Wives--What provokes your husband to spank you?

How many wives out there get spanked by their husbands? Are the spankings just foreplay that usually leads to sex, naughty girl spankings or both? Please provide some details such as your age, how long you are married, how the spanking started, etc. Were you spanked growing up and how do you feel about submitting to a spanking by your husband? Thanks for any insight into this interesting topic.

Thanks for your input. Is there any fanatasy role play involved in the spanking? Any special costumes or dressing up involved?

My husband likes to turn me over his knee and spank me at times. I am not spanked as punishment, but because my husband likes to do it. I think the first time I did not like it, I was humiliated and it hurt. But after that, I found it erotic and very exciting, and if it is not too hard, it leads to an orgasm. 😮

I would love to spank any woman for that matter. I did spank some woman in the past and everytime it ended in sex. I wouldn't mind a bbw either!

Spanking can be soooooooooooooo much fun. I like to spank my wife prior to and during sex, with my hand, belt doubled up, it doesn't hurt more but sounds great, slipper or riding crop. The enjoyment is enhaced during role / cosplay especially whilst wearing open crotch bloomers - just love to see her in period dress.

Biblically the husband is the head of the wife and his wife is regarded as his helper, friend, partner! She was created from the side of man in the creation. She was not created from a bone of his foot meaning she was not to be walked over but rather to accompany him and together facing things as a team, preferring one another as more important than self.. Submission merely means being in agreement and allowing him to have or make the final decision and lets face it I would rather hand over that to him to do! It certainly takes the stress off me!.

Men are problem solvers and like to be that. However I think the major thing that is important in that marriage is what God requires in Ephesians 5:33 and that is that men have to love their wives as they love themselves....you see a lot of men don't like themselves and when they dont, they dislike everything around them. They have to love themselves in order to beable to love their wives. It does not mean loving by just feeling love but it means actually EXPRESSING that love to the wife. All women need to feel loved. Women naturally love so when one looks further at that scripture it says and wives need to see that they respects their husbands. Now that makes me think. Why must she SEE that she respects her husband? Women are emotional to the extreme - related to hormones - definitely! Emotions we know run away with us good and bad, so how do we deal with this? Lets take the example of the supper dishes. Both of you have finished your meal and stacked the dishes in the sink. You sit down to watch a movie together and get sleepy. Bedtime comes and you look at the dishes and feelings say "Ah I feel too tired to do those dishes now, I will do them in the morning!" Yet Common sense tells you "Do those dishes or you will find the sink full of ants in the morning and just add more tasks to your day!" Which one are you going to listen to? Feelings or Common Sense? We have to override the feelings to attain our common sense and that all boils down to the word CHOICE. This word choice is the one thing we have to make and the only place we as humans were given any freedom at all is that of CHOICE! A good choice reaps good results and a bad choice negative consequences. Nothing remains hidden. God says He exposes the deeds of darkness and boy does he do that!

SO, as accountable and sensible women we SEE to it; CHOOSING to respect our husbands. When we do that they soften towards us and will do anything the wife asks within reason. BUT, show no respect and he will show you no love. Your feelings will tell you he doesnt love you, even though he does and then a crazy cycle starts - you become cheeky and nasty and rude and insulting and he retaliates and eventually he goes out to avoid your viciousness and all hell breaks loose. She distrusts him, goes through his pockets and the cycle just speeds up and gets more and more crazy until the inevitable divorce occurs. It is all about love and respect and from there either good or bad consequences depending on what is chosen. Its a simple and clear cut as that. Get the book Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs who expounds this theory and also tells you what to say and not say to your spouse. Every single person I know who has read this book agrees that it is a vital book to have in your library and to refer to regularly. Another book written for men is called WILD AT HEART by John Eldredge. Its good for a woman to read and to understand how a man ticks.

My wife has "warmed up" to spankings in our 15 years together. Both erotic and discipline spankings usually end up with very hot sex and lots of orgasms. She prefers the feeling of my hand over any instrument. Recently she got caught in a photo radar speed trap. 2nd one in 2 years. We will see how big the fine is $$=strokes. I may just perform this punishment while she is being figged....

I'm not married. But my Master spanks me. Sometimes for disiplinary causes, as a punishment (and then it feels like a real punishment). Sometimes erotic spanking. It is usually over his knee, but sometimes in bed or over a desk or table.

He uses his hand, a paddle, a cane or the hairbrush..

My case is the exact reverse. My wife spanks me! She is my wife and my Domme; I refer to her as my Domme-wife. She spanks me for discipline. Sex is at her discretion and is often hard and dominant with my role being that of pleasure giver and hardly ever pleasure receiver. Yet I would never want to lose her or change her for another. My job is very stressful and I need to let go at home, this I can only do with her.

I spank my boyfriend all the time. He has a very stressful job and needs to be held accountable for his misdeeds. This week he spent nearly 2 hours getting spanked. When I was done he was blubbering in the corner begging me to hold him. I usually hold him and allow him to suckle at my breast after he has been punished but this week he was so bad that I made him stand in the corner for 10 minutes before i held him. I truly love him and giving him his discipline.

She loves it, a good hard spanking that makes the cheeks of her ass bright red. then she gets a good hard fucking in the " doggy" position

I`ve been separated from my husband for a while, but recently we got together again. We became marriaged 11 years ago, and I was spanked since the begining, always for discipline or punishment, never foreplay. He is a very strict and authoritative man, who believes in traditional gender roles. I was spanked growing up by my mother so it wasn't new for me, but it was hard at the begining, it made my feel so embarrassed and humilliated, I've learnt through the years to submit to his spankings, the more I'm spanked, the more submissive I turned

I spank my wife as part of our lovemaking foreplay. She sometimes dresses up in short skirt, stockings and suspenders and bends over a desk with her skirt up and her panties down while I administer spankings, or we are naked and she goes OTK. On only one occasion did I spank her in front of a couple who were also into spanking. After dinner she bent over the table with her dress up, I spanked her on her panties, then my friend did likewise with his wife, before we took turns to spank each other's wives....no spanking on bare bottoms however....but we do hope to move onto that scene sometime soon.

FIRST OFF, MY hubby and I are not into spanking but we have tried it on occassion ... however, other forms of erotica are our preferences.

The first time we tried this spanking thing was on my 25th birthday two years after we were married, and we had seen a "B movie" with some spanking spanking (not porn ---it seemed quite interesting) in a theater and then went out for a "burger and fries" dinner at one of the burger places we haunted when we were teens and dating. We even sat on the same side of the booth ... really teen romantic, if you know what I mean.

Right after we ordered, I whispered into his ear that the spanking seemed like fun and we should try it. He didn't say anything ... so I mentioned it again and this time he turned to me and said, "you're kidding."

No, I wasn't. With that, I discretely slipped off my panties, rolled them into a tight wad and put them into his hand. I could see he was either getting nervous or impatient because he wondered why our food wasn't getting there quickly enough.

Obviously he ate quickly and we were on our way home. On the way home, I somehow managed to get my Bra off without taking off my blouse (neat trick us girls have learned) and as we got closer to home (we live rural), I slipped off my skirt. I thought he was going to drive the car into the ditch.

As we drove in the yard, I got rid of the blouse and when he stopped the car, i began necking, telling him what a bad girl I was and that I deserved to be punished. "I'm sure I need a spanking, a good birthday spanking," I told him.

He agreed and said he wanted to do it outdoors, which seemed extra exciting.

He lead me over to the park bench we have in our back yard, sat down, put me over his knee, and begin spaking me bare-handed ... firmly but gently.

"I deserve a real punishment," I said. He took off his belt and finished the last 10 spanking with it, leaving me excited, aroused and really anticipating more ... and I told him so.

STill being gentle, but firm, he gave me a dozen more spanks with his belt and then finished off with his hand. I don't know how many spanks I got, but it must have been about 50. I was so exciting that me made love right on the picnic table. What an evening.

However, while I did return the spanking favor to him, we have never really gotten into spanking as a form of recreation ... although I anticipated a birthday spanking on my 26th birthday, hinted somewhat before hand that I wanted it done, to which he made sure our table tennis paddle was handy for the occasion. I enjoy spankings, but I still prefer our other forms of erotic recreation.

I'm not married but I spank my girlfriend regularly. In fact, she often comes to me asking for a spank. She prefers hand spanking but happily takes spanks from paddles, belts, flyswatters, etc.

I'm no longer married, but my recent girlfriends have all enjoyed a good spanking. In fact, they have all asked to be spanked on at least one occasion. I prefer to have them bent over my knees, so that I can hand spank them. If possible, I will have her wearing a skirt, so that I can lift it up, and spank her on the panties.

As we get going, I test to see if the panties are getting damp - they usually are......they are then pulled down, so that it is spanking on bare bottom (fantastic). Inevitably, as she is over my knee, she will feel my hard cock pressing up against her, and this just increases the pleasure for us both.

One of girlfriends did not orgasm through spanking, but some manual finger work did the job. After spanking, I like her to get on her knees on the floor in front of me, and give me a good slow sucking. Hmmmm, that's nice.

My husband johnny spanks me on my bare butt regularly. My butt is always red and sore when he is done spanking me and lets me up from across his knee. I enjoy the spankings he gives me. The spankings are always to discipline me.

I've never been spanked as a punishment but I can be such a brat I bet it would actually help!

I am a male and am spanked by my wife. She likes to be in her bra and panties. She makes me strip naked for my spanking. She sometimes lets her sister watch from the bedroom door. I am always naked for the rest of the night no matter who comes over.

Often happened to spank my girl, the rarest is the reverse situation. A few spanking was also in the bathrooms of the office where I work. Of course, trivial things, nothing more than slap some light

If you find a modern girl, I think you will find spanking easy to get into. However, if they are old-school, then it is a hit or miss!

I get spanked alot it gets me going every now and again. We ratch it up and he spanks me hard.

I got spanked by my husband regularly, usually on Friday night. We have a table in our room for recording what I have done wrong, usually trivial matters. For serious cases, he would discipline me right after (it really makes me think like I'm his naughty little girl) on Friday nights. He will first make me confess and say what I did wrong. Then he'll reinforce it with a hand spanking over his knee on our bed.

My husband is dominant in our house. He makes all the important decisions ,but we talk over the options first. I like it this way.

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Spankings can be either play or punishments, subs that stray do need to be punished, otherwise they feel that their Dom/Domme does not care about them

I get spanked by my husband on a regular basis, for erotic reasons. Sometimes a get a spanking prior to an enema, especially, when I'm protesting against it. Most time he uses a thin cane, which really gives a nice sting.

My husband spanks me for undone household chores or a late dinner. same ritual everytime... in his office clothes removed ... with his belt... 10 swats... but there is one thing that gets me bent over the bed... and 25 swats... and thats if i refuse him anal sex... and after my swats he lubes his member and gets anal anyway...

My sub always needs spanking. And lately I must do the same to our housegirl. She confessed of not dusting the bedroom after hearing my sub getting a spanking. Now they both watch each other getting spanked. Seems to add to their enjoyment.

I've yet to use the housegirl analy, however it will be soon. She loves watching my sub receive it.

I don't spank my wife too much but when she does deserve it, it is over the knee, panties down with my hand.

My boyfriend of 5 years spanks me when I'm a bad girl. It started off as foreplay, like I'd talk back or say something disrespectful on purpose and he'd play along and be very stern and authoritative, saying "how dare you take that tone with me young lady! Looks like you need a trip over my knee." then he'd sit on the couch or bed and order me over. If I protested he would grab me roughly by the arm and easily force me over (I'm petit). He'd pull my pants and panties down, exposing my bare bottom. I'd feel a little ashamed and embarrassed to be so exposed and also excited but nervous. My cheeks would quiver waiting for the first blow. Sometimes he uses his belt, a wooden spoon, hairbrush or cane. Depending on the severity of my offense he may spank me until I'm full-blown crying. I try to struggle and cover my cheeks with my hands or lift my legs but it is in vain. He easily pins my arms behind my back with one hand and my legs with one of his. My bottom is displayed up in the air, a perfect unprotected target. If I do get a hand free and reach to cover a cheek he doesn't alter his rhythm at all and the hand gets smacked with the hard implement and I quickly snatch it away. He usually leaves my bottom bright red with blood blisters and sometimes bruises or welts. Sometimes, if I've been very bad, after the spanking is done he rubs my sore bottom while I whimper or cry over his knee, relieved the punishment is over. But then I hear the dreaded "click" of the KY jelly cap popping open and I beg "please Daddy, no! I learned my lesson!" He usually shuts me up with a stern "Be quiet!" command and sounds angry and I know not to talk back. Then he spreads my cheeks and I start to whimper more and I feel the cold tip of a butt plug against my hot anus. He slowly pushes it in and I feel it getting wider and wider, stretching my small body open in the most embarrassing place, knowing he has a perfect view of me in my shame. I grunt as it goes deeper and am so embarrassed because it reminds the of the sound of grunting when going to the bathroom and I try to be quiet but it's so much to take. Finally it pops into place and is up to its hilt in my ass. He further humiliates me by telling me how stretched open my little pink asshole is. I wimper and cry a little and awkwardly grunt as he slides it in and out. My pussy is dripping wet and he tells me what a disobedient girl I've been and how disappointed he is that he has to punish me like this to get the lesson through to me. I am utterly and completely his now and tell him what a bad girl I've been and that I know I deserve to be disciplined and will take my punishment like a big girl and promise to obey and be submissive. He spanks me a bit more with the plug in, then fingers my pussy, slides out the plug, and slips his thumb up my rectum. I know I'm under his thumb. I feel like such a little girl. I look like a teen even tho I'm in my early 20's and often wear pigtails for him. He grabs them and pulls my head back and forces me to suck his cock. Then fucks me from behind, sometimes in the ass. I say through my tears "I'm sorry I was bad daddy, I learned my lesson" and he soothes me and says "that's my good girl" and tells me he loves his little girl and holds me as he goes to town on my ass. My butt gets punished inside and out.

Now we have recently decided to try Loving Domestic Discipline, because I didn't have much discipline growing up and he is so responsible and organized that my scatterbrained reckless messy habits really cause stress in the relationship at times. I want to be more structured and together, it just doesn't come naturally to me. So he gives me the motivation I need. We are equal partners outside the bedroom and make decisions together, but one of those decisions is that I relinquished my rights in certain situations and he has the authority. Like, for example, if my half of the room is covered In clothes and it's stressing him out, we talk about when I'd realistically be able to have it cleaned by, depending on my schedule. We agree on a fair deadline (otherwise in the past I'd always say "I'll get to it later" and it could stay that way over a week and we argue). Then if I haven't done it by when we agreed I'd get a punishment spanking, which is NOT purely for erotic fun and foreplay. It is meant to REALLY hurt in a way I can barely tolerate, with a lot of force exerted by him, possibly with an implement. Its a punishment, not something i want repeated, so i try to keep up my end of the bargain to avoid them because they hurt in a not-fun way! I am sobbing by the end and when he then tells me to do my chore I scramble to accomplish it immediately for fear of further punishment. Then when I'm done all is forgiven. He takes me in his arms and cradles me in his lap and comforts me while i cry, which I get so much out of emotionally, having not had my father present as a girl. And he had an outlet for his frustration and anger (my poor bottom!) so its gone and he doesn't argue with me or hold a grudge. And then it IS a Big turn on that he actually spanks me to punish me for real, like we are some 1950's couple when it was accepted that men ha the right to discipline their wives (which I do think was wrong but oh so hot to think about)!! And no one in our lives knows, it's our little secret. So we do usually end up passionately fucking afterwards. It's such a hot dynamic and seems to be working for now. But if it gets weird or uncomfortable for me I can always tell him I don't want to practice LDD anymore and he will no longer do it because then it wouldn't be consensual. However, in the moment when I'm about to receive a much-deserved punishment it's understood that he will ignore any protests and pleas and talk of quitting LDD. Because right before a spanking it's just the fear talking and me trying whatever I can to get out of the punsihment. I'm supposed to not want it, that's why it's called a punishment. But he will hear none of it and physically put me in my place for my spanking, no matter how much I struggle or cry or beg. Sometimes he can just threaten me by saying something like "you are going to get 15 strokes with the spoon across your butt, but if I hear one more word of protest it will be 20 with the belt" and i'll change my tune real quick and pull down my own panties and climb over his lap. Only when we are not in the throws of it and are calm would we discuss ending the present arrangement. It's so hot that I get in trouble for real offenses like a little kid and get put over my big strong man's knee against my will for a bare-bottom punishment to curb my behavior!! I feel like a child being spanked by her Daddy for breaking his rules.