Legality? Ethical?

Is it legal/ethical to give MetFet exams for a fee? Or offer someone money to complete an exam? iw as asked that question by someone recently and did not have an answer!

I'm a play doctor and I got that question from potential patients many times: "is there a charge"?

I would never consider charging for a play exam. It's supposed to be fun for both parties and the exam itself is enough "payment"

But I don't know if other play doctors have a different view.

I have been asked the same question so i always tell them the role play follows medical protocol but there is no charge and it is all voluntary

I have never had a play exam. But if i did and the play doctor tried to extract payment, I would just hand him my insurance card and encourage him to file a claim. I wonder if "play" exams are covered?

I would certainly consider that taking payment for an examination and treatment was tantamount to 'practicing medicine' which, of course, would be illegal even if the procedures were termed a play exam.

I have never ever taken payment, nor would i contemplate this - quite the contrary - in that I fund the venue, usually a hotel.

Because I travel extensively there is also the added cost of that travel.

Yes, I have been offered a fee from time to time and certainly many prospective patients have raised the question of whether a fee is charged. the answer is always No.

As BigK suggests, taking payment could be viewed as practicing medicine without a license, which could immediately land someone in the court system. Also, in the event that there would be any sort of sexual stimulation / activity during the play exam, accepting any financial compensation could legally be viewed as a sexual service or prostitution. Some states have broad laws that make it illegal to provide any sexual service in exchange for money. Obviously, it is best to be aware of the laws in your own state.

At the end of my play medical history form, I have a statememt that provides consent and release for the patient to sign. It is pretty specific indicating that there is no medical purpose whatsoever to the play exam and it is only for erotic intentions, that everyone is acting under their own free will as consenting adults, there is no financial compensation (or may be) involved, and that there is full consent to participate in the play exam for fantasy desires. Having a patient read, understand and sign this agreement and consent is paramount to having a mutual understanding that it is all about adults exploring and experiencing their sexual fantasy desires for both the Dr and the patient.

I have the same approach as the others -- I wouldn't take money. Many patients ask me what the charge is. Apart from anything else, many prospective patients have limited financial resources and why should they miss out on all the fun? 😃

Like other posters, I have had several gentlemen inquire about how much I charge for my services. My response is always polite, courteous and professional but it goes something like this: at this time my "services" are available to only one particular patient. Aside from that, I am not a professional and if I were to charge, medical role play would become a job and therefore less enjoyable. I do it for fun and because I love seeing my partner respond, not because I could make money at it.

To me, if payment were involved I would deem it to be a form of "prostitution" - we do it because we enjoy what we do. Certainly not for monetary gain but for fun, arousal and enjoying our fetish.

I would say that it isn't legal, and as for ethical, thats a big debate. Unless you're declaring tax then payment shouldn't be considered. It's a whole big minefield. Keep it fun, keep it private, keep it recreational

I have never, nor would I consider, receiving payment from my playmates. Many travel considerable distances to see me and make a considerable expenditure to do so. It is gesture of friendship and gratuity for me to offer them accommodation to reduce their expense, (which most accept happily), however some encounter additional travel expenses such as hotel as part of their visit. I feel their financial commitment far exceeds mine and I could not in good conscience accept any form of payment for my "services". The only form of payment I have ever been offered, and which I have accepted graciously, is a dinner or drinks at some point during their stay.

The privilege of playing together is much more rewarding than anything money can buy.

Very well said, DrJ58. I have never received any money nor have I ever asked for any. It is always for the pure love of medfet and erotic play between two consenting adults.

Lady Teddy

Because I don't think prostitution should be illegal for people who can't find someone to have sex with, there should be professional medfets who provide the service for those who are without a playmate. Nothing unethical about that. However it WOULD be unethical to take money from a date, which is what I think we're talking about.

We all need the erotic in our lives. Sex and fetish work is a wonderful service that should be legalized. And we know there are plenty of professionals out there...

Prostitution, per se, is not illegal in the UK.

Any man or woman can function as a prostitute, with impunity.

What is illegal is the owning, keeping or management of a brothel, by such as a madam. Thus a brothel owner, keeper or manager could be convicted of an offence but the prostitute him/herself would not. A common euphemism applied to such premises is Massage Parlour.

Similarly a customer found on brothel premises cannot be found guilty of that. There is though a law which makes it an offence to pay for sexual services with a prostitute who is exploited by force, deception or threats, risking a fine of up to £1,000 and a criminal record. It is not a valid excuse to say 'I did not know'. This is known as a 'strict liability' offence and applies on or off street.

A prostitute can be convicted of an offence of 'soliciting for the purpose of prostitution in a public place' - for instance on the street, but the offence is not one of being a prostitute but that of soliciting for the purpose of prostitution.

A customer can be convicted of an on street offence if he solicits a prostitute for the purpose of prostitution, in a public place. Customers are rarely charged with an offence if they are on foot, though it is illegal, but are regularly charged if they solicit from a vehicle. The offence then is commonly known as 'kerb (curb) crawling'.

I understand, though I am unsure, that an Escort Agency cannot be convicted of an offence of directing a customer to an Escort, or vice versa, if there is a disclaimer that monetary arrangements are between the customer and the Escort, or any fees for the referral are between the Escort and the Agency - and that the monies are solely for the time the Escort spends with the customer. Most agencies do not quote rates for the escorts on their books and leave that to the individuals.

I have known a very fine west coast Dominatrix for a long, long time. We are friends. She does do some med-fet scenes with some clients. Now she says that she does not have sex with her clients, never, no way, no time.

I do know that when we played one time, we certainly did end up having very excellent sex, but I was a friend and not a client.

Speed

I would never charge a fee! I would go along with some of the other posts that stated I would have the play patient sign a consent form. When you charge a fee in the US, it would be illegal if you are not in fact a licensed professional. Also, erotic gratification would be considered prostitution in most states.

I have been asked a few times but have never taken a fee for doing an exam. It is just meant to be a bit of fun between doc and patient

Use play money.

Definitely not....

I second Lady Teddy. I have never been asked any charges but would be really taken aback if someone did ask. It is understood that the examination is consensual and meant for mutual gratification

In the US, an agreement to perform or receive sex for money is prostitution. That is illegal. An agreement to provide medical services without a license and certification is illegal. A grey area exists in between or outside. A reason to charge might be doing a fantasy scene with someone whom you would not normally have such a fantasy scene, thus providing something which that person might not otherwise be able to experience. Think of provisions which might normally exist, age restrictions, physical restrictions, etc.

I would think that anyone charging or receiving payment for this type of activity could be on dangerous ground. In my opinion it's an exchange between consenting parties. the implications that could ensue from charging a fee could be serious.

It is so easy to misconstrue and misrepresent just about anything having to do with sex and payment, that there would no single straight and easy to understand answer. Depending on your state of residence, the jurisdiction, probably even on the personal beliefs of public prosecutors you could easily get into trouble. Or even if all were withing the bounds of the law, surely you know that the financial costs of simply defending oneself can be crippling and prohibitive.

So I'd say it mainly comes down to where you would locate the facility. Even in countries where prostitution and payment for sex are perfectly legal and regulated, there are still things like zoning laws that determine whether certain types of activity are permitted. Run afoul of that and it's just as bad ...

Legal and ethical can be VERY different things.

much that is legal is not ethical.

much that is ethical is not legal.