Do you think that wanting to perform Analingus on your partner means a person must really adore you to want to show you how much in that manner
or do you think its just a fetish or a sex act that she or he (mostly he) enjoys performing and will basically do it to anyone
I'm of the opinion, having performed it on my wife quite regularly, that it is a sex act the giver enjoys and hopes the recipient will also enjoy. The first time I performed analingus on my wife I did NOT stop to ask her if she would like me to. I simply moved my tongue from her pussy lips to her ass hole. I only thought I was hard before I made that 2" move; but, as soon as my tongue contacted her ass I think the hardness in my dick increased by a factor of 10. In other words, I found the act quite erotic. Fortunately, I interpreted the increase of her pelvis/hip movements, the more rapid breathing, and the body quivering to all be indications she enjoyed the experience. While we have never been a couple to analyze and discuss our sexual practices after the fact, it's not difficult to know what one another enjoys.
HOWEVER, as I've learned later in life the lack of those discussions when all seems to be going well with regard to sex makes those discussions more difficult to have when things are no longer going so well with regard to sex.