Can the doctor tell?

I'm a closeted bisexual.

While I have not been penetrated by a real penis, i've taken plenty of toys and fingers when I play solo.

Anyway, can a doctor tell someone receives anal penetration by looking at it? Or even feeling it?

During my physical this year, my doctor told me to relax and she got in there and as she is washing her hands afterwards she said "wow you were really relaxed!"

So I'm curious if it's obvious to them or not.

Anyway, can a doctor tell someone receives anal penetration by looking at it? Or even feeling it?

NO. Some people are looser, some are tighter.

Anyway, can a doctor tell someone receives anal penetration by looking at it? Or even feeling it?

I very much doubt a visual inspection will reveal anything.

However, in older books - talking about the 1960s and prior, even pre WWI - I do remember reading that doctors inspecting men, often made a point of noting the looseness of the anal sphincter. Looseness being an indicator - but not definite proof - of anal activity, and moreover, those times being as unenlightened as they were, an indicator of homosexual anal activity (this from before the term gay was used). I believe that in military induction exams back in those times, it was thought to be an indication of possible homosexual inclinations and experience, something to be on the lookout for in recruits.

I also remember reading about this in comparative ethnic anthropology books from before the war. Sample individuals from tribes and ethnic groups, besides being photographed nude, were also checked for their possible homosexual practices by testing the elasticity of the anal sphincter. It used to be a job with perks if you were an anthropologist back in colonial times.

So anal looseness, being easily penetrated, used to be something that sent a signal, something to be on the lookout for, maybe even suspicious of, all depending on a doctor's view on sexual morality.

Nowadays I suppose it shouldn't make much of a difference one way or another. But then again, depending on the doctor's own ideas on morality, it may give them suspicions. Don't forget that a large number of doctors, nurses and medical personnel still believe that homosexuality is a sort of disease that can be cured. There was a post on that subject on Zity recently and I personally found the percentages of docs/nurses in the EU who believed this to be horridly high.

So, while a doc probably can't deduce anyone's sexual proclivities from such an exam, if it were me, I'd wonder what your doc was trying to communicate by such a remark. From what you've described, to me, it sounds like a sort of approval in some way, maybe sexual, maybe just health-wise, maybe because it went so easily for her compared to other patients she's seen.

No we can't tell if you've had anal penetration. And no we don't think homosexuality is an illness which can be cured. Where did you that idea? I think we're more enlightened than that.

If your anus holds in your feces during the course of the day, it's doing its job.

As long as it does that, we don't give a rats ass about what you do with your asshole.

No we can't tell if you've had anal penetration. And no we don't think homosexuality is an illness which can be cured. Where did you that idea? I think we're more enlightened than that.

Good grief, don't you know me well enough by now? I never said I BELIEVE any of that stuff.

But I did say that I READ those things back when I was young. There were doctors back then who did believe those things, especially about a loose anal sphincter. I'm also more or less certain that this is the kind of idea you would find in books by early sexologists like Kraft-Ebbing or Havelock Ellis. They were in many ways still finding their way and fumbling about. Magnus Hirschfeld was probably a bit more informed, as he was a gay activist himself.

Don't forget this kind of thing was written and published in the times that homosexuality was quite illegal in many countries: paragraph 75 in Germany, Oscar Wilde, Alan Turing and heavens knows in how many states in the US. If it is illegal then people in the legal system love a way to identify the guilty or make them easier to spot. Imagine the horror of gay soldiers in the armed forces in WWII.

You know I like to drone on about things I have read about, no matter how silly or incorrect they may be. That doesn't mean you can't learn anything from those ideas or simply find them interesting in a historical way, to be informed how things change.

And it certainly doesn't mean I personally believe them myself.

No we can't tell if you've had anal penetration. And no we don't think homosexuality is an illness which can be cured. Where did you that idea? I think we're more enlightened than that.

Btw - I wonder what kind of response you'd get from a typical East European doctor, say from Poland, Ukraine, Russia? Ten to one says that a large percentage will still believe the loose anal sphincter thing being linked to (gay) anal activity.

Not saying I believe it, but simply surmising about what others believe in several notoriously homophobic countries ...

I just thought that I'd like to put my 5 cents worth in here. I have been doing some very heavy lifting and felt quite a pain in my lower abdomen. That night the pain was so intense that my lady carted me off to the emergency room. After some 'hits' of morphine I was sent home and a colonoscopy was scheduled. Having been an anal erotic for 68 years I was worried that they would come to the conclusion that I am a homosexual. It turned out that my surgeon was a young female and I told her of my pleasures and when she came to see me later she said she wouldn't have known if I hadn't told her. Regards, irrigator333

Sorry Agracier of course I know you don't believe it. I'm sorry I haven't been around much lately.

A guy told me a story in a chat room a short while back. He went to see a doc for stomach problems. The doc had him strip completely. he was a little confused about it. The doc had him lie down on the table and did a rectal exam. He thought the doc could tell he did anal because he ask him if he had never had anal sex. The guy admitted he did. When the doc was doing a rectal exam, he started going in and out with his finger a little, asking the guy if he liked it.

Long story short, the guy went to meet the doc as his place at night & got in stirrups the doc had, and had anal sex. (I spared a lot of the details from the whole story)

Now i don't know if the story was bs or not. I'm just relating what i was told. I like to give folks the benefit of the doubt. in doing so, i risk being gullible. Sometimes i say to myself "Why would someone make something like that up?" But then folks will tell me guys will make up stories if they think they can get others aroused.

But if that was true, then perhaps some docs CAN tell. That was my whole point

But if that was true, then perhaps some docs CAN tell. That was my whole point

I am very certain that some doctors still do believe they can tell. Especially in countries that are more or less homophobic, legality notwithstanding.

In extreme instances, like say in Uganda where apparently much of the population buys into the discourse of the evils of homosexuality, I would definitely not wish for a doctor to diagnose a loose anal sphincter. If the population already falls for the anti-gay laws because of morality and religion, what other kinds of weird things will they believe about gays? And a denunciation is so easily made.

Personally I think that a Doctor can tell or have some inkling that someone is anally erotic by some of the non verbal clues . As with most that are not anally erotic , its difficult to relax as a finger penetrates the anal sphincter, those that are its easier to relax (I have notice this) and as ChubbyLeahCD said :

During my physical this year, my doctor told me to relax and she got in there and as she is washing her hands afterwards she said "wow you were really relaxed!"

So I suspect you as an examiner do have a fairly good clue with non verbal signs of distress or sexual arousal. These non verbal clues are difficult to conceal and when you are trained to observed for non verbal responses , they not difficult to spot.