Doctor's finger in your rectum

My female urologist always has me on my left side on the table, after my yearly Cystoscopy - I enjoy everything about her exams, and look forward to December when she will examine me in depth. Probably my least enjoyable rectal exams were from my old GP many years ago. He had a great sense of humor, though, and I knew that one of my best male friends was coming in for his annual exam, and dreading his prostate exam. So as he was feeling my prostate, I said "Doctor B, when you get this part of ***** *****'s exam next Tuesday, would you tell him I said hello?"

Only had it done once, dreaded it when the doctor said she wanted to check my prostate of what she might find,

but her finger wasnt in there long enough to know if i enjoyed it or not.

I have to say that a prostate exam shouldn't have to be an unpleasant experience. But most doctors seem to think that the patients dread this procedure and try to insert their finger in very quickly and do the procedure quickly so that is over and done with. This actually can be painful.

I wonder if the medical schools teach this procedure so that it can no way be construed as being sexual experience. So they persist in making it uncomfortable. If they took just even a few seconds to lube the anus and massage it just a bit to relax it before entering that would make a world of difference. Yes this is what you do in a sexual setting but there is a reason for it. I makes the person's anus ready for penetration. There needs to be an attitude change on the part of the medical community to change this outlook- it really would result in better medical care by making the procedure less intrusive and sometimes painful.

I teach this technique at various medical schools. When I teach, I acknowledge the possibility of a sexual component, but I don't harp on it. I also teach how to do the exam in a relaxed and compassionate way. What happens in residency and fellowship is a very individual experience and beyond the control of the med school.

Thanks for the post Jds4med. It is nice hear from someone in the medical community. If all the docs had your compassion and attitude, this procedure would not be unpleasant experience as it has been for me on more than one occasion. My current doc is a woman and has a soft caring attitude and her technique is not intrusive- she has been the best so far at my prostate exams.

Never get used to the feeling... like pooping in reverse :/

Well, just had it done this morning. I have to be honest, I actually love the way it feels. I wish it could last a lot longer. My challenge is to not let on that I enjoy it so. There is something about that wonderful feeling of a well lubed finger making its way into my tight bottom. mmmm!!!

When I teach the DRE, I use a technique that not rushed. This way, it seems less invasive and intrusive.

With the patient in position and the examiner gloved, place lube on the back of the non-dominant hand. Warn the patient that you're going to touch his buttocks. Spread the cheeks to observe the area. Lube the index finger of the dominant hand. Warn the patient that he's going to feel something cold and wet. Lube the external anus and, without removing the index finger, place the tip on the anus. Tell the patient that he's going to feel pressure. With gentle pressure, insert the finger as far as you can. With the finger pad facing the patient's navel, gentle pressure will have the finger on the prostate. Sweep the finger to feel the prostate. On the way out, rotate the finger to feel the inner walls of the rectum and anus.

After removing your finger, instruct the patient to remain in position while you remove your gloves. Hand the patient tissues or paper towels to clean up with and tell him the results of your exam.

As non-stressful as possible.

Several years ago after having my rectal exam, I told my doctor that I usually got dinner and drinks after a rectal probe. He looked very serious and replied. { I have bad news for you. I am not even going to kiss you.} We both had a good laugh. He had been my doctor for over 20 years.

Another line I thought of using was: Was it as good for you as it was for me?

With current thinking, the DRE has or is going the way of other discarded studies. My physician hasn't performed this test on me over the past two years. It doesn't give much information. If there is a history of colon or prostate cancer, other studies are more definitive.

The DRE is still the best exam for screening prostate cancer in its price range. Of course you can get a transrectal ultrasound, but insurance won't pay for it as a screening test, only for confirmation.

The other screening test is the PSA, but there is a high incidence of false positive results, especially if the man ejaculated, had anal play, had a DRE or has been constipated in the 72 or so hours before the blood draw.

Are there actual doctors that do this? Give an exam to get you off? Is that a normal doctor or a specialist? Forgive my lack of knowledge..

No ethical doctor will get you off during a routine exam.

To kinky, with the NYC gay bias, a gay doctor there is going to pick up on your interest. That said, you may not pick up on his picking up since he is also a professional. So I have sometimes wondered about the positioning, whether on hands and knees, more common in NYC, was coming from that or not. If doctors are themselves kinksters, they will be so outside of their office, as I posted about a doctor going to sex parties where a patient was. The likely reason for a rectal exam would be a problem in that area mentioned by a patient.

To COURSE. I agree with you about the PSA test. If the PSA is increasing slowly, it's probably nothing to get concerned about and a periodic DRE is probably called for, just to make sure. However, when it increases rapidly, like yours did, then a biopsy is definitely called for. Once you get the biopsy results, that's the time to decide if treatment or watchful waiting is the best option. There are all sorts of horror stories out there concerning biopsies. It's important to be sure the re gum is cleaned out to minimize the chance of infection. They recommend 1 or 2 Fleet enemas but I opted for a more thorough cleansing and had no problems. The decision to choose treatment is not without crummy consequences - erection problems, incontinence, bowel problems (if radiated), just to name a few.

I have the patient bent over the table, spreading his cheeks and most don't seem to mind it. I once had a "bi" guy who didn't like it and wiggled loose, ran for his clothes, and ended the exam. It was great as I already had reached his prostate by time he was freaking out haha

Well, I experienced my first ever rectal exam at the tender age of 43. It was totally unexpected and my eyes are still watering after the experience. I had only gone with a stomach complaint and ended up with a finger up my hole. Cant say I'd want it done again.

I've had a few rectal exams and I can't say that I enjoyed them. Fact is, they were kinda uncomfortable. It's possible, of course, that they could have been pleasurable if the doc was a female, but I just don't get a thrill from having a guy stick his finger up my but.

Initially it was not very comfortable for me as the ass hole was stretched, although the doc used lubes ..... but later it was good as my prostate was checked and I got a good massage. I remember dripping precum as it was done.

I had this done to me earlier this month and found it quite fun and some precum actually came out whilst being examined there.

I got that rectal exams several times by the gastroenterologist and urologist in my youth time and by the military exams. It´s a bad feeling like an uncomfortable pressure, like I had to go to toilet at once, and like my anus is "open" when the finger is out then. And it´s completely embarrassing, because sometimes my penis got completely erected!

I am neutral. It was not as painful as I would have expected given all the jokes about it, but it isn't pleasurable either.

What I do find interesting is the slippery feeling between my cheeks as I walk out afterwards to check out. I swear everyone can tell I just got a rectal exam by the way I am walking.

I was a little boy when I experienced my first rectal exam. I was having bad stomach pains so the doctor had me on the table in my little white briefs. He had me lay on my back and pull my legs towards me with my feet flat on the table. He then pulled my briefs down to my knees. He lubed the gloved finger and gave me the rectal exam.

My favorite part of the exam ! Brings shivers just thinking about it

I always wonder how long its going to be it there..

Usually I feel trepidation. At least in a real life exam. Now in a "social" exam I feel differently.

My urologist in the northeast used to be extremely quick, less than 5 seconds. I didn't know how he developed a good sense of what's going on in there. My new urologist in TN, takes a bit more time, maybe 10 seconds. I could feel him covering the entire posterior prostate and even briefly touching each seminal vesicle.

The only anxiety revolves around what he'll find and what comes next (biopsy).

Fortunately or unfortunately (depends on the way you look at it) I've not had that much cause in getting the finger ... On those very few occasions that I did there was not much to be concerned about.... Maybe because as a child through "education" that this was perfectly normal, as both ends came in for attention & not to be overly embarrassed ... which wasn't always the case if you were feeling a bit miserable

I recall one time (mid 20's) when an appointment had been made for a small external polyp (haemorrhoid) issue & the good Doc who was a very tall /solid man had one mighty long fat finger ... that I felt !!...polyp throbbed but the bum enjoyed.....even within a clinical setting ....II do not know what had caused it, however at the time I had been on a mini Enema binge .... no not MINI Enema's !!...so I put it down to that

Never mentioned this to the Doc concerned as my ex was high school besties with his wife & also his day surgery nurse.... Sometime later (40's) another new Doc (female) gave me the once over ... that one I REALLY liked ....the ole panty bandit awoken & stirred...bobbed around a bit....that dull throbbing... her ministrations came close to me spilling the beans....the heart rate went up & so did I....another minute or so of "that" & I'd have produced a creamy complexion....as I eyeballed one delightful derriere moving ass-ide....that was a hard one to pull off so to speak ...which I rectified later.... vigorously !!....sadly it was over all to soon.... Given the opportunity I would've kissed more that her pretty arse too ... she was serious fantasy material !!!

Although I posted a similar response in a different thread, I would like to repeat it here. After several years with the same urologist, last month I visited a new doctor. When it came time for the digital exam, I expected the usual five second finger wave that was in - out, and a disdainful look from the doc. This time , as I was bent over the exam table, my new doctor (male by the way) inserted two gloved fingers into my bum. It felt as though he went into me up to his third knuckle. Then, he told me to assume a squatting position. Wow! As I lowered myself into that stance, I felt his fingers go even deeper into my rectum. As they did, I felt those fingers glide over my prostate. The effect was electric! My cock started twitching and began to go erect. I'm sure if he hadn't withdrawn them when he did, I was about to have a "happy ending". I have experienced this feeling a few times with the KP3 nozzle from Klystra, but never from my urologist. I have my next appointment with this same Doctor next week. Now I have something to look forward to. I will try to give a Zity update afterwards. I'm sure to have an enema before the next visit. MRay.

My doctor is about my age and pretty good looking. The past couple of physicals, he has mentioned about how I don't need the prostate exam for a few more years til I turn 40. I think I am going to schedule the physical that year for the day after I turn 40. 😉