How REAL doctors deal with med-fet patients

I read the posting asking real medical personnel about whether their medical fetish ever comes into play in their job. My question to the same people is: Have you encountered patients that you suspect have a medical fetish? How did you know? Did that suspicion, in any way, effect how you treated the person?

I don't mean being obvious (as in having sex with them or being openly sexual) about it, but perhaps taking the exam a bit further than it really needed to go? Or even going in the opposite direction of being a bit more prudish than you normally would be to try to discourage them?

I just wondered because besides having a medical fetish anyway, I have a crush on my doctor. We are both married, so nothing will ever come of it. But on more than one occasion, I could have sworn she was flirting with me. I also wonder about it because my annual exams involve a lot more nudity now than ever before (not that I'm complaining, mind you). Also, I am kind of weird in that I kind of like getting DRE's, and even though the doctor tells me that I am still below the recommended age when I need them, she always performs one on me (and tells me afterwards that my prostate is small and fine..).

Beyond my situation, however, I just wondered how doctor's react to patients who they suspect may have a medical fetish? (I.E, they don't complain about getting procedures done that would be considered very embarrassing to non-fetish individuals).

Just wanted to add one more thing: I am pretty healthy and don't really require in-depth exams... I just like getting them.

There is a known list of kink aware professionals. You can do a google search and it will come up with several links. I suggest you start by going to a kink aware professional first if you want to start opening up to a doctor about your fetish.

I don't particularly want the doctor to know, actually. I've told a few other people (including my wife) about it, but I don't see any point in telling the doctor.

As I don't (and wouldn't) act on it, and enjoy the relationship that I have with my doctor, there is nothing to be gained by admitting anything to her.

I think it is wise of you not to tell your doctor and just enjoy it as you say. If you told, you might as well upset her and destroy it all.

Mine knows and will freely discuss med things with me.

My hubby's doc also knows that he is into medfet and crossdresses

For me at least, I turn off the fetish when I am seeing a real doctor. I might look back and decide I enjoyed part of it later, but the two don't mix. And generally are not fun.

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For me at least, I turn off the fetish when I am seeing a real doctor. I might look back and decide I enjoyed part of it later, but the two don't mix. And generally are not fun.

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Totally, 100% agree with this. Medfet and seeing the doctor for real are two TOTALLY different subjects. Yes, I am super turned on by seeing a gynecological exam (usually in the medfet setting, educational/instructional videos don't quite even do it) but turn around and have it done on myself? Furthest from turned on (as far as I know).

The patient usually does not confess his medfet hobby to a real doctor, but the doctor, if he/she is really experienced, should easily detect such a patient. I think, at least according to my own relationships with doctors, that it is not too difficult. As well I believe that the real doctor can enjoy the cooperation with such a patient. The medfet oriented patient respects the doctor's authority, acts obediently, willingly undresses more than he/she is asked, with pleasure allows the doctor to listen to his/her heart, lungs and bowels, to palpate him/her everywhere including intimate areas of his/her body, does not defend against annoying or unpleasant touches, trying to make the doctor's job as easy as possible. However, the real doctor does not show that he/she has detected the patient's medfet orientation and progresses as well as for other patients.

I wonder sometimes how doctors avoid having sexual thoughts about undressed patients, but I guess it's not hard for someone not involved in medfet. Most of my doctors have rushed me through exams, but one of the reasons why I've stayed with my current gyno is that he does a thorough exam every time, with me only wearing two paper drapes.

I don't know if he can tell that I like it, although it's exciting to think that he might. I'm usually so nervous that it's hard to tell during my real exams, but that doesn't stop me from getting dripping wet.

Talking about either having had this fetish for too long or having explorered it too much, the topic just reminded me that a doctor in the suburbs had found out about my interests pre-internet, and invited down to his hospital for some exploration.

Iatronudia - google it!

"A paraphilia involving sexual attraction to medical staff and doctors.

My friend, driven by her iatronudia, pretended that she was sick so that she could disrobe in front of her doctor."

Iatronudia is alatin ancient word, all doctors know what it means...

Mixing a fetish with healthcare is not a good idea. Visits to a real doctor are not the time to fool around and distract either you as the patient, or the health care practitioner. In today's world, visits are shorter and time is precious to the doctor. They are already rushing to see more patients and to distract during the short time you have access may lead to something being missed. If one is going to the doctor for "the fun of it" (an unneeded visit) to satisfy our fetish, that is a waste of everyone's time. In my view a medical fetish needs to remain outside the professional healthcare arena. If one wants to fantasize about thier physician, do it afterwards, or risk missing real health issue. If you are already on this site, you are in the best place to develop and act on the medical fetish.

I certainly agree that it is not a good idea to have your mind on medfet in an actual medical setting - as the patient or the doctor. I have very occasionally suspected that a patient of mine might have been enjoying the experience, and a couple of times I'm pretty sure that a patient has said something specifically in order for me to examine them more intimately than I would otherwise have done.

The only way to handle this safely as a medical professional is to do exactly what is medically necessary and make sure you have a trusted chaperone present. A doctor always has at the back of their mind 'how would I justify this?', and you never know when a complaint is going to be brought against you.

Fantasising afterwards, or play exams, are quite a different thing...

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For me i would give anything to have a really hot doc explore with me the medfet. i do have a hard time trying to seperate the two, but its just so damn hard when ur in there with them and u find urself sexually attracted to the one examing u. then u start focusing on wat it is they are examing and it jsut makes it that much more difficult to keep under wraps so to speak. but that just me and to each their own.

My Doc is a friend of mine. I have to be particular careful of my conversation at my appointments, in respect for others in the waiting room. I know this because I usually have to wait a couple hours to see him, even with an appointment. So yes, I'd agree... as much as the urge is there for med fetish... take it out of the scheduled office visit.

I'd never want my doctor to know. Especially since they seem to record everything in my electronic health record. I haven't had any crushes on doctors. I do notice if they're extremely handsome or beautiful.

Even though I haven't seen the faces of some of my recent doctor's since COVID-19, I can Google them. I don't Google them because of a medical fetish or just to see what they look like. I'm curious how long they've been practicing and if they have other specialties besides what they're treating me for.

My medical doctor a few years ago, female and about the same age as me (late forties) did have something non-sexual going. After she reported my elevated blood pressure readings, she suggested we take my BP at the end of the exam, after the hernia check and finger-up-the-butt portion. Amazing my BP returned to normal and as she noted “this was not her first rodeo with a male patient”. Solution was my annual exam always began with me nude, yes even the chit-chat and update before the physical part. She was a flert and I soon caught-on to the script… medfet no, sex no, but certainly a “fun” time I continue to look forward to each year. .

I've read forum postings where real doctors complain about some patients asking for examinations to satisfy a fetish, the classical being a prostate exam.

This is only one of many annoyances. There are also patients who lie to get certain prescription drugs that contain opioids, perhaps for personal consumption, perhaps to resell them.

I'm not a doctor, but I am a medical student. I've been shadowing for about a year. I've never seen any patients who seemed like they had a med fet. Most seem embarrassed or else like the exam is no big deal.

I'm not a doctor, but I am a medical student. I've been shadowing for about a year. I've never seen any patients who seemed like they had a med fet. Most seem embarrassed or else like the exam is no big deal.

I would suspect that distinguishing between a medfet patient and a hypochondriac might be difficult. After all, wouldn't a hypochondriac also need to be examined to determine if the illnesses they come in for are truly real?

We have many doctor friends and they‘ve told me they can spot people asking for unnecessary exams/test or checks pretty quick. Hypochondriacs (my brother in law calls them Hypochondriquacks) sometimes take a little more time to spot - at least the first few times they come in - and from then on, while the doc takes all complaints seriously, they have a perception of who they are dealing with which can affect their diagnosis. They get a lot of people who are gaming Workman's Comp Claims, OSHA claims (especially the orthopedic docs), or trying to get a handicap permit just for convenience. Some of these fakers get belligerent when the doc refuses to get them out of work etc.

Unfortunately, a lot of docs are more than. willing to prescribe or over-prescribe pain meds to people who gradually become addicted.