My first two children were born in hospitals. All my doctors were women. I never had, by demand a single male in the delivery room other than my husband. Some of the nurses, especially the older nurses were all hard core, down to business people that had no bed side manner or sympathy what so ever. Then there were the younger nurses that were very nice. The preparation by those old nurses was like being flopped around on a production line. I never asked for any type of pain killers or was never offered any. It was grit your teeth and push. The older female OB I had did not administer any of that what she called "Sissy Shit" to her patients unless it was necessary.
I've experienced the "Free Birth" that our member "chaomiand" shared with us. This was ten years after my son was born. My husband did the preparation work at home. He shaved me and gave me an enema. He examined me to confirm that my cervix had dilated and effaced and had begun to soften. He called my OB and we went to the hospital. This was 12:15 pm. My doctor, dressed in a skirt and blouse and wearing black patent high heels arrived just after we got there. We went directly to the delivery room. There were four people there. Myself, my husband, one nurse and my doctor. My doctor said, "Well Doctor are you ready" my husband said "Certainly" I was in labor when I got there and the baby was crowning quickly. A couple pushes later and my husband delivered our daughter. A tiny 5 pound 4 ounce baby girl. The cord was cut and our daughter was put in my arms and crying quite loud. My husband massaged my belly as I pushed the placenta out. He and the OB cleaned me up and took me back into my room. My OB seeing that everything went perfect went back to her party. It was 1:00 am. Being late at night it was quiet and very personal. That's the way I wanted it. This would be our last child and I wanted my husband to deliver me.
We talk about that night from time to time and we understand how intimate it was. From the preparation to the being wheeled back into my room. Now you might be thinking about the "Well Doctor Are You ready" question from my OB? My husband is an Orthopedic Surgeon who that night became an "OB For A Day"
Looking back I'll say the at home preparation was actually very sexy and the delivery by my husband very intimate also. We enjoy medical fetish and he's teases me saying, "To bad you were not wearing black high heels the night our daughter was born". To counter that we've had many intimate exams with me in the stirrups wearing high heels and black stockings.