Nurturing Doctor/Nurse

While I do love the sadistic doctor's exam that showcases the domination and humiliation aspects of medfet, I also fantasize about the softer side of medfet. I like the thought of a nurse or doctor guiding a scared patient through a series of humiliating erotic procedures, all the while giving nurturing support and making the patient comfortable whenever possible. Bondage is used for the patient's own safety, and pain is an unfortunate reality of some of the procedures. Medical professionals know that it is easiest to assess sexual health when the patient is content and trusts their examiner. And they provide the best samples 😉

What do you think about caring medfet?

I’m a fan! As a play doc I tend to be very caring and supportive, o matter how invasive the procedures. It’s way more realistic I think.

I'm not into sadism, so the caring side is my preference, but minus pain and humiliation.

I like it! I hadn't ever given it much thought before. My favorite fantasy types of encounters have always been the detached ones. Cold, clinical, but not mean spirited or sadistic. I love having what I am about to go through explained to me ahead of time. I want them to stop and ask me, as they explain it, if I understand that this part may be painful, or that a lot of patients some certain part humiliating, and if I am ok with that.

I like the idea of taking to the next level, where they try to be kid and reassuring since they know there is no way to make it any easier on me. Nice idea.

I am all in for the more nurturing and caring angle as opposed to a stern or especially sadistic approach. I understand why the latter appeals to many of us, but I always gravitate towards a nurturing style.

I prefer the clinical approach to play. It can be nurturing or disconnected, depending on the patient. I prefer it to the sadistic model, which really doesn't do much for me!

I like a caring reassuring dr. One that lets me know I am being a good girl and everything he does is for my own good. He understands I may be embarrassed but is never mean in any way.

A caring, yet firm doctor or nurse. Like this is for your own good.

Though I usually prefer to be on the giving end of a medfet session, every once in a while I enjoy being "treated" by a firm, strong-willed "nurse" who insists that a strong, crampy enema be held until the cramps are very strong. Constantly encouraging me to take a little more, hold a little longer..."for your own good so the enema can work better." and "You'll feel so much better when you're all clean inside!"

I absolutely love a nurturing provider in rl and in play. One who hears me, has patience and accommodates my needs is a must. Encouragement beats sadistic every time and caring is much preferred to insensitive. Maybe because so many providers have acted like I’m a number and not a person. Firm is good, but nurturing is a must.

Unfortunately some level of pain or discomfort comes with certain procedures like a colostomy.

As well if certain parts of the body are tender then the doctor would need to probe, maybe causing some pain, to assess the problem areas.

For most examinations the main discomfort can be in the mind as you strip for examination.

Certainly modern doctors and guidelines tend to lead to a more inclusive and caring experience with the medical staff.

I was brought up in the 'doctor knows best' era, so do find the modern approach less to my taste.

Caring medfet can help the partner through the painful portions. pleasure and pain mesh when done with gentle firmness and cause an explosive climax

In real life, I'm reminded of the time I was awakened in the hospital at 6AM and seeing a pre-op nurse standing over me with a Fleet enema bottle. I was in a lot of pain and she showed little compassion, other than to say, "Sorry but I have to give you this." It wasn't a pleasant experience. In fact, it was awful. So, later when I was having home care and the nurse asked if I'd ever had an enema, I cringed.

However, nurse Angie (I've written about her many times before) was the epitome of nurturing and humor. How many nurses ever made you laugh with an enema tube up your rear end? That was Angie, with a Texas twang. "Hey, Darlin!" she'd say. And I think she made those shots in my butt less uncomfortable because she was so caring. She'd gently rub my hip for several minutes after giving an injection, just so it wouldn't ache as much later. (Actually, it was pretty sore, but she tried!)

I love when the Dr/nurse strokes the patients hair and talks to them. I find this quite a turn on. As to me it feels like they really do care.

I remember going to surgery and I was very scared. A nurse held my hand and stroked it, feeling her warmth and the latex glove I have to admit I really loved the feel of it.

I came from a broken home, so I had no love with my family. I think that's where I fitted in to all this because of the care and love that I never had. It kind of makes sense. I have been called a freak or a weirdo. But if people only knew properly then perhaps they would understand me better. I really love talking about this more and somehow it helps me a lot. Also I love rp too.

@Vicki_V Empathy makes such a huge difference. When a nurse or doctor is comforting to the patient the patient is less apprehensive.

I would love for someone to DEFINE NURTURING in this context.

DON'T give me a quote from an internet dictionary because I have read all their definitions and I don't really see how nurture fits in with this.

mal said

I love when the Dr/nurse strokes the patients hair and talks to them. I find this quite a turn on. As to me it feels like they really do care.

I remember going to surgery and I was very scared. A nurse held my hand and stroked it, feeling her warmth and the latex glove I have to admit I really loved the feel of it. . . .

OMFG!

Doctors and Nurses: If I am ever ill and in a hospital DO NOT EVER stroke my hair. You are not a loved one. You can hold my hand BRIEFLY and touch my shoulder BRIEFLY but DO NOT get into a touchy feely situation with me. I want you to have empathy and understanding for a person in my condition, but DO NOT get personal with your hands.

In addition, as I said in another thread, do NOT call me honey, sweetheart, sweetie, dear or any other endearing terms.

I love this idea. Caring and gentle does it for me every time.

OMFG!

Doctors and Nurses: If I am ever ill and in a hospital DO NOT EVER stroke my hair. You are not a loved one. You can hold my hand BRIEFLY and touch my shoulder BRIEFLY but DO NOT get into a touchy feely situation with me. I want you to have empathy and understanding for a person in my condition, but DO NOT get personal with your hands.

On this matter there is considerable differences from one person to another. Some folks really do need the touch of another human when faced with a medical procedure and the anxiety it creates. Often these folks have minimal to no home support system and/or have minimal knowledge of medical practices.

OTOH, there are those that emotionally need to go-it-alone or with just the familiar and trust-earned-over-time close knit support group. Any uninvited intrusion into their personal space is at best troublesome and sometimes frightening.

Let's allow for both. It's just how you are wired. An empathetic care giver usually can tell your preference.

Anecdote: I once had an administrative assistant that had a personal space almost 3ft around her. She had to stand up and step away each time I put papers in her "in" basket. So yes, there are folks hypersensitive to another's presence and touch.

On this matter there is considerable differences from one person to another. Some folks really do need the touch of another human when faced with a medical procedure and the anxiety it creates. Often these folks have minimal to no home support system and/or have minimal knowledge of medical practices.

OTOH, there are those that emotionally need to go-it-alone or with just the familiar and trust-earned-over-time close knit support group. Any uninvited intrusion into their personal space is at best troublesome and sometimes frightening.

Let's allow for both. It's just how you are wired. An empathetic care giver usually can tell your preference.

Anecdote: I once had an administrative assistant that had a personal space almost 3ft around her. She had to stand up and step away each time I put papers in her "in" basket. So yes, there are folks hypersensitive to another's presence and touch.

You can believe me when I say I am not shy about being touched and I like it when I know you. In sexual situations I'm likely to let you touch me anywhere and do just about anything you want. My body has been handled by MANY people, several classmates in nursing school practicing physical diagnosis (for real, not play), mostly sex partners and a handful of doctors in my life. It has nothing to do with going it alone. If you want to show support to me in a medical situation all you have to do it talk and explain. Keep your grubby hands off unless you are taking my pulse.

Some folks really do need the touch of another human when faced with a medical procedure and the anxiety it creates. Often these folks have minimal to no home support system and/or have minimal knowledge of medical practices.

I don’t think lack of home support or lack of medical knowledge contributes to one needing comforting and ‘touching’ during an exam. Some people are weak and needy, others are strong and independent.

I don't think it makes one "weak and needy" to like being comforted. Everyone has their preferences. A polite "no thank you, I prefer not to be touched" should suffice if someone is touching you when you don't want them to.

@bbw4doc Yes, yes, yes! Exactly.

There's a difference between liking a comforting touch and needing one.

Personally, I don't like or need it - if it's painful, I'll just suck it up (or scream 😃 )

Personally, I don't like or need it - if it's painful, I'll just suck it up (or scream 😃 )

That's what a REAL man should do! 😁

That's what a REAL man should do! 😁

...... or WOMAN !!!

Personally, I think if there is a painful procedure holding someone's hand as a man does not make you weak. Men are socialized not to show weakness even though asking for help is just human. Also crying is NOT a sign of weakness. I say tough it out if you want man or woman, but if you need a helping hand take it if it's there.

Personally, I think if there is a painful procedure holding someone's hand as a man does not make you weak. Men are socialized not to show weakness even though asking for help is just human. Also crying is NOT a sign of weakness. I say tough it out if you want man or woman, but if you need a helping hand take it if it's there.

Yes, it does if it's just short benign procedure. I hate when people just whine through a procedure like a baby.

It's one thing if the procedure genuinely is painful, but some people are just annoying. I mean a splinter removal doesn't rate a "9" on the stupid, terribly ill defined 1-10 pain scale.

I say tough it out if you want man or woman, but if you need a helping hand take it if it's there.

Holding someone's hand during a procedure doesn't reduce pain or make it easier. Unless you magically transfer some of the pain/embarassment to the person holding your hand. I'm not a macho guy who refuses pain meds or gets stitches without novacaine - it's just that a cheerleader or comforter doesn't help. I got tears when I got a cortisone shot in my shoulder. Someone holding my hand would'nt have made it easier.

. I mean a splinter removal doesn't rate a "9" on the stupid, terribly ill defined 1-10 pain scale.

If I ever experience a real "10" on the pain scale, I wouldn't be able to talk. Possibly at an 8 or a 9!!

This has always been my preference, and especially why I gravitate more towards ageplay. I can see how being the patient to a tough, strict doctor would be very arousing, but I definitely prefer sweet, happy and soothing, especially when it comes to more embarrassing parts of the exam such as the privates and bottom.