Prostate exam

I went in for a prostate exam about a year ago. My doctor is female. Apparently its required for a witness for be present for the exam when its female giving a male the exam. Because she said your wife can either stay in the room during the exam or we have to call a nurse in. i was given the option. I wanted a nurse to come in but thought the wife might get mad at me. She knows I might get turned on. But I probably wouldn't as a result of the setting.

So your wife saw you get the prostate exam? How did you feel about that?

For the past 15 years all of my primary care doctors have been female and I have never had a witness in the room. It's been "roll over to your left side and pull the right knee toward your chest". One even said "I dislike doing this even more than you dislike me doing it". That was true because I was sorry she was so fast. She could have taken all day as far as I was concerned.

I never take my wife with me for doctor's visits so it would be a nurse if she had to have a witness.

NO witness no flowers, no card, no breakfast the next day, she did not even call.... I feel so violated.... WOMEN,,, IN & OUT & GONE

Had a male and a female doctor both time it was embarrasing because it kind of felt good

It seems odd that you need a witness for a prostate exam. I had one from a female doctor and no thought was had about the need for a witness. I agree that it may be a good idea to reduce claims of malpractice but there are many other ways to make such claims.

Does the same also apply to examinations of genitalia in the US or breast exams?

I suspect this doctor is being proactive in avoiding charges of misconduct.

I suspect this doctor is being proactive in avoiding charges of misconduct.

I suspect the initial poster just wanted to see what people would say. 😁 😁 😁

Prostate exams are a routine, quick simple event in the life of a physician.

People's imaginations are making much too big a deal about it.

Susie is right. I just had a prostate exam from a urologist a couple of weeks ago. It was very quick, I don't think his finger was in me more than 5 seconds. I even said to him that was quick. He said it is quick when there is nothing to feel. He told me I have a slightly enlarged prostate about normal for my age. I asked him is there is a scale for measuring the size of the prostate. He said it is in grams and mine is about 30 grams which is slightly large.

Hey great post here.... ive got a prostate exam scheduled 2moro afternoon & am turned on already...wonder how many people will be there? always way more embarrasing when someone watches i think 😳 had one prostate exam once when my doctor had some visiting doctors he wanted 2 have watch, there were 4 total, 3 men one female

My husband had a prostate exam recently, and I was in the room. It was a male doctor, it was very fast. Layed on his left side right leg up and he inserted his finger in and out very quickly. I was hoping for a longer exam. I was the only "witness"

I see a youner (late 30s) female doctor for my prostate exams, and I've always found it to be a very unpleasant experience. It's in no way like a prostate massage. She makes me lay on my left side on the exam table and flex my right knee toward my chest. She tells me to take a deep breath and bear down as she slips her gloved index finger all the way up my rectum.... I wince. Then she withdraws a little and presses down firmly against my prostate, feeling around both sides with the pad of her fingertips. You get the feeling you're going to have to piss. Upon removing her finger with a disgusting slurp, she puts a sample of "butt slobber" on a special card to test for blood in the stool. Then she takes a tissue and wipes excess K-Y from my crack...talk about embarrassing. It's difficult to set with a sore butt and talk face to face to an attractive female doctor two minutes after she's had her finger lodged up your rectum. I'm always wanting to get out of there and hide from embarrassment, but she's super civil about prostate health and doesn't seem to be fazed at all by what she does. If a female finger is that uncomfortable, I know I'm never going to see a male doctor to have my prostate checked.

I've had prostate exams from both female and male doctors. My male doctor has me bend over the exam table. When he slips his finger in to check my prostate, I feel like I'm on the end of a fish hook the way he curves his finger in and presses hard on the prostate and moves his finger around to check for texture. My female doc used to have me lie on my left side for the prostate exam--thought it felt good. Didn't have to have a nurse present, but that was several years ago. Be more embarrassing if a nurse had to be present when a female doc did a hernia check. I always squirm a bit anyway no matter whether a male or female does the hernia check. Wonder if other males find a hernia check by a female doc more embarrassing than the prostate check? The ultimate embarrassment could be if the female doc milks the prostate to get a sample of prostate fluid for examination [I've only had a male doc do that to me]

So the fact that I am on this site suggests that I am into anal play--except when it is with a big burly make doctor turning towards me with gloved hand saying, "Bend over I wanna do a rectal." No thanks...

Jmorris, its possible that this doc has picked up on the fact that you have a medfet and is protecting herself. Probably won't have to worry about this in the future as these routine prostate exams (and pelvic exams for that matter) are likily to be a thing of the past.

I have been getting annual prostate exams from our family female doctor for a few years, and never had a witness. As stated above, it is very quick - she does the prostate and rectal exams in about 30 seconds. One visit three years ago, the doctor asked if it was ok for a visiting intern to observe my exam and I agreed. The doctor in training was a very pettite Asian woman and if the doctor had not mentioned she was an intern, I would have thought she was about 13 years old!

I have had one done so far, and that is just because of my age. It was when they were trying to figure out exactly what was wrong with me, had a partially infected kidney and I was not manifesting any symptoms other than blood in the urine. He had me bend over the table spread my legs a bit, lubed me really quick, and went in. I couldn't tell if he used one or two fingers, either way he had large hands so it was not the most pleasant experience, did a quick feel and rotate. He then handed me a slide and had me try to milk out what little juice he forced out of the system on it. Not the best experience, but between that, the cystoscopy, and the other tests I had that day, was on the low end of humiliating or painful.

My female urologist has never suggested a "witness" for the DRE" The whole thing lasts maybe all of 5 seconds. It's no biggie, not the least bit arousing....she's in and out before my prostate realizes it.

I have had a few prostate exams in the past from two different female nurse practitioners. Neither one ever called in a witness. Last month I went for my yearly physical and saw a new female doctor that had recently joined my regular doctors practice. At the end of the exam she said she wanted to do a prostate exam and would be back in a moment with an assistant. She returned with the female medical assistant that earlier had showed me into the room and checked my BP and pulse. The assistant stood along side of the doctor while I lowered my pants and bent over the table. It didn't embarrass me, she had given me shots in the rear many times over the years. I'm just wondering if California laws may have changed, or if this doctor just preferred to have a witness.

I've had many prostate exams over the years, started 30 plus years ago when my GP mentioned that he'd be seeing my business partner in two weeks for a complete physical. I ask him to wait until he got to that part of the exam and then tell him I said hello... Seems that he found that amusing and he complied. A digital exam by a urologist several years later found a mass that in a year became prostate cancer, just glad it was found early and no reoccurrence after 15 years. I still have enough nerves regenerated to get by fairly well with a good dose of Cialis. My present urologist is female, and has a great touch when she examines the area that once contained my prostate. In all of my experience I've not had a second party in the room when receiving a rectal-prostate exam.

I have had prostate exams by two different female physicians at different times and have never had anyone else in the room with us. The exams were both very clinical and non-sensual.

Laws have changed. My last two physicals had a witness during the prostate exam.

Laws have changed. My last two physicals had a witness during the prostate exam.

What was the gender of the examiner and the witness? Was the witness there just for the rectal or for the genital too?

My husband has never had a witness for his prostate exam or any other part of it in NY

My last several exams have been performed by a female urologist, alone. The entire exam including checking my sac and the lubricated finger in the ass. And she even takes tissue and wipes the excess KY before telling me I can stand up.

I have had female examiners for physicals, and its my understanding in TN that the practice, not the State Code dictates chaperones/witnesses.

I have never had a female doctor examine me without a nurse present. Whether or not it is a law, rule or whatever, I don't think any doctor would examine a person of the opposite sex alone. The last time my doctor, a female, my wife was in the room, but she still had her nurse in the room.

Bill

I think the policy depends on the practice and the doctor. Some require another party present, some don't. Also, when there is, it seems to differ a lot in terms of what they do. E.g, watching, vs turning their back but being in the same room (which I never understood the point, but I've heard of it like that).

My experience for the first time was a visit to a urology doctor(female) who wanted a sample.i bent over she inserted her finger and surprisingly quick made me come quite heavily.

When I took my husband to the emergency room when his appendix got infected, I witnessed one of our female interns give him a rectal exam. It wasn't a pretty sight to watch, because it was very painful for him when she did it. She didn't ask me to leave the room because she knows I'm an RN at this hospital. She did the exam properly though. I knew it might be a little uncomfortable, but I wasn't expecting him to holler out loud and almost jump off the table. When she stuck her index finger up his butt, I'm sure everyone out in the ER ward heard him yelp. He literally would've jumped and fell in the floor if we wouldn't have been there to stop him. It hurt so much, that he got pale as a sheet and almost threw up right there. He was a pitiful sight. The doctor made a priority slot for him to have an appendectomy, and he was in the OR within an hour and a half.