Unexpected pelvic or rectal exam

My girlfriend recently had a pelvic examination in which the doctor switched suddenly from bimanuel exam to rectovaginal exam without informing her of what she would be doing. as you can probably imagine, this came as an unpleasant surprise.

any similar experiences?

I have never had a rectovaginal exam but if that happen to me I to would be caught off guard that doctor should have given your GF some warring

The name of the game is "informed consent"... You should tell the patient everything you are about to do to her.

I would be so angry.... I'd jump off the table.

I took a friend who was very ill a week after a gyne operation to A&E. She asked me to stay with her as she was feeling very unwell. She had haematomas in both buttocks. They brought a female gyne to A&E to examine her. She did the vaginal examination very gently because of the operation. She then said she needed to do a rectal examination and I looked at my friend and just remember her face and her saying oh no because she was in such pain there. The fantasy when one is well and the reality when someone is very unwell were quite different.

Wow. I can't even imagine having an exam like that and not getting told about it beforehand (or even buthand 😁 haha 😜)

I'm more interested in how females react during their first rectal if the warning is only something like " Ok I am going to do a quick rectal exam now". what goes through your head? Do you always know it is coming so you expect it?

I've heard from younger females before that there would be no warning either. One girls said she yelled out "yikes!" when it happened.

Evidently I have lucked out, or I have good physicians. My doctor always prepares me for what he is going to do, takes his time, and talks to me as he does the procedure, letting me know he is going to do something before he does it.

Ouch! must have been a very insensitive and uncaring doctor to do that. fortunately i've always been told prior by the doctor that a recto-vaginal exam was going to happen.

I had a friend that went through this once. She was really ticked off because she wasn't expecting it to happen. This was back in my college days.

My first gyn exam was when i was 18, i went to Planned Parenthood. i remember it was a woman doctor, and after she examined my vagina she told e "push down like you're going to the bathroom." i did, and i did not know what to expect. she pushed her finger into my ass. she apologized afterward. i guess she thought if she told me what to expect i would have clenched. i don't think i could have resisted it, because as you know, with legs in the stirrups there's no resisting any invasion!

That's what they call the shocker! 😁

I saw a eductional gyno videowith a doctor doing something like this. But he did the rectal examination imediatly after the rectovaginal, keeping his finger in the pacient rectumand not telling her what he will do.

There are some real docs with some pretty terrible bedside manners.

When I do a gyn exam it always includes a recto-vaginal exam after manual vaginal exam, then the rve is followed by a distinct digital rectal exam.

Plus, when playing I always keep my patients informed UNLESS we mutually agree on something different as part of our scene.

With a play exam, not telling is part of the surprise and thrill, but if she was at a regular appointment, she definitely should have been informed. no doubt about it.

I've done this during play, but with an actual exam its of no benefit to make a patient jump. It's difficult enough to get a finger in once you have a patient ready much less not warning of whats about to occur

Sarah

As much as I would love that in a play examination, that's really unprofessional. A physician should always explain what they're going to do - it keeps the patient calm, gives them a sense of control and ensure that discomfort is minimalised. Your poor girlfriend!

Telling the patient what you are going to do will also reduce the amount of anxiety. It also lets the patient be mentally prepared for what you are going to do to them.

I had about 2 seconds warning, "you will just feel me insert a finger into your anus now." Then straight in, no chance to say anything.

My first one (with my exam two years ago when I switched physicians), was kind of the opposite of what you described. When she changed the gloves, I had an idea of what she was going to do (have heard about this in the past).

She then explained what she was going to do, told me to bear down, and then gently inserted her finger. Even though it was a bit uncomfortable, it was not too bad (atleast what I have heard in the past).

😳 Speak of poor bed side manners, Please!

I had a rectal exam with no warning once. Scared me so much that although I had never been afraid of one, the next time they did one I had to hold the nurses hand.

I thought he was going to examine my abdomen, he undid the top of my jeans himself and had me lower my pants a bit in this cramped room. Suddenly he pulled down my underwear and pushed his finger in.

I stopped seeing that physician.

Funny now that I think of it, but during childbirth I suddenly felt a finger in my anus, 'f@"k! What was that!' I shouted..

Just feeling for the baby the midwife replied....

"well you need to go back to school honey, cos it ain't up there" I replied!!!

Sounds funny now, but boy was I cross!! 😉))

Hi ladies, have any of you had an unexpected pelvic exam or rectal exam? Whether you thought you were just going for a quick check up or going to the doctor for some other reason but ended up in the stirrups or bent over an exam table instead.

I had an ex girlfriend several years ago tell me about her visit to her doctor. She went to her doctor because she had strained an abdominal muscle a few weeks prior and it was still bothering her. She had her appointment first thing in the morning before work. The nurse took her back into an exam room and took her vitals. She was dressed for work so she was wearing a black skirt that was snug and a few inches above her knees, a fitted white satin button front blouse, and a fitted black blazer. She wore high heels, and since it was summer she wore no stockings or pantyhose like she would in the cooler weather. She had very nicely toned and tanned legs. Anyway she had to remove the blazer for the vitals, and the nurse told her the doctor will be back shortly. The doctor showed up and asked her about the ab strain. She told him it hurt on her lower right side and that she probably did it playing a pretty aggressive game of beach volleyball. So he had her remove her blouse and unzip her skirt and lay back on the exam table. He pressed down on the spot she pointed out. She winced in pain and the doctor asked her if she was sure it was a muscle strain. She said she believed so since it started to hurt shortly after the game, and she'd really feel it when she'd sit up from laying down. He said that since the sore spot is right above where her right ovary is, he wants to do a quick internal exam to rule out an ovarian cyst or other gynecological problem. She was reluctant but finally agreed. The doctor paged the nurse, who came back in the exam room. He then told my girlfriend to put her blouse back on and leave the bottom couple buttons undone, and to remove her panties. As she did the doctor pulled out the stirrups, had her pull her unzipped skirt up to her waist and kick off her heels. Then he told her to sit on the very edge of the table and lie back and put her feet in the stirrups. He put on a latex glove and lubed up his fingers. He told her to relax and let her knees fall open as wide as she can. He then slid his fingers into her vagina and pressed down on her lower abdomen with his ungloved hand. As he felt her right ovary she told him it hurt. He assured her that her ovary felt normal and that there were no irregularities. He then wiggled her cervix and asked if that hurt. She said no. He removed his fingers from her and suggested that she also have a recto vaginal exam so he could recheck her ovary and also check the uterosacral ligaments to rule that out as a source of her pain. She said that she'd rather not but reluctantly agreed. So he put on a fresh glove and lubed his fingers again, told her to relax and bear down as his middle finger entered her rectum and index finger entered her vagina. She told me that was the worst part of the exam. She continued to tell me that the doctor probed her thoroughly and rechecked her ovary and he told her that everything feels normal. He removed his fingers and told her that she can slide back and sit up. The nurse helped her up and the doctor said for her to get dressed, the nurse handed her some moist towelettes, and the doctor said he'd be back shortly to discuss his findings. They left and she cleaned up, put her panties on and pulled her skirt down and zipped it up, stepped into her heels, finished buttoning her blouse and put her blazer back on. The doctor came in a few minutes later and told her that he found no gynecological reason for the pain and that it most likely was a muscle strain and to rest for a week or so and it should go away. If the pain persisted he said to come back and he'd run some further tests like maybe an ultrasound. When she got home that evening she said she was caught totally off guard being examined like that, and that she was glad she shaved everything including her girly bits that morning in the shower. Fortunately about a week later her pain was just about gone so she didn't need to go back for more tests. Sorry about the length of this thread, but I like detail and I'm sure some of you like details about exams too. I had to ask her a lot of questions to get all these details of her exam and I hope everyone enjoyed it as much as I did.

I now know what to expect but it was a big surprise the first few times! at the time i was about 12 mabe younger i think i was like 10 or so the first time i got a rectal exam and the theory was at the time that it was better not to scare me by telling me what was coming! all i can say is OWWWWWW1 -Linda

My most recent recto-vag was because the doctor was looking for signs of endometrial nodules. He did tell me he was going to do it, but I just didn't go to the exam expecting I was going to get one. It was quite a bit uncomfortable and the doctor had some pretty large fingers. it was definitely the deepest I've had a finger in my rectum before, and the longest amount of time.

I had the same pelvic examination that switch over with out a warning before.

I hope the Dr changed gloves at least!!!

Ive never had both at once . come to think of it only in a pplay exam i have had both or if my partner plays down there he pushes up both holes at once . i hate it .