Erections during examination

[quote author=Al C. link=topic=6831.msg294426#msg294426 date=1274375380]

S-Susie, I guess I am not being clear. I was not asking what sort of "sexual excitement" women get in that situation, but rather what sort of "emotional reaction" they are having. Reread what I posted, if you like. . . .

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I understood you perfectly. We don't have ANY reaction when we see an erection on a patient unless they mention up something or seem extremely embarrassed about it. . . . . Nothing emotional, nothing sexual.

Now, IF the patient is in great shape and is a hunky bodybuilding stud with a beautiful body, we might tell ourselves he has a beautiful body, but in general, we see penises in all degrees of arousal, so it really doesn't make any impression on us.

Other than that, gynecologists, urologists and other specialists who see genitalia all the time think NOTHING of seeing erections, wet vaginas and otherwise aroused bodies, unless they are reading a sexy magazine, seeing a movie or it is of their sex partners.

Al, many female physicians consider an erect penis to be sexual harassment. See http://content.nejm.org/cgi/content/full/329/26/1936. The key finding as it relates to your question was this: Two hundred seventy-nine respondents provided anecdotal examples of harassment. In the majority of these incidents (reported by 92 percent, or 257 women), the harasser was male. In most cases, the physicians had been harassed by their own patients (56 percent, or 156 women), although in the other cases the harassers were the patients of a colleague (11 percent, or 32 women), new patients (9 percent, or 26 women), or patients in emergency departments and walk-in clinics (14 percent, or 40 women). Sexual harassment occurred most commonly in the privacy of the office.

The respondents extensively described the behavior they defined as harassment. Among the common types of behavior thus reported were requests for genital examinations by patients who had no physical findings and displays of erections by patients before or during a physical examination.

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. . . . The respondents extensively described the behavior they defined as harassment. Among the common types of behavior thus reported were requests for genital examinations by patients who had no physical findings and displays of erections by patients before or during a physical examination.

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I can see why they feel that way, BUT, those patients were frauds. They had no pathology. That isn't the same thing as a real patient having an erection who has real signs and symptoms.

I wouldn't consider it harassment, I would consider it a waste of my time and insurance company's money, THAT I PAY and I resent paying for someone's fake examinations when they know there is nothing wrong and just want to get felt up by a female physician.

I also take affront to people here who have posted what to say to their doctors when they wanted a genital examination, especially when they knew there was no pathology and just wanted to get their rocks off.

When I was young I got an erection every time the doctor (female) checked my testicles. I think I was too young to understand it was totally normal. Even if I was, it was embarrassing. She was the only woman to ever see my penis erect, let alone touch it. I'm convinced that experience was the seed of my medical fetish.

DRrh, I could not access that article. When I tried, I got "page not found". But if I take what you say it says at face value, all I can tell is that some number of women docs call an erection harassment. And I bet it is. But I can't tell the percentage, or the circumstances, e.g., Susie's claim that those patients were frauds, i.e., had no pathology, nor other need to be examined. In any case, I am sure my doctors don't have that opinion of me because if they did they would say something negatively, or act differently (angry, hostile, cold and withdrawn, censorious, etc.). In fact, I have never had anything close to that sort of reaction. Quite the opposite. Susie's comments notwithstanding, they do evince some sort of emotional reaction, but I cannot put my finger on what it is. It is not sexual, nor is it condemnatory. And it certainly does not contain the irritation Susie shows when she says that

"I wouldn't consider it harassment, I would consider it a waste of my time and insurance company's money, THAT I PAY and I resent paying for someone's fake examinations when they know there is nothing wrong and just want to get felt up by a female physician.

I also take affront to people here who have posted what to say to their doctors when they wanted a genital examination, especially when they knew there was no pathology and just wanted to get their rocks off."

Whatever it is, it is a much more even-tempered reaction than that. But thanks for posting it. I know that some doctors do get into dicey situations sometimes that they didn't count on when they decided on medicine for their careers. My best friend in high school became a doctor. I remember when we were both 17 him telling me that he wanted to become a gynecologist so he could see up women's vaginas (I clearly recall him spreading his hands apart as if his fingers were a speculum as he said it). Years later at a reunion I asked him why he had become a dermatologist instead. He said that he had indeed become a gynecologist but when he was in training in a poor part of Philadelphia (he had gone to Temple after Harvard), he had become appalled at the procedures he had to do to extract what some women put up their vaginas. He couldn't take it, so he switched to dermatology!

Susie, thanks for your input. I am relieved to know that at least some, and perhaps most, women in medicine have no reaction at all if I get an erection during an exam.

AC, if you search "Sexual Harassment of female Physicians by Patients" the study should pop up. Regarding Suzie's interpretation of the study: I read the statement to mean that the most common behaviors that were viewed as harassment were either a patient requesting examination of genitals without any findings or presentation of an erection prior or during an exam. I did not read it to mean that they presented without finding and had an erection to boot. That being said, I think every provider will give an adolescent a free pass on an erection. However, if you have an adult male pop a boner and you sense sexual excitement and not embarrassment, then the patient has cross the line and its rarely appreciated.

What is interesting to me is that I know some female providers who have practiced for 10-15 years and could count on one hand the number of erections they've seen/induced. On the other hand, I know one female provider who seems to see and erection on a daily basis. This leads me to believe that there is something in their demeanor or exam skills that is causing males to erect. I suspect she enjoys it and is deliberately causing the males to erect.

My advice to you is if you get sexually excited by having a female exam you, switch to a male doc. Your health is to important to play around with. Then go find a nice female play doc to play with.

DRrh, I have been getting erections with female providers much if not most of the time for many years now. Sometimes it is partial, sometimes complete. (I am pretty sure it stems from three specific, and long, experiences I had in hospitals at ages 10, 14 and 17, many years ago.) What I find surprising about this and similar discussions is that I have not gotten any -- and I mean not a shred -- of negative reaction from any of these women in all that time. The most typical reaction that happens is a type of professional distance or detachment from it - not mentioning it or referring to it in any way. But also typical is a sort of amused or friendly (not sexual) acknowledgment of the situation that I find hard to pin down. That was my purpose in asking Susie about it.

One experience I had that was surprising to me, yet possibly suggestive of the cause, was during a testicle ultrasound done by an enormously fat and unattractive female technician who used a female chaperone, telling me it was for my own good as well as hers. During it, I did not get an erection. I was repulsed by her looks, attitude, lack of good grooming (for wont of a better term), etc., and that might well be the reason I did not get an erection that time. Overall, that incident had a element of the surreal about it that in retrospect I find humorous to this day. Yet it is worth noting that she almost alone among my various female providers was totally unattractive to me. So my getting an erection may require some degree of attractiveness by the women.

What I have made from all of these experiences (several dozens now over three decades), given that I read accounts of various negative reactions on boards like this or of studies such as the one you cited, is that either a lot of people make a mountain out of a molehill about the matter, or I am damned lucky, or my various female providers are an unusual or unusually sophisticated lot. But I am comfortable with them and they seem to be with me and I pretty much plan to continue with them as is. I see no advantage or need to change them. My PCP in particular and I have a great relationship and I have been going to her for about 15 years now. I trust her completely and she has done some important work for me. My urologist is a woman, and though I have only seen her four or five times (most recently for a cystoscopy), she seems the most blase of all of them about it. I have nothing against male doctors but I do think I have had better communications with and especially from the specific set of female doctors I have encountered compared to male doctors, so I'll stick with them. At my age, I am not easily embarrassed, anyway.

I was a little surprised about Susie's reactions. But the whole matter may just be one those situations where you have to be there, to actually experience it, to judge it properly.

Never happened to me, but there was this Physician's Assistant that I thought was attractive. She never examined me there, but I think that if she had I would probably have gotten an erection. She did check my prostate once. I even remember her first name, Louise.

I would love to get an erection while having my annual examination, but no luck. I ALWAYS make sure my PA or Doc is female. I treat the whole thing like a date 😁. I make sure I have a nice smooth shave on my groin and anus. Always an enema so there will be no embarrassing..... during the DRE. Alas, by the time she comes in to start, I have been sitting in that cold room, getting nervous and my penis is so small it has become inverted. On one occasion the PA had a very tight blouse and I could actually see her bra/breasts, whether on purpose or not who knows. She took more time than I usually have had on an examination and while leaning against the bed for the prostate exam I got semi hard but she never saw. Funny thing, I never really understood what “Bear Down” meant. I thought it meant to push against the doctor while she did the DRE, so I did. This really flustered her and of course I enjoyed the fact her fingers went deeper into me.

I did get hard one time while having my prostate massaged to get some fluid for examination. Very embarrassing since the doctor was a guy.

Maybe this will be my year!!!

I was examined by a female doctor in her 30's and my experience was different than some of yours. I knew the genital exam was coming but I was very relaxed.

When she had me pull my underpants down I had a slight erection, not bad but definitely noticeable.

She didn't say anything instead she smiled the whole time talking to me about unrelated things while she examined me. I felt very exposed but not embarrassed or guilty, I wasn't trying to get aroused but I wasn't fighting it either. In my opinion if a moderately attractive woman is going to feel my testicles and penis then she had better be comfortable with my body's physical reaction.

Overall it was pleasant experience and I'm happy that she wasn't uncomfortable with it.

Interesting question.

I was once with a young beautiful lady doctor, i guess she just passed out from medical school. It was hard to control my erection so i started counting December to January backwards that surely helped me not get an erection :-)

I have not gotten an erection since I was about 18. Back then I had a female doctor whow was maybe in her 30's and attactive so when she did the hernia check and prostate check I would get semi-hard. I only got a full erection the first time I went to her. Now over 20 years later, I never get an erection. Back then when I did get one, I apologized and she just said that eveything appeared to be working normally and never said anything else about it. On other occasions when I was semi hard, I know she was aware of it as she had to go around it to do the hernia check but she never said anything. It was a big non-event. Nothing to worry about.

I have never had an erection during a real examination and to answer you question SweetestTaboo....no involuntary ejaculations either.

I have had many erections and ejaculations when the doctor examined my penis.

Interesting mboyd..... how did the semen get cleaned up after your ejaculations?

As a child, while going through puberty at early age (about 8-9), I kept getting painful erections and pain in testicles. Mum took me to doctor to be checked. As he examined me I developed very full erection. Then when he pulled back by foreskin and touched my testicles I ejaculated. I'd not ejaculated before this, so didn't know what was happeneing & was scared, but was told it was OK.

As an adult, have only very occassionally had an erection during medical exam & certainly never ejaculated.

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Interesting mboyd..... how did the semen get cleaned up after your ejaculations?

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When the doctor first examined me and I had my first ejaculation at the age around 12-13 years old, there was not that much sperm produced....so he would just wipe it up with a tissue. As I got older and into my teenage years, my ejaculation become much stronger so when I came, it would be a lot more so he used the wipes from the sink that was in the exam room. The standard brown paper hand towel.

Sometimes he would just tease my penis so the sperm would just ooz out and not make that much of a mess so it was easy for him to wipe it up. Sometimes he would do it or I would clean myself up.

I had alot of precum dripping when the doctor examined my testicles with a half erection...I was very embarrassed especially when the precum has touchet her glove and stick to her hand😃)...when she wiped her hand and told me to wipe myself the erection was gone...but the nurse just couldn't take her eyes from the view...and when our looks meet she just looked at the floor and had a little smyle on her...I envy them...they can look and nobody is tellink them nothing😃..agreed?

Visiting my usual urologist since five years, I asked him to let me feel my prostate , because my wife can't use it for sensual play and because I was not able to tell her what and how to do .

He agreed .

And let me feel where the beast was , and how it feels when sollicited .

He must understand at my eyes that I was close to leak ..... and stopped the " training "

The ellapsed time was so short , and I was ready to leak , incredible .

If he don't give me this " training " I had never believe it was possible to leak so easily .

Be sure yes a man can leak in a very short time without any sexual arousal .

In my early teen years this was a bit of a problem...i remember one checkup i had probably around 12/13 where my dr finished my abdominal exam and as he was pulling the waistband of my underwear down it caught the head of my penis and pulled it up...it eventually sprang free and slapped back against my stomach making quite a loud noise. that was the most embarrassed i had ever been at the dr's since he then proceed to ask me if i had any problems in that area as he felt the base of my erect penis...

My first ever erection was in hospital as a child recovering from an operation - the nurses who were tending me tried to get me to relax and told me not to worry as it was a completely normal thing to happen. I have always remembered that moment and may well have been the core reason that developed my medical fetish.

I had a hard erection once consulting a female GP for phimosis. I was lying down, she retracted my foreskin, and then began to slide her finger around the edge of my glans, pointing my problem was actually a light balanitis. That gave me an erection, which did not subside when she took advantage of it to check whether my foreskin was easily retractable with an erection, sliding it back and forth a couple of times.

She even commented that, even with an erection on, I didn't have great difficulties in retracting it (though she noticed a slight phimotic ring)

Had it once during a school medical exam when I was 11 years old.

It was then I started to realize how sexy medical practices could be.

I have to admit that on three occasions when I've been a patient in the hospital I've had to have a catheter inserted because I couldn't void. There were a couple of times during each of the episodes that I've had an erection because of the way the catheter was pressing against my prostate. That being said, only once was it noticed by the nursing staff and all they did was blush and then asked me to roll on another side of my body to take the pressure off of my prostate.

I have never had a full blown erection during an exam although there was one time that it was close. Now, when I've received massages? That's a whole different thing and yes, I try to get them all the time when I know that the therapist is open to a "release" at the end.

I have vivid memories of having an erection every time the doctor examined my testicles when I was young. Growing up my doctor was always a woman, usually in her mid-40s, attractive but businesslike. My fetish for latex gloves was already strong at that point, and I recall staring at the box sitting in the counter by the sink, next to a big tube of KY and wonder what the lube was for. During the exam, when the time came and the doctor plucked two gloves out of the box and told me to drop my shorts, I couldn't help it. Listening to the sound of her hands stretching into the gloves, knowing that those gloves were to touch me. Never any pre-cum. I was old enough to know that having an erection was embarrassing, but not old enough to fully comprehend the situation. If only the doctor had used that KY....

The closest i ever came involved a female intern who was working with my regular doc and assisting with the exam. It was her perfume- the same as an exes- that almost did it. I felt a stirring but no actual erection.

I will be honest and only had one erection while female doctor was stething me, she doing notice but brushed it off which kinda sucked

Age 10.5 during regular school examination, early 70s, the doctor fiound that one of my testicles did not drop. I was given a note to my mother and she was asked to come with me the next week to meet the Dr. when we came he explained to her the situation and instructed me to get on the table and lay on my back. The Dr opened my jeans and pulled it down togather with my underwear down to my knees. It all happened so fast and next my mother was called by him to watch closely what the problem was with my testicle. He palpated my scrotum quite hard and to my great embarrassment my small penis became erect in front of my mom. I looked away to the wall as if i didn't notice it.

I used to get semi erect all the time as a teen (male ped.). Maybe woulda been diff if the doc was female and mom wasnt there with me. As an adult I don't even get the semi state at an exam.