxers and pulled the welt in front view of the teacher. I was terribly ashamed. The doctor touched my testicles and pants came back. She said that I could get dressed and teacher, who stood at the table and she was blushing a little. "I'll send you the class book for the last guys miss."

I started dressed red with shame and the teacher finally left the office.

I think that's where it all began for me ... 😉

When I was growing up it was common for doctor's office to be in the neighborhood and not in large group practice. As a child I vaguely remember going to the pediatrican and being exmined nude. The doctor also made house calls then and I remember being sick in bed and having the doctor pull my pants off to take my rectal temperature and have a look at my penis and testicles. I had mumps and got a shot in my butt. The doctor told my mom to take a look at my testicles to be sure there was no swelling there. So for about a week my mom inspected me by pulling my pants down every day. When I was about 8 or 9 she started taking me to a GP and still had me undress nude at every visit. That doctor retired and she had me seen by another doctor who had me undress as he was examining me ending up nude in front of my mother until I was about 13. The doctors all wanted the mothers there to answer questions and to see how children were developing through puberty. The doctor had a young nursing assistant and I was way more embarrassed to be seen nude by her. I went alone when I was 14 or 15. She would have me undress to my briefs to get weighed and have me take them down when she cleansed my penis for a clean urine specimen. I kept them off because I knew she would take my rectal temperature and them my blood pressure. I had a few physicals in front of her and I know she enjoyed watching as much as I enjoyed displaying my naked self to her. I wasn't erect then but it makes me erect now thinking about her touching my penis.

When i was growing up my mother always was with me in the exam room. i don't recall my dad ever being there with me. he always had my momm do that .

My mother always came in with me

Although I wasn't thrilled that my Mom was in the room with me and she was able in full view watch and see what the doctor was doing and encouraged her to inspect me at home...I turned out okay for the most part.

I've have since found out, many mothers are very interested and concerned about there boys growth & development. As an adult, I've spoken to many females that have kids and they share there stories with me about there son's. In addition, I have several friends that had have inspections at home and mothers in the exam room as a child.

So I don't think its uncommon, but I don't think parents, especially Mothers, talk about this over dinner parties with friends as it also has a stigma of being a taboo subject and I don't think this happens in many families. However, no matter the type of family you grown up in, every Mother is curious at one point about there Son's development.

When growing up, I had a very good friend. His name was Ken. Ken's parents had 3 boys. Ken was the youngest and each boy was 2 years apart in age. I remember when going to Ken's house and sleeping over, his Father and Mom would walk around the house in there undies and both Ken in his brothers would all walk in there undies. They sat at the dinner table in underwear, they all hung out in undies and all slept either in the nude or in there undies. I'm sure the Mother of this family as well aware of her Son's development and growth.

I had another friend, his name was Howard. He too had the same doctor as Myself, Ken and his brothers and we were all made to walk around the house in our undies. I don't know what happen in those families but I'm sure we all experienced the same issues but it was never spoke about.

However, we all had the same doctor and my Mother would make me and my sister hang out in the house in our undies as well...so to me this was common when I was growing up. I'm sure my friends (the boys) had home inspections and there Moms where present at there exams.

The question of having your Mother in the exam room or not wasn't really my choice. Back in the the 70's and 80's I think there was a different mentality then today.

I can't speak for anyone else, but the pediatrician that my Mother took me too would insist on having my Mother stay in the waiting room as a child. I'm sure my Mother was in the exam room when I was a baby, but as far as I remember from the age of 4/5 to 13 years old, I went into the exam room alone without my Mother. I don't know why and I don't know what was said, perhaps the Doctor or the Nurse told her to wait outside. Other childhood friends that had the same Doctor had the same experiences I had.

When I reached puberty, that is when my Mother was allowed to enter the room. I didn't have a choice. I didn't like it and I didn't think it was right, but the Doctor was an adult and my Mother was my parent. My Mother was in the exam room from the time I reached 13 to 18 years old.

My Mother had full view of the exam, including when the Doctor examined my penis, when I would ejaculate and the few times he would inspect and examine my prostate. Going to the Doctor wasn't the best time in my life and as an adult it did effect me to the point, I hate going to the Doctors. Today I have no choice I have to deal with it. I was told and I do believe that my Mother was very ignorant at the time and the Doctor was a pedophile (he was married). He insisted that my Mother inspect both my Sister and I at home (but I was the one that got inspected). The Doctor had convinced my Mother that I had issues with premature ejaculation. I did and still do have a very sensitive penis and although I do reach orgasm and ejaculate rather quickly, I do get an erection and I'm able to get erect again and have a orgasm twice. The 2nd one takes a bit longer, but the first one is quick. I can actually orgasm and ejaculate within 10 mins time and then the 2nd time around, will take me about 15-20mins.

Back then...it seemed to be an issue and since my Father was a premature ejaculater, My Mother was convinced that I had the same issue. The Doctor then convinced my Mother to place me in a "growth & development" program and recommended to my Mother to inspect me at home and fill out a form and gave her some advice to help me with this "so-called" problem. I was to report to his office every 90-days for a follow-up and I did this for years as my Mother would be included with these exams.

I know of three other boys that I grew up with in my hometown that went through the same thing I did. After I turned 18, I went one last time and moved away from home never seeing that Doctor again. I did hear through the "grapevine" he did have some issues with the medical board and he dedicated his remaining years as a Doctor specializing as a allergy doctor only. He has since died and passed away and nobody ever came forward so I guess what he did went with him in the grave and as today, I never spoke about this or my Mother to her dying day.

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A very succinct and appropriate way of putting it. We are not in the 19th century anymore.

If a teenager wishes to be examined alone, with no parents present that should not be any problem for parents who care about their well-being.

Of course, that also implies that the teenager should also act the adult when being examined and comply with whatever is required by the physician, embarrassment or not.

When I was younger and seeing a pediatrician my mom would stay in the exam room. I didnt really want her there but was honestly too scared to ask her to leave. This female pediatrician would examine me in only my underwear. When she did the abdominal exam she would take my panties off and spread my legs apart. My legs would be flat but the should spread them apart. She would then spread my lips and looked for just about 5 seconds. This would be the end of the exam and the last thing she would do is have me stand up and bend over to check my back completely naked. I hated the last part of the exam and hated my mom was there.

My first gyn exam when I was 19 I scheduled myself and no one knew I went. I was alone. I would not have wanted my mom there.

... loosens natural bonds, instincts and traditions.

I´m quite certain that at this point in time, sciencists generally agree that people, that humans do not really have instincts, beyond not wishing to die and for fulfilling certain physical desires such as hunger, thirst and being free of pain.

Otherwise everything that people talk about as ´instinct´ is really socialized behavior: behavior patterns, beliefs and ways of thinking that have been learned, not passed on by virtue of possesing DNA of a certain type.

And the same applies to natural bonds. Certainly there is a natural bond between parents and children, but if that is the natural manner, then why are children succesfully adopted by complete strangers? There is nothing ´natural´ about those bonds, yet can be just as successful. And for that matter, why are there so many unsucessful relationships between children and parents if that is supposed to be a natural and instinctive thing?

I have experinced a exam monitoring by our female teacher.

The idea that an adolescent will not want a parent present during an examination cannot be dismissed simply as defiance or rebellion. Some, if not many, actually want their parent present during procedures. The role of parenting is to prepare a child to become a capable, responsible, healthy adult. Each of us developed at our own individual rate and there are differences in both our physical and psycho-social rate of development. Some quickly, others slowly. Some strive for independence earlier than others. We simply cannot state with precision what events will occur at each age of an individual. Teenagers are not small adults. What needs to be examined is if development occurs as expected within normal limits, or whether there is a need for further medical evaluation and intervention. Parents need to teach their children when and where and how to obtain appropriate health supervision and help them understand why it is important and what benefits they may enjoy as contributing and productive healthy persons. I do not believe we can make sweeping generalities about what age a girl needs a first pelvic examination, nor about whether a mother should be present during her son's genital examination. That all depends on the individual current situation. Some of us are amazingly mature and independant at age 13 and others of us never grow up.

In my opinion all women need daily pelvic exams and boys really need their mothers until age 6.

My mom was always present in the exam room when my brother and I had our yearly physicals. We arrived at the doctor office and after brief wait in the waiting our names would be called. We followed the nurse down the hallway with mom in tow to an open exam room. Once inside the nurse would ask my brother and I to strip to our underwear. Our mom took our clothes and placed them on a chair. Being the oldest I would usually being examined first. It was kinda of strange sitting on the table in just your underwear across from your mom waiting for the doctor. After about a ten minute wait our pediatrician appeared and gave us a pretty thorough head to toe exam.

Ball58, this exactly like my exams with my mom. Can you tell us more about the exam, and how your mom reacted. Did the doctor comment about your development to your mom while examining you?

When I was small, I remember I went to the emergency room with my dad and mom, I was around 6..maybe , but for other visits to the docs, mainly was always my grandma who accompany me to the docs, for a fever or a cold , she would wrap me in lots of layers of clothes and call a taxi and we go together.

My mum insists on accompaning me to my gyno exams, i think because she wants to make sure i can have babies lol.If i want she will leave for the exam, but havent asked her to. I dont find it embarrising, its good in a way because she remembers questions for the doctor that i have forgotten to ask. Maybe also that gynos in australia usually just do the vaginal exam and your pretty covered up, i usually wear i skirt to exams

Just to add my two cents worth, i think as long as your child is happy for you to be there then its fine and not an issue, however once they old enough and mature enough to ask questions themselves and feel comfortable with the doctor then there is no reason why they can not go alone.

If going to visit the doctor for problem I always ask my eldest if she the would rather go in alone because I know she is confident enough to speak up and have a proper interaction with out doctor. Even if one does decide they will be in the room for the exam there should def b a moment where the doctor is alone with them becaue they have questions they are afrid to ask in front of there mom, its natural to feel embarassed about certain topics even if you have the most open and close relationship in the history of parenting.

I personally did not have much of issue myself growing up and my mom for first pelvic exam did excuse herself from the room.

Final note if you do not trust your doctor to examine one your children alone without you in the room then you should be visiting that doctor.