Pain in anus v pleasure

Hi ,

I get great pleasure from something small in my ass , especially as I cum. But anything bigger than a finger I just can't handle , it hurts too much .

Can you learn to take bigger things ? Do you have to stretch it ?

What would you recommend to get me better at taking stuff ?

If it hurts, STOP!

Meanwhile, just go with the pleasure you get from your finger and other small stuff. if you really want to increase the size, work your way up slowly. A conical plug may be a good start. Just push it in as far as is comfortable...

That is stellar advice lol .

I just wondered if it hurt at first for all ?

I just wondered if it hurt at first for all ?

You probably have to be certain that hurt means hurt, really physical hurting, or if at first it isn't just anxiety or being tensed up because it is a new type of activity.

The obvious way to go though is by using increasingly larger objects. If a finger feels fine, then try something marginally larger. That obviously means having a number of different sized objects suitable for insertion.

Also, don't forget to lubricate, the more the better.

Go slowly with every new partner, as you and your body need to learn to trust them. Start small and work up. Make sure your partner knows what they are doing and have preferably experimented many times on themselves so they know how things work. Use plenty of lube, spend lots of time massaging and stimulating the outside, and if you don't make it inside be OK with that.

That said I'm better at giving the advice than taking it. My anus hurts today because I asked my wife to slip a finger in yesterday, and there wasn't enough lube, it was poking the wrong way, and her fingernails were too long. I was too ornery to call it off and get some more lube because I really like having my ass played with and a part of me was worried she might not start up again if we stopped. Stupid, I know, and I'm playing the price. I checked it out and it's not serious, just painful. I guess I must at some level get off on some pain as well, because it did hurt at the time as well, but like an idiot I went ahead. Fortunately not much blood and no perforated rectum. Big takeaway: like has been noted if it hurts stop. If your partner will not stop then don't let them anywhere near your anus (or rest of your body for that matter). If YOU can't trust YOURSELF to stop when it hurts then don't do it either.

I shouldn't laugh at that but I had to , golly that sounds sore lol .

I really appreciate the advice ,thank you people

I shouldn't laugh at that but I had to , golly that sounds sore lol .

I really appreciate the advice ,thank you people

Laugh and remember. I knew it was stupid but did it anyway.

Your ass is delicate and can be a source of great joy or lots of pain and problems. Give that gift wisely to both yourself and (if you decide to) anyone else, and only to those who deserve it.

Yes, it hurt (it's getting better now after a couple of days), and fortunately her finger was still in the anal canal where the wall is protected somewhat by the sphincters. If she'd been in further and I hadn't said anything there could have been serious damage. Don't do what I did.

@Paris_Winter I don't know what sort of budget you have, but for +/- $60 US you can purchase a set of anal dilators. These are similar to butt plugs, but the narrow neck is somewhat less narrow. Most sets have five or six dilators, ranging from small to Oh My Gawd! I recommend SLOWLY inserting the small one, using LOTS of lube, and easing it in, backing off, pushing it in further, until it seats itself. Wear it as long as possible, shooting for sleeping with it in you. Once doing this with the small one becomes easy, move to the next larger size until maybe you can take the big one. DO NOT keep going if you reach a point where it is extremely painful: you can do permanent damage to your anus, possibly resulting in anal incontinence! Slow and easy is the way to go. And yes, you will eventually be ready for great anal sex! Oh, one final note: Don't just pop the next larger size in, start every time working your way up the line to the largest one you're using.

Everything mushroom said, but I strongly disagree that you can cause incontinence. People anal fist for years...for a lifetime...

You ass was designed for heavy use. A little bit of caution it will last a lifetime. The incontinence rumour was started by parents trying to scare the bejeezus out of kids they catch having anal sex. I heard it from my mother forty some years ago...still not pooping my panties.

@buttwoman - I must disagree with you...

From your posts here, you are very experienced and apparently have a very stretchy, pliable anus. (I'd LOVE to check it out, LOL!) If a person is not properly loosened up prior to an anal insertion, especially a newbie, it is possible to tear the inner and outer anal sphincters, causing it to leak. This usually corrects itself as the muscles heal, but some never return to their prior anal tonus, and wind up in Depends or the like. I'm just saying that taking it slow and easy is the wisest policy. I DO agree that after months (years?) of anal play, the muscles can take much larger insertions without much prep. Again, don't skimp on the lube!!!

I have to agree with Mu5hr00m.

Injure your anal ring and you will have some degree of insufficiency. Tearing it will require anal reconstructive surgery which will forever end your large insertions.

Go slowly.

I have made the "gymnast learning to do a split analogy" for years here. If a new gymnast was learning to do a split and the coach pushed her to the floor by the shoulders, there would be significant injury to the muscles. The same holds true for the anus.

I agree with mushroom #8 although I wouldn't recommend to sleep with a toy in your ass - at least if you don't know what you're doing. Because after some time the lube will wear off and in the morning it might be painful to get the toy out again. So if you're stretching for a longer time you should relube regulary.

A fire extinguisher pushed into the ear can cause damage. I assumed the readers were not idiots.

Focus on the pleasure.

Use what feels good and if you can go just beyond pleasure for a little bit of pain in order to train you anus over time then go slow and take baby steps. I think we all have seen videos of people taking large objects in their asses. And we equate larger with more pleasure. Well those folks didn't start with those huge insertions- you are seeing the culmination of years of training to get to that point.

Yes its fun to try to put larger and larger objects in your anus but remember the key is to not hurt yourself and enjoy each session with pleasure no matter how big the object is that is going in your ass. Don't get too carried away with size.

@ Buttwoman - I love you, I truly do, but remember what they say about "assume"! After reading hundreds of posts here, I think you give too much credit to some of the intellects drifting around this site! Just sayin'!

I was being nice. You're right, SOMEBODY will try to drive a Smart car into their ass the first try, hurt themselves, and tell the rest of the world that anal play is dangerous.

I have never inserted anything larger than a naturally large penis. My preference is for the real thing but I do have some toys.

Use a abundance of lube start with the one finger , after a week or so try two fingers , always lots of lube . After a couple of weeks go with a object like a small vibrator . Lube is the most important, you do not want to tear anything. Women who haven't had vaginal sex for a long amount of time do the same . Soon you should be able to get where you want , go slow keep smiling and keep that lube near by ..