Scars and amputations - do they bother you?

For those who like to be the doctor, does a patient's scars, especially big ones, bother you?

I have one large one down the outside of my hand (finger bit off by horse) and a lot of small scars on my hands (I'm a klutz) and may have to have a hysterectomy in the coming months, which would leave a huge scar as I would have to have abdominal hyst. and I'm wondering if that type of scar (abdominal) would turn a guy off. (another thread gave me the idea to ask)

In the same vein, does a visibly missing body part bother you?

A hysterectomy scar isn't that big and a careful closure will leave a thin scar that will in time blend in. It's not a large scar. You can also have it done laparoscopically which will leave probably three scars each half an inch long and one will probably be through the belly button. -- Not a big deal.

Nobody "sees" that the uterus is missing, they only see a scar. No one will care if they aren't interested in having children.

Expanding this maybe beyond what the OP intended, certain scars almost go hand in hand wqith my fetish for masked patients. A patient will wear a mask (at least in the USA) after an organ transplant, and that requires any number of different types of scars. A friend of mine from the mid-00s had a lung transplant, and so in addition to the mask she wore to ward off germs in place of an immune system, she had a scar you could see part of in her cleavage. While I didn't fetishize the scar like I did the mask, it ddin't bother me. It was part of that whole ball game.

Scars really don't bother me at all. They are neither something I like nor dislike. From my recent and common experiences, I disregard them entirely because I am aware my girlfriend is sensitive about them as is. Why make someone uncomfortable about something out of their control? In the end, I do not see why it would matter all that much.

A hysterectomy scar isn't that big and a careful closure will leave a thin scar that will in time blend in. It's not a large scar. You can also have it done laparoscopically which will leave probably three scars each half an inch long and one will probably be through the belly button. -- Not a big deal.

Thanks. I've been told by my gyn it would be an abdominal hyst. Apparently, if you've never given birth,you can't have a vaginal, but not sure why laparoscopically wouldn't be an option. I will ask him if things go that way.

See this:

https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-319-22497-8_110

and this

https://www.popline.org/node/481460

SPEAK TO YOUR SURGEON.

GET A SECOND OPINION

I don't think the role you play, Dr, Dom, Domme, Sub, bottom. top has anything to do with your reactions to scars and amputations. It is you as a person who determines the reaction to these stimuli.

I grew up with a father who lost his right arm in WW2. It was his dominant arm. As a result of his accomplishments, golf in the low 80's, played all the sports with us as growing up, tying his shoes with his left hand and doing most things a two armed person can do... I accept it is part of life. It does not bother me.

Scars are part of life too. They don't bother me either.

This does not mean I don't have empathy for their situation, especially burn victims. That pain is excruciating, a living hell.

What matters is the person's character.

Thanks, Susie. I think I fall into the "vaginal width" contraindication. He said that women who have not given birth have smaller vaginas. If the tests I need to do show a need for a hysterectomy, I will ask more questions about that. I'd much rather have it done vaginally than with a big incision.

I have some nice ones from the bypass surgery. The main one is where they ran the skilsaw up my chest, one from my balls to my knee where they harvested a vein, no visible stitches on those, one from the inside of my elbow joint to my wrist where the harvested an artery and I counted 26 staples there. One under each breast where they had tubes going inside (between the ribs?). They took those out shortly after removing the tube that was down my throat. He apologized for having to remove them one at a time saying he usually grabs them both and pulls but mine were too far apart.

Well, I guess I shouldn't be and I'm not but there are quite a few scars on my body. I like to ride motorcycles and it's not a question of if you will go down, the question is when you will go down. My last accident did a number to the lower half of my left leg and Ankle and it definitely is not pretty. I am glad I still have it my foot and my leg but it definitely isn't very pretty.

If want a scar that really stands out, then go for a pneunectomy scar. Mine goes almost 180 degrees around my right side. The first few years it was very bright red and very easy to spot on the occasion I would be at a beach.

It bothers me in the physical sense that even now, almost 40 years on, the thing still itches like the dickens at times. But physically that is all.

Mentally is hard to say. At first I was very self-concious, especially when people would stare or very obviously look away. Then again on other occasions I thought there was a certain fun aspect in having it seen.

Well, I guess I shouldn't be and I'm not but there are quite a few scars on my body. I like to ride motorcycles and it's not a question of if you will go down, the question is when you will go down. My last accident did a number to the lower half of my left leg and Ankle and it definitely is not pretty. I am glad I still have it my foot and my leg but it definitely isn't very pretty.

So are telling us your real name is Awful Knawful, Evel's twin?

If want a scar that really stands out, then go for a pneunectomy scar. Mine goes almost 180 degrees around my right side. The first few years it was very bright red and very easy to spot on the occasion I would be at a beach.

It bothers me in the physical sense that even now, almost 40 years on, the thing still itches like the dickens at times. But physically that is all.

Mentally is hard to say. At first I was very self-concious, especially when people would stare or very obviously look away. Then again on other occasions I thought there was a certain fun aspect in having it seen.

I expected that scars would really bother me mentally as before the bypass surgery I had no blemishes on my body and I kind of wanted to keep it that way. However the scars didn't bother me at all. They're just there and so what?

When my father had his heart attack I didn't want to see the scars that he was wont to show to anyone and everyone. I was only 13 at the time and I didn't want to see anyone's scars. That was in 1953 and bypass surgery had not been invented yet so I wonder why they went in there. I wish now that I had seen them as he told anyone who would listen how they broke his ribs to get in there. He was at the veteran's hospital so I wrote to them to find out the exact date after I had mine because we must have been close to the exact same age when it happened and I found that quite interesting. They claim to have no records of his being there except for 1954 when he was in for a bronchial infection. I had to drive my mother to the hospital to visit him because she didn't want to drive on the highway 30+ miles. The first time I was only 13 and had to wait in the car but the following year I was 14 so they let me go in. The rehab nurse's position was that it's caused by what you do and eat while myself and another guy in rehab felt very strongly that it's genetic. My father was a letter carrier so the idea that exercise prevents heart attacks certainly did not apply to him.

I heard his story about his experience dozens of times and it never varied. They flew a heart doctor from Houston to NH in the back seat of a jet fighter to treat him and he replaced something that was plugged with a fabric type piece of hose. Many years later I read about the exploits of Dr. DeBakey and that sounds so much like something he would do I really wanted to find out what was done to him and who did it.