Women and enemas

It seems like the majority of the members that are interested in enemas are men. I know that my wife is not very interested in them other than to please me. Could it be that men are more interested in enemas because of the prostate stimulation they provide or are men just more likely to talk about it on forums?

Ummmm... no. There are plenty of women here who are interested in enemas. This isn't the first post like this, there is another thread on here somewhere that says the almost exact same thing. I'm not sure where these guys are getting this impression from. There are lots of women posters on the forum and the blog, and in chat. Maybe there's fewer women posting ads or something?

Strange, since I have been here; I have been seeing a good amount of women posting more and talking than men are. Not meaning there is only a few men posting either.

I've seen both and find good and bad on both sides but I see a little more on the women side responding to all questions than men maybe it is me

Oh, no! I don't think so. This group wouldn't be the same without folk like SwitchableSusie, Anne B, Squidgycunt, Egirlky (what's happened to her?), vickisenema and many others. It would lose its bite, most of its humour and a lot of wisdom. And none of them are prudes, either!Johnny

I've seen quite a few women here, and all of them seem genuine. (I mention that because the Voy enema forums are overrun with men posting under women's names and indulging their fantasies.)

I really miss Vickisenema. Anybody heard anything from her lately?

Hello enmlvn! I'm a female, enjoy enemas etc. Just wish I had more time to come in & read and post. Interesting that you said, "or perhaps men aren't any more interested in enemas, but maybe are more likely to talk about it on forums." Makes me wonder if that might just be true. 😉

Unlike the Voy ladies-only forum, which I'm guessing is actually between two-thirds and three- quarters male pervs pretending to be female, I agree that this board is reasonably free of them, and most if not all of the women here could prove it to a gynecologist if ever need be. Thanks, moderators. I suspect that because we welcome both sexes here the guys feel less need to pretend to be female. On some of the other boards most of the pretenders are remarkably obvious. Cyber-crossdressers as it were?

It's precisely because this board has a big population of real women with real enema desires and real enema experiences that I feel at home here. On some other boards I've been ridiculed or insulted for my posts, or crudely "hit on." That has not ever happened here. Sometimes I post frequently, sometimes I go months without posting, but whenever I come here I always feel at home among peers... men and women who genuinely love our happy little fetish. With few exceptions the gentlemen are gentlemen, the ladies are ladies, and it's a pleasant place to be.

Oh yes, there are women here. Welcome.

Hugs,

Diane

I also wonder why couples don't post together. Couples at enema play are twice as much fun 😉 as a pair. And Richard, just who is "D"? Debbie? Diana? Most of my voyeur sessions involve couples. Practically w/o exception they are delighted to have the audience. Sometimes the hottest sessions involve F/m on one bed and M/f on the other. I have developed good neck muscles so focusing rapidly from one pair to the other isn't as tiring as it once was. 😜

Funny, but this site seems so relatively safe that I never thought to count the men vs. the women. Everyone seems real and you really can't fake knowledge of enemas because you've either done them or you haven't.

This topic, and some similar ones for males, make me wonder, what each of us feels are our TRUE interests, or purposes.

1: Seeking more knowledge of the topic? 2: Teaching/sharing our own education/experiences? 3: Being able to share yourself with other enema lovers? 4: Seeking an emate? 5: Other reasons not listed?

Walt (male seeking female.) LOL

Perhaps it appears more men are interested in enemas over the ladies because they already have a partner so don't join a group like this or just downright shy about admitting they enjoy them.

LH 🌹

My guess is that men outnumber women on this site by about 12:1. If you read Joann Denko, the psych. who first published studies on our fetist, she says it's about 50:50. But I believe that women are more private about their sexual practices in general than men. Besides if you are a woman here, you must get deluged with e-mails from men and that must get old and bothersome. I just thank God that we have real women here, who share with us and usually EDUCATE us on their take on this whole issue. Besides, the women's posts are usually very humorus. Bless all of them!

I have always viewed the enema as predominantly a domain of women. A feminine function, by its very nature. Why that is, I am not sure, but I think it may have to do with the procedure being associated with nursing and general maternal domestic care. Which traditionally in our society has been a "woman's job." I think there is a much higher percentage of women that use enemas than men, but I think far, far fewer women sexualize it. Or at least if they do they are not as overt about it and less likely to search it out on the Internet. I feel many women choose to keep the dual benefits of the enema, i.e. constipation relief and pleasure, private.

I feel that men have more of a guilt and shame thing going on about their anal eroticism and love of the enema. The homophobia thing kicks in, the sexual identity crisis rears its ugly head, we are all conflicted and tend to run around in a dither about it. So, we head to the Internet and look for others that are, "just like us." I think men tend to be more focused on strictly the sexual aspects of the enema. Also, it is an area that most men will only feel comfortable talking about on the Internet. That is to say, I think the topic of enemas in the management of constipation is much, much more likely to come up as a topic of conversation among women than men. Homophobic men avoid any serious non-humerus discussion of anal eroticism like the plague. I guess they are afraid they are going to catch the "gay" or something.

My guess is that there are more women that men taking enemas and more men than women talking about taking enemas.

You write:

My guess is that there are more women that men taking enemas and more men than women talking about taking enemas.

My guess is that there are more men than women taking enemas and more men than women (privately) talking about taking enemas.

I take enemas, does this enhance your capabilities to be wrong? lol

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j/k it's a true statement men talk about it more tho. A lot of times to women it's like yep, I did it, now it's over. Of course there's times where it's a BIG O, but I mean... that's to be expected, especially in those anal erotics out there :😃

Men are probably more embarrassed by enemas then women.

An enema causes you to lose control of the first body function you ever learned to control.

We girls are taught by society that it's OK to surrender control. Men are taught to maintain control.

I have found that most women, while not vocal about it, respond favorably when the subject of enemas in a sexual conotation is brought up.

I think LisaK is right about control, going back to early childhood. In my case, my mom said once that a couple of times during my toilet training (18 months or so) I held back, causing constipation that called for bulb enemas. She also was the "decider" when the enema can came out later in childhood. I think my experiences were not unusual.

. . . . We girls are taught by society that it's OK to surrender control. Men are taught to maintain control.

That's not how it was in my house growing up.

Yes, my brother always maintained control, but I was taught to speak softly AND CARRY A BIG STICK.

There was no getting around me, and that's what I have imparted to my daughters.

For me, unless I'm in a scene, enemas are about pleasure and another opportunity to either masturbate or be masturbated or have sex.

Only in a scene would an enema be to lose or take control or to lovingly give as a gift for good behavior.

I very much enjoy enemas in a number of ways .. i consider them to be far more intimate than sex .. probably because you have to trust someone with more of yourself than u would having sex ... enemas aren't all that talked about outside of those of us who appreciate them ...

I don' think there are any prudes here. In fact, I don't think there any shy people, maybe a few naive ones but in general mostly a nice group. -- DD

As a female, I personally love receiving an enema. As a sub, I love having the control taken away from me by my Master. He decides when, how much, how long, what happens, etc.

I am also thankful there are so many other women here, it makes me feel not so alone in my desires.

Sarah,

I like your answer. Not all men are worried about thinking of themselves as being gay because they like enemas. Thankfully I got rid of those hangups years ago. My GF of 15 months loves enemas too. We discuss them freely and without embarrassment. We give and receive to/from each other and enjoy it. Also, in addition to being fun, we believe they are healthful too.

For anyone who doubts that there are women who take and give enemas, look at the responses to this post. Over half of them are by women. Most of the colonic practitioners are women and I have been attended by them many times over the years. That's because a woman's touch, sensitivity and intuition all come together to read her client and give the best enema or colonic.

If two enema lover hadn't been male and female respectively, and found each other, I would not exist.

Just wondering,I guess it's a poll. Do most women enjoy getting enemas from a man or another woman? I have enjoyed both, although didn't think I would.

I think women are more likely to admit to liking enemas or at least using them regularly because it could be seen as an extension of a legitimite medical process to relieve constipation.

Many men are hesitant to admit it because there is the perception that if you like enemas and other things in your ass, you are homosexual. Obviously not true.

I think that women do not admit enemas to males but maybe to an another woman. I can never seen to find a woman that wants an enema from me in my area. The woman that did agree just stopped talking when I told her by email that anytime this week would be great.

My mother and her sisters and several of my female cousins took frequent enemas, two of three per week. Enemas were never mentioned in a sexual context, i.e. for medicinal purposes only, but I had the feeling that several of those women loved their enema bags more than their husbands...well, maybe not, but at least when it came to sex.