how do i get my wife to use a plug
discuss it with her. explain that you like prostate stimulation and anal play and see if she is willing to give it a try.
1. Make sure she's totally clean first. For most healthy people that just means sticking a finger up there when they're in the shower beforehand and not eating too recently before sex. If you don't want to risk it, buy an enema kit.
2. Buy butt plugs. The main reason some people don't enjoy their anal sex experiences is because they don't use them. There is no way you can comfortably go from a tiny hole, to a finger to a huge penis. If she uses different sized butt plugs, she can gradually get more comfortable.
3. Use lots of lubricant, especially if it's water-based, because it will dry out fast.
4. Go really slow the first time, and try different positions to suit you best... though face down, *** up is probably the easiest.
Have her put one in you tell her good it feels
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Been trying to breach that barrier with my girlfriend lately too. The first trick is slowly incorporating anal into regular sexual activities, for example I'd place a finger on the outside of her ass without pushing or moving them in. Eventually as she got more worked up she told me to slip in little by little after a few weeks. Looks like I'll finally get to put it in her rear soon, but haven't worked up to kinky toys yet. I could only wish
My gf was very apprehensive about anal, but open minded as well. She was open to the idea, so I knew I only had one shot at this. Screw it up and she'll be turned of forever.
I started with a little finger rimming during intercourse when she was already in between orgasms and some tongue play while eating her out. I thought it was important to start slow and get her used to associating anal stimulation with moments of pleasure.
I then bought some small anal beads and a 1" plug. She was not very comfortable with the idea of beads initially, but I asked get to try it, offered to try it on me, and told her I would stop immediately If she asked me to. It's very important to be supportive and encouraging at first, but also recognize the vulnerability she's probably experiencing. Fingers and beads were used for a while until she was comfortable with the process. No matter what, make sure she is enjoying it, do whatever you have to do (stimulate vagina, etc.)
Slowly but surely, we worked our way up to the plug. The first time she told me to take it out right away, wasn't quite ready, so I went back to fingers for a while.
Long story short, she begs for anal now, I honestly think she likes it more than me! Be patient, it's not for everyone, but I honestly think most people with an open mind will enjoy it if fine under safe and trusting circumstances. Enjoy the ride...
My wife wants nothing to do with it, either giving or receiving. She does like it when I rim her, though. She's done anal with me a few times but doesn't care for it.
Start small and compromise. Tell her that's what u would like and ask if she has any needs to be filled by you. And no pressure but be persistent and playful about. My deal maker was "If you don't like it, we don't ever have to do it again". Now, she requests it.
I guess I am lucky. My wife was pretty well instantly interested when I told her how hot I thought it was. I started with my tongue, and then a finger, then 2. Then I got her some small plugs and a set of dilators. Eventually we got to medium sized plugs, and she really loves the ones with a tail. Bouncing around the house w/ a little white rabbit tail poking out from under a mini skirt, its really sexy.
My advice would be to talk to her about it, let her know how much it excites you, ask her if she will try. Maybe you find out that her first boyfriend tried to shove his cock in her asshole dry and she is really frightened of it, or maybe you find out that she's been wanting you to play with her bottom the whole time she's known you and she thought you were some sort of prude. You can never tell until you just talk to her and let her know how you feel. If she tells you that she is scared it will hurt, convince her to let you show her that if you go slow and you are gentle, it wont hurt (and then go slow and be gentle).
If she will try, don't mess it up going too fast, be gentle, use your tongue and your fingers at first. Remember that you don't have to get a plug in there on the first day, or the third or the 20th for that matter, its most important that she enjoys it. If you hurt her butt, she will never let you near it again. When you are using your fingers, definitely lick her pussy and make her feel good. Another thing that might help is if you let her play with your ass if she wants to. It will help you understand what she is experiencing and maybe help her understand what you find so erotic about it. If you find the idea letting her play with your ass off-putting, consider that it is just as "unnatural" for her as it is for you. I agree with WildOrchid, if she sees the first plug and its black and huge and shiny, its gonna be scary for her, whereas if its soft and pink and pretty small, she wont be as scared.
So, to sum up, talk to her about it, let her do it to you first, get a nice looking small plug at first, go slow, be gentle, listen to her, and above all don't hurt her butt.
A year or so ago my normally boring wife said she would try a plug. Well, I got excited and bought a few toys for her. We tried the small plug, but she wouldn't use a douche first, thought it was weird. I have anal played all my life so know what to do and hate being dirty, so this was no good for me and we never did it again. :(
I'm so lucky to have my lover introducing butt plugs to me in a gradual and patient manner.
He started by inserting one finger up my ass, slowly working to two and then three. By then I was so accustomed to his pleasurable stretching, I begged him for more! Then he introduced me to my first pink butt plug of the smallest size. It drove me crazy and I was so hooked by that super erotic sensation. Now we are going to get some medium size ones and, yes, with tails attached! Ford and I play lots of anal games, and I simply love parading in front of him, showing off my plugged ass.
It is highly arousing and sensual when he bends me over and inserts the plug up my ass. I get horny so quickly and my pussy juice dribbles uncontrollably. We are both very anally erotic.
Most women are apprehensive about the size of them and the porno flicks of women getting huge things unceremoniously crammed up their ass. It's all very scary if you've never done it before.
Mine made me promise her -- "no butt plugs, dear." Ha ha. Now she begs for them. She can't wait to parade in front of me with one sticking from between those perfect ass cheeks. Next we're going to order some of the ones with tails on them. I want to see the tail sticking out of her tightest opening and tickling her soft thighs as she sways back and forth.
As with every thing new and different, you must have her trust and proceed very slowly. I think most women would be anally erotic if they had someone to introduce them to it in the proper manner.
I agree with little and slow. My current gf is like a lot of women, not into anal play. At least not openly. She likes it after a few drinks, she likes me to touch it, lick it, even stick a finger up it sometimes. The other night we were playing around. She was on all fours and I was able to reach into the night stand and get out the new plug I bought for her. She was a little busy so I was able to slowly work the whole thing up her butt. the thought of what I just did, combined with the sight of it sticking out her ass was all it took. Afterwards, we talked about it and she said she didn't dislike it. Women are very worried about that area. They like it, but don't want to admit it. Communication is important. But s l o w l y!
You should also start with a small plug. Don't show her any of the medium sized ones she may freak out. Maybe just using your finger(notice I said a single finger) until she is comfortable with a little more. Maybe then adding a second finger would get her to open up. Then move onto a plug of a similar size. I do like the idea of seeing if she would like to put it inside you first so she knows it will fit.
slow and lots of lube. let her put the same one up yours first. You have to have patience.
There is no "get to". Especially when it comes to anal. If the bottom doesn't really want it or feels apprehensive their ass will stay shut. That will lead to an unpleasant experience that will further turn off the bottom.
You can tell her that it would turn you on to watch this but that giving her new pleasurable sensations is most important to you. Don't guilt, be respectful of her feelings - you're more likely to get a honest "yes" that way. If she agrees to try it then pick a good plug. It needs to look attractive to her, be made of safe materials (if smelly-jelly stings her ass she might want to back out completely - I wouldn't blame her) and has a comfortable size. Bootie from FunFactory is a small, comfortable and cute example.
Once she agrees you have to get her really hot and warm up her ass. Play with her pussy, make her desperate to come, caress the outside of her anus with lubed fingers. If she's into it you can rim her. If she's apprehensive about the safety of rimming, do it through a dental dam (this needs to be discussed before, not during action). Then gently insert one lubed finger. No jabbing! Do it gradually. Don't thrust unless she likes that. Depending on the size of the plug insert two fingers or go to the toy. During this either tongue her clit or have her play with it. Some women only enjoy anal sensations if their clit is touched.