Your Thoughts After A Play Session

I have often wondered what goes through your mind after a play session? We often talk about the nervousness, anxiety, excitement, and so forth before a play session, but what about after?

Well, I’ve only been in this site for almost 4 months, so I’m basically a newbie, LOL. So, I don’t know if I’m even qualified to reply to this post. Let’s see, I basically just play with two people. My beloved, whom a lot of people here know but probably doesn’t know, is connected to me and a dear friend of ours, an amazing domme who is also popular in the site. Yeah, I know people in high places, LOL. 😉

And due to the distance, continents apart, I might add and the crazy time zones, we’re just playing online, for now, at least. But the internet is amazing, there are ways to enjoy, especially for the creative and resourceful, I need not bore you with the specifics. :😃

The question is: what are my thoughts after a play session? It depends, we’re a switch, all three of us. 😁

So let’s talk about when it’s me and my beau. So, when I’m the sub: Well, right after I’m just totally euphoric. I’m a bundle of sensations, so basically my head is blank for the first few minutes and I’m reduced to whimpers, of pleasure and satisfaction. I’m always high as a kite after; blame it on the endorphins, LOL. When the high feeling wears off then I’m able to think. So, my thoughts are: I’m lucky to have someone who makes me feel loved and treasured enough to take time to know what I want and do it excellently. I’m amazed to have such a connection with someone that I usually need not say what I want, he senses it, does it and even go the extra mile and surprise me with new things which I tend to always enjoy. I love the attention to detail, if you will. Am I sounding mushy? LOL. Let’s move over to more mundane thoughts, then. I think about the noise I just made, the moans, whimpers and occasional shrieks, whether I’ve woken up the entire house or some neighbors. Time zones, remember? So, at times it’s like 4 am for me, so, you see why I’m concerned. Plus, the fact that weird noises coming from a chaste, Catholic girl’s bedroom at such an ungodly hour, is, well, intriguing if not scandalous. 😳

When I’m the domme: seeing and hearing my sub reach the heights of ecstasy, along with phrases or whimpers of how amazing I am makes me feel really good, confident and appreciated. I mean, especially since I’m relatively new to this, knowing that I’m able to please my partner and making him look forward to another session just feels cool, makes me feel powerful. 😄

The Bed Talk: so after a session comes the talk, basically we assess what just went on, how the tried and tested things were enjoyed, how the twists or surprises did cause surprise and pleasure. And of course, the hints. The subtle mention of fantasies or new things that makes one curious and excited enough to try at the next session. 😃

Our own Medfet Menage a Trois: So it’s me, my beau, and our phenomenal domme friend. Go figure who I’m talking about, it’s really not that hard to guess, LOL.

When the beau is sub and we co-domme him: My thoughts? I love how domme friend and I get to plan and conspire. One plays doctor, while the other plays nurse, sometimes we plan the “ treatment” beforehand, other times, we just go with the flow, whatever pops in our head and suits our mood. I also think how beau is lucky to have two dommes “pleasure-punishing-treating” him.

When it’s the good guy and bad guy: Basically, one’s a sub, one’s a doctor and the other one’s the supportive yet deep down conspiring significant other. What goes through my head?

“I am so high”

“I so enjoy what I’m doing”

“I can’t get enough of this”

“The nuns don’t know what they’re missing”

“My beau and domme friend are hardcore and amazing”

“I can’t wait for next session”

Bottom line: I know I’ve written a lengthy reply to this post and I’m probably just rambling, so, if I am, then I’m sorry, spank me, LOL. On a serious note though, I love how deep and thought provoking your posts are Mashie, it definitely made my brain moving. So, my last thoughts are: the main reason why I enjoy my play sessions so much is because of open communication. I mean, talking with your partner or playmate/s about what you want, how the play session was, what your fantasies are, dropping hints about fantasies or new things/treatments does a lot about how the next play session would turn out. If you already have an amazing play session, then it’s going to get all the more exciting and fabulous. If you feel that there’s room for improvement then the changes you want will be possible. Lastly, it’s important to respect your play partner. It’s not just about what you want or for your enjoyment alone. It’s about the two of you, both enjoying it and making a connection. There should be no room for abuse or bullying coz that’s not how it is. It’s about having fun that’s consensual, respectful and amazing. 😉

Both Katie and Cast have hit on three things that I find essential. First,

I'm with Katie on the whimpers, and moans. Few things turn me on more than hearing a sub make those sort of noises, and knowing that they are doing so as a direct result of my actions. So yes, I feel happy, confident, elated, exhilarated. I feel a degree of awe as well, and honour that someone permitted me to do those things to them; to not only let me see a very private part of themselves, but also let me into their headspace enough to allow it in the first place.

I absolutely need the visual and audible responses, both for my own satisfaction, as well as to know that I am giving her what she seeks.

Second,

The Bed Talk: so after a session comes the talk, basically we assess what just went on, how the tried and tested things were enjoyed, how the twists or surprises did cause surprise and pleasure. And of course, the hints. The subtle mention of fantasies or new things that makes one curious and excited enough to try at the next session.

Feedback is extremely important. Not everything goes perfectly the first time or any time and therefore, we want to correct those little errors.

Finally, respect your partner. Karma to both of you.

Kudos to Mashie for bringing this up and to everyone who has responded. Now I'd like to weigh in with my own viewpoint. When I saw this thread beginning, I knew I had to reply but having just finished a play session, I needed a few days to put some space between me and my emotions. Going forward, let me say that my med-play partner and I share a deep emotional and romantic attachment and now that we have met and play, we are also physically intertwined. I mention this because I feel that those partners that are in love have a slightly different viewpoint than those who have a strictly clinical Dr/patient relationship. I think it is somewhat more difficult to make a clinical analysis of a play session when strong emotions are in the mix.

My first thought about our play session is how physically comfortable we were from our first minute together. We both agree that when we hugged and kissed, we both knew it was "right". The feelings of expectation, anticipation and nervous anxiety were still there, but the thoughts of "what the heck am I thinking?" vanished. From that moment on, I had no concerns about my safety or comfort. I knew that nothing bad would happen to me and that I would be cared for.

We spent a great deal of time doing advance planning, right down to written road maps for the treatments and procedures we wanted to perform on one another. This was especially helpful for me as a novice player because if something didn't work out, there was always a "Plan B" to fall back on. One thing we discovered was that we need to allot about three times more time for procedures than we thought we would. I attribute that to the fact that we are a "mature" couple and we want to assimilate all the sensations, not just do things for the sake of saying we did them.

Because of our time constraints we didn't accomplish all that we wanted to, infact I'd say we left about 50% undone. But that's okay, it means that we don't have to reinvent the wheel the next time we get together to play. And we also know what works for us in a basic exam structure and what doesn't. My expectations were fully met and even exceeded. If his reactions were any indication, his expectations were also well met. Perhaps he will favor us with his own view, I know he reads my posts to the forum as well.

Since our meeting we have spent some time (although not an excessive amount) breaking down particular procedures into their pieces to decide what worked and what didn't. For those that didn't enchant us, is there something that could be changed or is it better to just let them go by? For those procedures that did work, can they be modified into something new and even more spectacular? We are in the process of creating a mutual "next time" list as well as the necessary supplies that we'll need. We hope to be a little more organized when we play again, although that will be difficult since we are both obsessive list makers and control freaks.

I fully understand the grief process that Mashie speaks of. I am going through something like a sense of loss, and I have asked my on-line patients/partners to bear with me while I reconnect with them and get my head back in the game. When I asked my partner if he was going through a grief process or felt a sense of loss, he had the perfect answer, "Honey, I miss you like crazy but I wouldn't call it grief or loss. I like to think of it as excited anticipation; looking forward to the next time we'll see each other." That works for me.

I can't say enough how much I agree with those that have mentioned the wonderful sounds that go along with our medplay experiences. Those sighs, moans, groans all make it so worthwhile, and so does the pillow talk afterwards. There is nothing quite like sharing such an intimate and vulnerable experience with one that you trust and care for, and then whispering about it afterwards.

And those are my thoughts after a play session.

Play On!

LadyDoc

I enjoy a med play session so much it just keeps me happy for days till I am able to hook up with some one for another session.

Like you, Mashie, all of my sessions involve buttock injections. No matter how much they hurt when getting them, I am always disappointed if I can sit down afterwards.

Nick

I think it's important to talk about the exam afterwards, it gives the dr and patient feedback to make the next exam even better!!

It depends. Sometimes we talk about the exam, sometimes we talk about the equipment, what worked well, what needs some work. Often times we will talk about what to do next time. Things to change things to keep, things that might be fun to get or do.

My thoughts are generally very happy though, and I try to figure out how to integrate any feedback that I get.

It is not like there is a fixed format.