My big mouth usually is what gets me spanked! I'm 26 now and got my first non-parental non-birthday real spanking for punishment when I was 20. The biggest thing once you have decided spanking is something you would want to try/do is to have the RIGHT partner for it. LDD and/or BDSM agreements (as Fresh Girl posted) are necessary. i was spanked the first time at 19 and I was SO embarassed!!! We were all swimming (a bunch of guys and girls) and my boyfriend just grabbed me and hoisted me to the surface of the water in my swimsuit and spanked me as hard as he could with his hand (on a wet bottom! OUCH!) Involuntary tears streamed down my face after and during my shriek of pain. I thrashed until my breasts popped COMPLETELY out of my bikini. It wasn't done to be mean or abusive, He just felt like showing me and everyone else I was no more than a spoiled brat (true!) because I had made a remark that he would pay for my stuff later. (we were going shopping, i was making a half-joke). Anyway the girls were shocked/horrified and a few of the guys were staring in fascination at my total humiliation. My face was so red it was hot even though i was in the river, I could feel it almost giving off steam. We were all just goofing around swimming in the river and my boyfriend and I were teasing each other, as was everyone else. he spanked my nearly bare ass as hard as anyone has ever hit me until I couldn't sit in the car on the way home. Right after my humiliation and shame began to fade, I realized i was wet and NOT from the water & that intrigued me. That first spanking was more painful than any paddle or cane ever! It also became something I asked for timidly after some time, and was embarassed about asking; I thought I was some daddy-obsessed perv-girl! But we did it a few times and he got into it as much as me until one day we got in a bad argument and I slapped him across the face (which was awful! I don't believe in abuse and it was very wrong to do that). Well he didn't get in a rage, he got all cool and calm and said "Ok little girl, you like getting a spanking so much let me see how you like this one." And he threw me over his knee right there and yanked off my pants and panties and spanked me so hard with his belt that I was begging and in tears just like a little girl he accused me of being. (Yes I got spanked a little as a child, not much, i was a brat who wasn't disciplined much!) Anyway I sobbed, squirmed and screamed and he didn't relent until he had blistered my ass for the first time. After tit was over he held me while I cried as I calmed down and it felt good as he stroked my hair and told me that what i had done was wrong and that he wasn't going to put up with spoiled or childish behavior from a grown woman; that if I behaved like a child, he would treat me accordingly and spank me-Even in PUBLIC if the offense was bad enough, but wouldn't take my pants down of course. We discussed spanking as an erotic act and spanking as punishment. I like it when the 2 combine because it can make for the best sex ever! So sometimes i do shoot off my mouth or do something bad, like neglect something needing done to get a real punishment. (I don't know why i want to be punished so much) and other times it's fake bad behavior for foreplay. If we are doing it for foreplay he will spank me just as hard as a punishment but not always. he doesn't like to leave welts on me unless it's for being really, really bad but I ask him to do it harder sometimes. he never hits me above the neck or in the stomach but he has caned/paddled/spanked/strapped the bottom of my feet, my ass, my clitoris my thighs all over and my breasts. he wont leave marks too bad on the rest of me just my thighs and ass, and he only does the other areas as foreplay, punishment is butt and thighs only! I can't tolerate a reversal, there isn't anything wrong with sub men but that makes me not feel like they are 'man' enough for me. I need a decisive, take-charge, authoritarian man who puts me in 'my place'.
One of the things I NEVER do is disrespect him in front of friends or family. Well, almost never. That is the one thing I get the most shame and humiliation from. if i say something rude to or about him in front of fam or friends I get a bare-bottom spanking right then and there. Even in front of my relatives and our parents! So I make sure to be respectful when any of these people are around, or I'm mooning the whole family reunion with a rudolph-nose-red butt. All in all, I love being spanked for almost any reason and in almost any place with very few exceptions. the important thing is: The more humiliating/shameful my transgression, the harder/worse the punishment but also the better cuddle and make up time afterwards and that part is 100% private.
Embarrassed is good, it has 'bare-assed' in it! ๐