Having a Dialog while Exposed

Ever have an examination with the doctor talking to you while exposed.

Had it happen twice first time was during a group physical with the doctor asking medical questions before starting the exam with us dressed in only panties.

Second was during my first gyno exam with a speculum, explaining the use of the thing as I was spread eagle.

In both cases would have been more appropriate before undressing.

What similar experiences have you had?

Ever have an examination with the doctor talking to you while exposed.

I think it depends on what you really mean by "talking to you". If you mean the doctor conversing with you prior to the actual hands-on exam, perhaps reviewing your medical history and prescriptions, then I think that's rare. Even when I'm there for a full physical exam, and I'm stripped completely without a gown or underwear, I'm usually covered with a small paper drape during that initial history and discussion part of the exam. It's only when she stands up from the desk and begins the hands-on exam that the drape is removed and I'm then completely exposed.

On the other hand, there are frequently times during the hands-on physical exam that my doctor is talking to me, all the while I'm completely exposed. A prime example is when it's time for my genital and hernia exam. If it hasn't already been removed by that time, the paper drape is set aside and I'm requested to stand up before her. During this part of the exam, she frequently talks to me about relevant topics, asking me if I have any problems or issues with nighttime urination, or sexual performance, or other issues with my "plumbing". Sometimes we'll get into longer discussions about the scars from my previous hernia repair. I consider all of that "talking to me" during the exam.

Yes... it happened to me sometimes, but not exactly in the way you described lenka.

the doctors talked about something else, nothing to do with the exam, such as sports or movies... i think they do that trying to relax the situation and make me think of something different... they never reached that goals

It usually occurred after the completion of the examination while I was still naked and the doctor provided a summation. I raced to dress in order to establish some sense of modesty.

How about during a play exam? Is it then a little bit more appropriate😉 ?

Yea my doctor always asks random questions during my exams. I think it's just her way of trying to distract me. It's nice.

Nurses often try to engage me in unrelated conversation as I bend over with pants down for injections in an effort to take my mind off what is about to happen but nothing can distract me from thoughts of the posterior pain to come.

My internist usually will ask random questions throughout the exam. It helps to relax and distract me from what is going on.

My OB/GYN has always run a non-stop conversation as she or he (depends on who in the practice I might be seeing) proceeds with the exam. I think it is sort of nice because I need to concentrate on what is being said rather than on what they are doing. It seems to make the time fly by and unlike a visit with my dental hygienist I can readily respond.

I once had an exam where the doctor, nurse, and I talked about college football the entire time. He did what he needed to do and I didn't require a whole lot of instruction so we just carried on debating the in-state rivalry and whether or not you should cheer for or against the rival team!

Yes most doctors I've been to have done this, especially at the gynecologist. They tend to do it more during the "personal intimate" exams, certainly during the breast and pelvic exams. I think the point is to distract me with chit chat and questions about other stuff so I am less focused on what is being done to me.

When I was a kid, the doctor would ask me about the basket ball team and what kind of season we expected to have. While I was sitting there in my boxers. These days there the doctor will review and lab results and ask if I have any specific issues to ask about. Once she begins the exam, her comments or questions are related to the exam.

There is nothing more awkward than talking to your doctor about your weekend plans while she has your penis in her hands. I'm guessing this is a strategy they are taught to take your attention away from the exam at hand. For some reason it makes me much more aware of what is going on. It almost feels passive aggressive nature. /s

I had an urology exam scheduled, No nurse, no fan fair of vitals or anything else that usually entails a visit to a specialist.

I walked into the exam room that was fairly large with a small desk and exam table on the far wall near the window. Shades were closed. We chatted about my reason for being sent to a specialist, mainly pelvic pain and urination frequency. He then asked if he could have me stand, over in the middle of the room and drop my pants and shorts. I stood up and noticed the room door was open halfway. I asked if I should shut the door first. He agreed and returned to his desk and started typing on the keyboard. I closed the door and walked back to the middle of the room and dropped my pants. I stood there with my tshirt lifted up and waited for him. He finished typing and turned in his seat and stayed there while he talked about how he had applied to move his practice to an area closer to his home 'out in the country' (about 30 minutes west of the hospital we were at). I thought the conversation was, 1. odd (topic and timing) 2. off the wall, as we had not discussed anything remotely close to this previously 3. inappropriate as I stood there about 5 feet from him and mostly exposed.

I thought about bending back down and lifting my pants, or lowering my tshirt, but talked myself out of it as I was afraid he would have thought I was weird by covering up after being exposed for so long (I had no idea how long we would chat, or where this story he was sharing with me was going). His 'hands on' exam lasted about 20 seconds, but I was standing there, in the middle of the large exam room, exposed for about 4 minutes.

It was weird.

His 'hands on' exam lasted about 20 seconds, but I was standing there, in the middle of the large exam room, exposed for about 4 minutes. It was weird.

That does seem like a really bizarre time to strike up a totally unrelated conversation. And you would think that if you want to have that kind of conversation, at least wait until after you've done the exam.

I am convinced that both doctors and nurses learn that by chatting it helps the patient to become distracted and more at ease with the exam process and procedures. Usually its small talk though sometimes about things i enjoy and it does help me while being exposed and probed. I would much rather engage in this than having the doctor or nurse speak as if I wasn't even there! That was so typical when growing up.

Thanks for this interesting question.

I am convinced that both doctors and nurses learn that by chatting it helps the patient to become distracted and more at ease with the exam process and procedures.

As I said, most of the time now when the examiner is engaging me in conversation while exposed, it's relevant to the exam itself. However in the past I have had some doctors engage in this type of random conversation that is totally unrelated to the exam. I also found this to be distracting, but not actually in a good way. Since I actually enjoy having an exam, in my mind I'm trying to visually and audibly capture everything that's happening so that I can replay it in my mind later. If the doctor is asking me unrelated questions during an intimate part of the exam, I don't like it. I'd rather concentrate on what he/she is doing with their hands, and what they are saying that IS relevant to my exam. I really ruins it for me.

Usually throughout all of my exams, all the docs & nurses will make small talk. Anything ranging from the weather to current events to to sports.

I always figured it was to make both parties feel less awkward. Whether they could detect i was nervous/awkward or not. And most of the time i usually was.

The nurse will particularly make small talk while drawing blood. I make it no secret that i don't particularly enjoy being stuck with needles and having blood withdrawn. All part of my open honesty. So I think the nurses try to put me at ease by talking about something else to take my mind off of it.

The docs do it between steps or while palpating, certainly not while they're listening with the steth, and not during hernia or genital check. The only dialogue during the hernia check is "Cough".

It actually does work when i AM feeling nervous & awkward. Women will especially do it, as they tend to be more uncomfortable with silence. During exams, i usually speak when giving a response. I let them control the dialogue, etc.

When I was a patient of gay doctors in NYC, it was a given that we would chat, that the conversation might include medical issues, but would also, depending upon the doctor, wander off, and in two cases, I was naked for the whole exam, but never uncomfortable with it, or with the side discussions. A third doctor, known for requiring his patients to be naked, kept the talk to procedures that he was doing.

Most recently, during an occupational physical, I was stripped to briefs while the doctor shifted back and forth, from instructing me to do this or do that, and telling me about a specific, rare type of mandolin, a renowned player, and how the instrument was played, with a feather.

Wrestling Poet - Yu should talk in details on here about your doctors in NYC and describe the exams.

I recently had a trans rectal ultrasound for an elevated psa and the doc nurse and I chatted the whole time about weather kids etc. It took a while because of biopsies but talking at the very least made it less awkward for all of us.

Yep, happens at every exam. My last ob/gyn exam involved conversations about my time in China, as my physician was thinking about traveling there.

I don't think there's anything wrong with chatting about something else while doing some of the more uncomfortable parts of the exam. If it makes the patient a bit more comfortable, then it's ok. 😃

It has varied from physician to physician. My pediatrician always tried to maintain a conversation. (How's school? What do you do when you're not in class? What are you thinking about studying in college--the standard stuff.) As an adult, some doctors are very down to business and don't engage much at all. (My last one finished the exam and just told me to come back in three years. I'm in my early 30s, so while I know I don't need to go in every year, that comment felt like a bit of a brush-off.) My previous PCP was really outgoing--great guy. The second time I saw him for a routine check-up, I was back on the exam table in my underwear (the part of the exam where I'm tend to tense up because I feel totally exposed), he was testing my reflexes and my range of motion in my legs and he went on a tangent on why mobsters blow out your knees when doing a hit job. (According to him, because of the location of major arteries, you bleed out faster.) It was so out of left field it gave me a good laugh--completely diffused any tension in the air. And of all the physicians I've had, I was able to talk most openly with him because he was able to keep things light and (in his own, perhaps unconventional way) he encouraged dialog.

I am in my underwear during my yearly physical so the conversation usually starts out with some friendly banter followed by a review of any symptoms or issues I might be having. During the exam she seems very focused, detailed and says very little. I let her do the job. One year I informed her I was going to walk The Camino De Santiago in a few weeks. She seemed really interested and we started talking about the history of the pilgrimage and my personal motivations for taking the journey. My words may flow with great ease but getting me to open up in a verbal context can often be very difficult. Another reason I feel fortunate to have my current doctor.

I have had some small talk with the doctor when sitting on the exam table in my underwear. Last time anything serious happened when fully nude, was when the pediatrician was showing me how to do a testicle self-exam since I admitted to not doing them every so often.

At a CRS I laid on the table with my backside exposed, though otherwise clothed, only at this point did the doctor leave to fetch a nurse, and then have a chat to her about where her name was from and some other chat - and all with the door open but fortunately an angled room so the waiting room couldn't see me - but then he realised I was there and 'oh sorry! Uh right I'll have a look at you....'

Lying on the table during a company medical. Wearing underpants. After examining my belly the doctor had put his hand into my pants and felt my testicles and gone on to examine my legs and feet. He then took my waistband and pulled my pants down enough for him to see and examine my uncircumcised penis. My wife worked for the same firm. He kept my pants pulled down after the exam and still looking at my penis and testicles started up a conversation about my wife and when she was coming in for her medical. The last thing I wanted to think about was my wife lying on the same table in only her panties. It seemed a long conversation before he put my pants back up.

I have had some small talk with the doctor when sitting on the exam table in my underwear. Last time anything serious happened when fully nude, was when the pediatrician was showing me how to do a testicle self-exam since I admitted to not doing them every so often.

How old were you at a pediatrician's office that they showed you how to do a testicular exam?

How old were you at a pediatrician's office that they showed you how to do a testicular exam?

I can't verify anyone's experiences but my own, however I recall my pediatrician telling me at my last physical with him that he recommended I do a self exam.

I think the common age range where testicular cancer is a concern is 15-35, so it makes sense to me that a pediatrician would make that recommendation to an older patient.

I am not by nature a very chatty sort of person. Small talk bores me and I often have to try to keep from smiling or laughing at the inane and predictable kind of conversations that goes on between people who don't know each other and never will (rainy weather we've been having lately. Oh my, yes it has ... When that kind of thing starts I have an urge to imitate John Cleese dressed up as housewife and start talking in a screechy voice ... ha ha). And I suppose others sense that in me. So I cannot really recall much of a dialogue going on during exams or procedures.

My GP will perhaps ask about things before any exam if there are few patients in the waiting room. But once he starts it is all business. The same in virtually all other places. Besides, Belgians are not known for chatting your ears off. Friendly as can be, but reserved. Perhaps even more than the Brits across the Channel.