how do i tell my wife i want to perform a medical exam on her
easier said than done. in many marriages i believe that kind of dialogue just IS NOT going to take place...and yet each partner may be capable of having the MOST intimate sort of dialogue with a different partner. its not simple and the key is to find a like minded person with whom one has good vibrations...otherwise it just cant be legislated...i have no desire to say something like....roll over or spread your legs....etc....to some potential partners....and yet, i cant catch my breath thinking of having that convo with certain other women....go figure, eh
Tell her you want to"look at her" spread her legs,lips,lick her a bit.She will enjoy bwing watched. Rub her clit and make it hard first, then start to examine
My wife has no interest gets embarrassed anytime it comes up
I have no clue how to even bring it up with my girlfriend
Just ask, I bought a couple of items, speculum (2 types) and a stethoscope. Then bring them into play. Mine was interested what her vagina looked like after sex, only happy to oblige. We now have a play every now and again
It took three years of bringing the subject up and being rejected before my Wife would even consider it. But this year for my birthday she said ok to me buying some speculums and examining her.
Have a little patience, sometimes you have to let the idea sink in. If they love you and they see you're not trying to hurt them then maybe they'll come around. She's also passed the responsibility for her monthly breasts exams onto me as she doesn't like to do them.
Good things come to those who wait.
Be up front with her. After a very drunken night I let my friends husband examine me in from of his wife and my husband. She let my husband examine her but kept her panties on, so no gyno.
I find the best advice is always to be open with your likes but not to try and push for an instant answer if she obviously is not isntantly turned on by the idea.
Introduce the medical aspects slowly. For starters, tell her that you would love to be her doctor during foreplay. Then slowly bring more medical-related things into each session - she'll get the idea.
how do i get my husband to invite one of my gf to be examined? thoughts?
sounds like you would make a perfect medical wife ! i would love you to make me lay across your lap an have you insert suppositories up my bum ;)then i would do the same to you if you like?.
The next time that she is a bit under the weather, take her over your lap and give her a rectal temperature. You might be surprised that she liked it. Hmmmm?
If you have a spare room set it up as an exam room. As suggested here ,I have a white fitted sheet on the table, and a white pillow. I also found here its important to leave your instruments, exam gloves, lube on a table nearby. I usually give her 1 to 2 minutes sitting on the exam table , and have seen her staring at the instrument table the whole time. I believe in anticipation of the exam to come. If you always give her a relaxing massage before her examination, she will always associate it with pleasure. Always move slowly when moving up in further in exams. Light anal play and massage before more and deeper probing. If you keep it positive, and leaned toward her pleasure, I think any woman would probably not mind.I leave my exam room up all the time, and have seen her look into it daily as she works around the house.
I preplanned her entry into MedFet over a few day period. She had never tried it before , or expressed interest. I rented a dvd called desert passions, I had seen it on the road , and while it was a corny film it had several seens in it of women laying on a gurney being examined. She watched it and really did not say much. The next night I had planned an intro session into MedFet. I had previously bought and hid a stethascope and planned that night. I started off by giving her a fully body massage with oil so she was very relaxed. I then started an erotic massage of her breast's , her abdomen , and began slowly massaging between her legs. She started to get very wet, I wispered into her ear if I could try something a little diffrent, she wispered yes, and I pulled out the steth and begain to listed to her heart. I had her sit up and begain to listen at her back. then begain to more medically examine her breast's. I ended it and gave her a very hot orgasm. I have since continued slowly, she even bought me an exam table, massage table for my birthday. She has since begain to enjoy it more with the table set up in a spare room. There are nights I am not even thinking about it , she will walk by the TV in a towel , go to the exam room and wait for me sitting on the edge of the table.
I put together a form that lists her consent to do what is necessary. My si gf loves when we role play ,and i go to the DR's with her. So secretly seduce her into the idea and you both will like it . ;) ;) :P :P :-* :-*
I would say that the best idea is not to leap in and confess all your wildest fantasies without context, because that scares even the most adventurous of us. Wait until she's (or he's) feeling a little bit unwell anwyay and get gradually more 'attentive' as you're looking after them. For example if the most you usually do is give them some painkillers and a hug, try taking their temperature (rectally if you know they're into that area and won't run a mile), and take it from there.
My wife had canceled an appointment with her gynecologist. One night in bed, when I had undressed her and it was clear we were going to do something, she happened to be sitting up and I asked "Didn't you cancel your doctor's appointment?" She said she did, and I said, "Well, lie back then" and examined her breasts. She was smiling like it was kind of funny. By the time I finished examining her vagina, she was smiling a very different smile. She's now into it—just last week, she asked to have her vagina examined.
How i did it was hunni you know the DR VISITS they get me hot and i would like to give you an exam ,to see how close i can re placate what the DR did . next we discussed and then we did . Don't leave any thing to chance or no go next time. that is how i approached my GF .
It depends on how "playful" you wife is....if she likes games, you could play a game with her where you each agree to put several "sexual" suggestions on pieces of paper and put them in jar. Then, during dinner one night during the week, one of you pulls out one of the "suggestions" with the understanding that you will both agree to do it on one of the following nights. Allowing some time between the idea being floated out and the actual experiment allows your wife to get used to the idea, and even to get excited about it.
Spreadlisa, I have a similar issue in the respect that I still haven't managed to commuincate the full scale of my desire to my partner. I tried once and got a fairly flippant/ambivalent reaction so I didn't push it.
However, a couple of days back as my partner was reaching the apex of an orgasm she grabbed my hand and said feel my 'heartbeat', which really took me back, and not wanting to miss the opportunity to exploit the situation asked if I could listen with my ear which was greeted with nothing short of glee. I now think from this tiny glimmer of interest I can slowly and patiently (no pun inteneded) build it into a medical secario: next time for instance i'll find a cock and bull story for introducing a stehoscope and see if it lights the touchpaper and take it from there.
So maybe try that with him. Start by getting him to feel your heartbeat in a similar way and build on it. Sorry if that sounds a little manipulative or insidious but people often freak to sudden change but can get used to almost any idea if introduced to it slowly – and it seems to be working for me.
Like yourself I am seriously worried about pressing the freak button but judging by the huge amount of people viewing the site – just a cursoury glance says there are 114 guests and 44 members online at this precise second – it suggests we're not quite as isoltaed and unusual as we think and probably won't get the awful reaction were are expecting.
Appologies for the lecture. Do drop me a line if you want to talk some more.
i have the same problem with my husband. I'm so afraid to bring it up. I think the "do you wanna play docotor" is a good start - although he might think I want to exam him and just blow him or something. not sure how to tell him I want to be the patient, for real!
I start with some innocent talk, maybe after watching something like Grey's anatomy and ask, wanna play Dr?
I think it helps if you already have (or can introduce) some kind of role-play or BDSM dynamic into your relationship. If your partner really is strictly vanilla then it may not be possible but if they enjoy even a minor sexual deviation, like mild bondage for instance, then that suggests their boundaries can be pushed a little further and possibly steered towards some medical play.
For instance, my current partner doesn't get it yet but she is into other kinks so I will continue to slowly steer things in the right direction. My two previous partners were both natural subs. One loved bondage and the other loved role play so they were already very open minded, which made it easy to suggest a medical dimension to our activities. The latter actually had a penchant for teacher pupil roleplay so it was almost a natural progression to include a school medical into play scenarios whereas the former loved having devices inserted into various orifices so introducing some gyno equipment was again a natural progression.
You can see a thread forming here but the only thing I would avoid is jumping straight in. If you have been having vanilla and unsalted sex for your whole relationship then turning up in a white coat with a load of scary medical devices will probably freak your partner right out and maybe scupper any future opportunities. It's all about perception.
Just my 2 pennies worth
My wife knows about my medical fantasies, and prefers for me to keep them to myself.
IMO, this is still better than never knowing what your partner thinks.
For members and people with more difficulties in telling their wifes: - question: does she does a monthly breast exam? if she does tell her that you love her and want to be involved in that personal health question, tell her you learned in the internet how it is done and the importance of being done. Tell her that you 2 would like to examine her breasts. If she does not do a monthly breast exam ask her why and tell her again about the importance of the thing and that you are offering to do it. After achieving to examine her breasts tell her that you allways were intersted in medecine particularly in gynecology but were allways too shy to tell, and then with time you will suggest examining other parts of her body. search for this in the videos section and show it to her:how to do a breast exam on your girlfriend 2008.12.30 11:42
I recently told my wife about my interest in medfet after discovering this site. I finally got the courage up after reading many of the encouraging posts on this site. She took it pretty well and is up for giving it a try. The only stipulation she had was she must be tied up so she could get some enjoyment as well ;)
I would love to be able to do this with my gf, but she already is uncomfortable with and doesn't like her own exams. I think it would be hard to convince her otherwise.
Good luck though!
My wife wouldn't even consider it. She doesn't like to play at all. She has always been to serious about sex and role play is totally out. When we were younger, I tried once and she cut me off for over a month and finally started talking to me not about any sexual topic. She does not want to talk about any thing that has to do with sex. She tells me I try to analyze it, so she won't talk to me about sex.
I do not try to analyse any thing. I just try to get her to talk about things we do. She doesn't want to do that.
Does she have any type of nursing skills?
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