Burning/stinging sensation during anal sex

I recently took up pegging with a partner and experienced an unfortunate surprise. When my partner began thrusting i felt, how i can best describe, a painful stinging sensation. The sensation felt like it was coming from inside my rectum and just past sphincter. I do not believe it was the size of the toy or depth she was going that was the problem but the friction from when she moved that caused the pain.

Is anyone familiar with this? Have any idea what it might be? I have done plenty of anal play in the past but it this is the first time I have been pegged in a little over a year. I have never experienced this or any other pain during anal play and have used bigger toys then the ones that were causing the pain. As i mentioned above, I do not believe that the toy was too large or deep but that possibly the skin near my sphincter was irritated? I don't think it is an STD as I only play with women so have only had toys back there.

Any help is greatly appreciated

It sounds like your sphincter was not relaxed when the object was thrust in.

A second possibility is tearing and bleeding due to insufficient lubrication.

With anal play you need plenty of foreplay and prep time. For each encounter you'll probably need non-anal foreplay (to just raise your sexual excitement level), anal foreplay starting with non-penetrative and ending with penetration (to relax, lube and prepare your anus), and prep to make sure you are confident.

Prep may include enemas for each session, because if you're worried about poop/mess then you might not be able to relax. Prep can also include self-play and wearing a buttplug for a while to get your anus accustomed to being open.

Prep also includes a period of time (probably weeks/months) before you do pegging at all, or even partner play. This time allows you to get to know your anus, learn to enjoy the sensations and relax your voluntary muscles, and then you slowly bring your partner in so you can learn how it feels with a partner and that you can trust them.

Three good books: Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino. Yes, the last one says "Woman" in the title, but it's really directed for anyone who has an anus or wants to penetrate one.

A slim possibility (based on your description of the pain starting when thrusting started it isn't likely) is a reaction to the lube. Occasionally I'll have a lube that burns, but that usually starts when it's applied or right when something is inserted (finger, toy). You might try a different lube. Make sure it's nice and thick and good quality.

Could be something as simple as an allergy to your lube, or condoms (if you use those)

Try switching up lubes. Remember K-Y was invented in the dark ages for doctors, and thermometers, and the like and is really lousy lube. Vaseline is worse. Buy something purpose built for ANAL sex. I like FuckWater brand so much they sent me a t-shirt.

It sounds strange, but "back in the day" gays used crisco for anal. One of my wife's OB/GYN suggested the same for her, but she never wanted to try it, so I can't say if it really works. Just a thought.

Crisco is worth a try, but be warned, you will need a drum of industrial strength floor cleaner to clean up afterwards. The gay community still swears by it, but as an anal addict, I hate it almost as much as J-lube, which I only keep for really tough jobs.

I have a dildo that causes this same type of irritation. It has to do with the dildo itself and what it is made of. My dildo is a type of jelly dildo. I noticed that when using it I would get this kind of burning sensation. So I started putting a condom on it and the problem went away. So I recommend trying a condom on the dildo and see if that works to eliminate to pain.

If you don't want to use condoms, you may want to try getting a silicone dildo, which would be much less irritating. Here is a good toy store, which does have a huge selection of dildos and they include in their descriptions the type of material the dildo is made of. I have ordered from them before and found them to be a safe and reliable online store.

http://testiclove.adultshopping.com/topsextoys

Also do some Google searches on the types of materials used in the dildo you might be interested in. You can get a feel for what might be the least irritating. I do believe silicone is the best type of material as least likely to cause irritation.

Buttwoman said

Buy something purpose built for ANAL sex. I like FuckWater brand so much they sent me a t-shirt.

and you can wear this where???

Ummm...the same place I'd wear an Astroglide t-shirt.

My apologies I don't read all your posts, all are very instructive and interessant.

I have a anal addiction too, may I propose you to share with other members your lubes list, and the preferences you give for each specific usage.

You recently write your preference for ~~ http://fuckwaterlube.com/our_lube/index.html ~~ I have no adresses in Europe.

Thank you for your posts, participations and answers.

After closing the previous post I sended a email to "FuckWater"

Here after you will find their answer, less 10 minutes to answer ! ! !

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Hi there,

We are not approved to sell in the EU at this time. We are working on this and hope to have that approval in the next 12 to 18 months.

Sorry I can’t help you yet.

Ian Kelly

Non-Friction Products Inc

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Alas for Europeans we have to wait.

Arthur- The folks at non-friction are a lot of fun, I approached them recently about an endorsement deal. Too bad you can't get their products in Europe, they are one of a kind.