Gosh! Doesn't anyone here just like a teasing erotic spanking?
I should think finding a partner is going to be a real task if real pain is the focus
I suppose that many gals who like or purport to like pain do so because they have found that the guy has that desire. So they learn to want pain to please him.
But, surely it would be better if at the start the guy was led by her excitement. I just cannot imagine that guys would be more thrilled by inflicting pain than by having an excited, responding and enthused gal
But, live and learn.
Same should be true for an enema, I think. Most appealing aspect for the kind of her I have known or imagine, sees an enema as a continuation of a naughty girl theme. Not a part of theme of pain and real punishment.
For example, he tells her she has been naughty and will get an enema after a (light) spanking. She protests, if she likes, but it happens anyway. But, guys, not 2, 3 or 4 qts. As soon as she is moving because of discomfort and not sensation, that is the time to lead her to the potty. Not after the excitement spell is broken by making her wait in discomfort.
At least that is how I see it. She should be completely sure that things will not slide from pleasure to pain to danger.
If gals really wanted pain and danger, we wouldn't see so much agonizing here over how to find a safe partner.
The flip side should also be true, if I am right. Nearly all girls I think do not seek to dominate or torture the guy. If a girl wants to give him an enema, I bet for nearly all it's because she wants to bring him pleasure or induce a squirming erotic reaction. Dealing with a malevolent amazon may thrill some guys but the partner I think most gals want is one who responds erotically to what she is doing to him. Not one in agony and not one who will need a transfusion to recover.
Finding an erotic playmate is hard enough. But if you want one that has developed a taste to endure pain you are looking for a needle in a haystack. And if u really do want agony, finding a mate with that taste is also rare....and very dangerous as a few very wise people on this site have pointed out.