Enjoy play exams, not real ones

Are there people who find being in a real situation at the doctors a turn off, but enjoy playing medical games with a play doc they trust?

Certainly.

I for one am one such person. I don't find anything arousing about a "real" medical encounter.

I think you have hit the nail squarely on the head there saying "someone you trust" I believe trust is vital for a successful outcome.

Yes Rockdoc,with you I have much fun in real life play and online play.This because we have spent a lot of time together online and a bit in real life,

But because you are so nice and its play so its fun for me and you.

But I hate real going to real docs about anything

Maybe its because in a real life situation,there really is no control for the patient,but in play there is.

Any thoughts anyone.(rockdoc your thoughts please)too

I'm with Rockdoc here.

A visit to my real doctor potentially has real life and death consequences regarding a diagnosis and can be anxiety inducing, but not a turn-on.

A play exam is just play and no matter what you do to make it real, it just isn't.

Switchable -- True enough that there is a chance for scary news any time that a person goes to a real exam. That only gets magnified when going to the Dr and the patient knows there is an issue. Not much fun! However, for most of the general exams I go to - and there is the right equipment of mine is being examined - I have found many parts of the process enjoyable.

Obviously, the play exam has only the aspect of fun....

I think every person on here pretty much feels that way.

I think that is to some extent why a play exam is never is as deeply emotional as a real exam.

There is excitement but it is from another pleasure center. There is never the "Ahh" moment when the real exam is behind you and everything has been checked and looks and feels OK. Even with the pap results hanging out there, I think most females have a major sigh of relief when the exam is over. Than the pleasure side of it kicks in...

Yes Rockdoc,with you I have much fun in real life play and online play.This because we have spent a lot of time together online and a bit in real life,

But because you are so nice and its play so its fun for me and you.

But I hate real going to real docs about anything

Maybe its because in a real life situation,there really is no control for the patient,but in play there is.

Any thoughts anyone.(rockdoc your thoughts please)too

I think that even in a real situation the patient still has control, they can always refuse any procedure they don't wish to have.

In my view there is a different mindset in a real situation for most people, you're unlikely to be there for pleasure whereas in a play situation the reverse applies.

I have only known one female out of lifetime of relationships that looked forward and actually enjoyed going to her gynecologist. One time she was hospitalized for amebic bowel problems and during her stay, she was examined by a young, handsome (her words). She confessed to me that when she was returned to her room that she masturbated. This was especially interesting in her case, because she always had difficulty in achieving orgasm. Timing is everything.

They're both a lot of fun, but then I frequently have sex with my doctor (he's a close friend of my husband's) so they're all basically play exams to me.

I don't find real exams an ounce of exciting. I trust the doctor because I trust that he won't play with me. Similarly, there is no fun in playing unless I trust the doctor fully.

Real exams can be food for fantasies but nothing else really. Had I known a real doctor who was also a good doctor who was also into medfet, perhaps I would have started liking real exams.

I am one of those who may get scared visiting a real doctor for a full physical in reality. Even though I would visit a female doctor for my real physical whenever that happens but still, knowing myself, I know I will be anxious (like I was at the university physical) specially when it would come to the Gyn part.

But in medfet scenerios I feel I would enjoy getting a detailed physical both from males or females. The doctor just has to be polite and friendly. Havent had one though. As most of you would have read I am a newbie in the play exam scenerio

This happens to me most of all with the dentist. I have a huge dental fetish and love my mouth being examined and played with.

I HATE the dentist however and am somewhat scared of it. When I am at an appointment or in the waiting room nothing could make me turned on at all. I trust my current dentist but even the knowledge that he could stare down my shirt doesn't do anything for me. The second I get home however I go back to fantasising again.

The same thing applies with the Doctor, I'm reluctant to go and only go when I have a real problem therefore don't find it at all pleasurable.

I'm so glad someone brought this up. I thought I was the only one. I had a horrible some horrible experiences with my pedatrician in then when I was a kid I thought to myself when I'm an adult I'm never going to the doctor - especially for checkups. Then of course I grew up and realized 1) that I had to in order to get birth control and 2) because it's super important. So I go every year but I get overwhelmed with anxiety for days leading up to the appointment. And every single time I'm sitting on the table in the paper gown I literally ask myself why I put myself through this and contemplate leaving.

I've never experienced a play exam. I get zero gratification out of the real deal. I've greatly anticipated them on occasion and it's never anything but a let down down. While my fantasies fall in line with a more clinical approach, everything about a real exam is so swift and non-evasive (minus a very quick pelvic exam). It's usually over before I can even digest it.

Ok.

For folks who truly have medfet, I have to think there's gotta be SOMETHING from the real exam that feeds that medfet, whatever that may be.

For folks who get nothing out of real exams, i would say those folks don't really have a medfet. At best, a "medfet fantassy' of what they fantasize about having happen that is too far fetched TO happen.

For folks TO GET something out of a real exam, it's a matter of being able to put themselves in a situation to manifest their medfet or whatever that may be. And of course, it has to be done in a way that's consistent with what's happening in the course of the exam that makes sense and doesn't draw any flags.

So for a play exam, the play patient would either want to fulfill what is strictly fantasy that would never happen in a real situation, or use what thrills them in a real situation & draw on that for an enjoyable play session.

Ok.

For folks who truly have medfet, I have to think there's gotta be SOMETHING from the real exam that feeds that medfet, whatever that may be.

For folks who get nothing out of real exams, i would say those folks don't really have a medfet. At best, a "medfet fantassy' of what they fantasize about having happen that is too far fetched TO happen.

I can understand how one would arrive at that conclusion! It could seem a little funny to say "Well here I am on this medical fetish site, discussing every aspect of examination in lavish detail, fantasizing about it daily, longing to be awkwardly probed...oh, my annual appointment? Yeah I've been putting that off for weeks, freaks me the hell out!" It seems initially incongruous, no?

I would ask though, do we presume a BDSM enthusiast would welcome the opportunity to be restrained and beaten by every man or woman they pass on the street? If someone says, "Oh man I love pizza, it's my favorite food" do we tell them they're wrong if they don't want to eat it for every meal, or if they only enjoy certain toppings, or order exclusively from one pizzeria? We certainly wouldn't presume someone with a kink for noncon actually wants to be assaulted in real life! Even on this site, where everyone bonds together over their shared overarching fetish, there's a great deal of variance. Some enjoy being gently probed, some roughly handled. Some are all about the stethoscopes and basic physical exam, while others fantasize about being anesthetized and prepped for surgery. Clearly there are many different ways to express the fetish.

There are many different angles to approach the fetish, too. Some people may have come here due to pleasant early memories at the doctor's office, perhaps their first tinglings of burgeoning sexuality. It's easy to see why that would make an impression on someone's developing psyche. Others, though, may recall the fear and anxiety they felt, the pain of a particularly scary procedure, or something they were subjected to against their will. This sort of experience would leave an impression, too! Wanting to act out a similar scenario, even a fearful one, can be empowering in a big way, because it is ultimately in that person's control as they structure the scene. Contrast that with an actual visit to a medical professional, where the doctor could be unexpectedly crabby or brusque, where the diagnosis is uncertain, where there is most definitely no safe word to end the scene.

In conclusion, it's rad if you can and do get off on your real-world medical exams, and it's also okay if you don't. There's no one right way to interact with medfet.

As for myself? I've experienced it both ways. Sometimes my heart is racing and stomach is churning with anticipation or arousal, and sometimes it's doing those things in near-panic and absolute dread. And sometimes it is surprisingly difficult to distinguish between the two. ;3

For folks who truly have medfet, I have to think there's gotta be SOMETHING from the real exam that feeds that medfet, whatever that may be.

For folks who get nothing out of real exams, i would say those folks don't really have a medfet. At best, a "medfet fantassy' of what they fantasize about having happen that is too far fetched TO happen.

I will re-state what I said earlier because the above clearly is not correct. You can have a medical fetish and not find anything erotic about a real exam.

A visit to my real doctor potentially has real life and death consequences regarding a diagnosis and can be anxiety inducing, but not a turn-on.

A play exam is just play and no matter what you do to make it real, it's still just a game that has none of the life and death concerns of a real exam. It's like acting in a funeral scene in a play versus being at your mother's funeral. Aside from inducing pain, there's no way you can make it "real".

ShowSomeRestraint , you said it perfectly!

In the beginning I had never thought of being in the real situation or being a turn on. Then after awhile I started to like both.

it's rad if you can and do get off on your real-world medical exams, and it's also okay if you don't. There's no one right way to interact with medfet

That's a great way to put it. In other words, whatever works for you is best.

A visit to my real doctor potentially has real life and death consequences regarding a diagnosis and can be anxiety inducing, but not a turn-on.

Once again, this is not the mindset of a teenager, who is obsessed with sex, not disease and death. The teenage mind is preoccupied with the thought of being naked and touched. The potential for disease, and ultimately death, is not even a consideration. It was during this carefree stage that most of us developed our affinity for medical exams.

It is so weird to me that people who claim to have a medical fetish act like it is so damn repulsive that it stems from actual medical experiences.

How is this so damn hard to grasp? If you're into BDSM and simply like the elements of power and control - on either side- then, I get that you could be into medical role plays.

However, there is so much more to it for many of us. Please stop the shaming and condescending posts about how the hell "real" medical situations are absolutely serious and can be life saving.

Dude, we f'ing get it. We're humans, too. We understand how the F illnesses work.

Perhaps you could lighten the hell up, OR go find another site to shame people's fantasies. You know, instead of a fetish site, eh?

It is so weird to me that people who claim to have a medical fetish act like it is so damn repulsive that it stems from actual medical experiences. . . .

REPULSIVE that the fetish comes from a real experience? Who said anything about the concept being repulsive?

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How is this so damn hard to grasp? If you're into BDSM and simply like the elements of power and control - on either side- then, I get that you could be into medical role plays.

However, there is so much more to it for many of us. Please stop the shaming and condescending posts about how the hell "real" medical situations are absolutely serious and can be life saving.

However, there is so much more to it for many of us. Please stop the shaming and condescending posts about how the hell "real" medical situations are absolutely serious and can be life saving. . . .

None of this is hard to grasp.

Who is shaming and being condescending to anyone here?

Why does it bother you that someone disagrees with your concept of medfet and what interests people to engage in it?

Who is shaming and being condescending to anyone here?

Why does it bother you that someone disagrees with your concept of medfet and what interests people to engage in it?

I won't insult your intelligence by suggesting that you really believe what you just said.

Switchablesusie, you constantly post reminding people that "real" exams are about life and death, after someone posts ANYTHING about being aroused from a "real" exam. That's the definition of shaming. You're taking someone's thoughts about a FETISH that they should feel free to express in a FETISH site and invalidating them. What is your propose? If it bothers you that people find real medical situations arousing, why are you on a medical fetish site? I've seen it for months and months and months, and now you're going to act like you don't do it?

Really? Come on. If you think you're the damn fetish police, at least own it when it's called out.

If you look at posts, everyone is different. But, you constantly look to invalidate people's thoughts. Why? Why can't you just let people be aroused by things without attempting to make them feel like a weirdo or sicko? I know I cannot be the only one who notices this.

I know I cannot be the only one who notices this.

You're not the only one who notices. You are one of the few willing to speak up. I am glad to be in your company.

Switchablesusie, you constantly post reminding people that "real" exams are about life and death, after someone posts ANYTHING about being aroused from a "real" exam. That's the definition of shaming.

No, that's the definition of having a different point of view.

I never said it was wrong or not possible for others to be aroused by a real exam.

For many of us our medical fetish started in real situations and was ignited due to anxiety over real health issues. I have a huge thing for cardiac / blood pressure things in medical situations. For me, this has to be real and can't be faked. The more real it is the more intense it is with respect to my fetish. I am not proud of it but that is what it is about for me.

It is so weird to me that people who claim to have a medical fetish act like it is so damn repulsive that it stems from actual medical experiences.

People have all kinds of reasons why they have a fetish for this or that. But even so, I too found it odd to be talking in terms of 'damn repulsive'. Those are pretty strong words. Maybe odd or incomprehensible might be better terms to use.

I tried to think long and hard how to explain how I feel about this but I am having a hard time putting it into words . I will give it a shot tho . ( pun intended )

I dont really know how I got interested in met / fet or where it stemmed from . I really have to wonder if some people are just wired certain ways .

I was a sickly kid that seemed to catch everything and I had a grandmother and mother that were in good words , drama queens. For my grandmother at every sniffle and god forbid a fever I was sure to be on my death bed and it was a life or death emergency to get me to the family doc ( who was an ancient little old lady ) and so of course her reaction scared the heck out of me and to my mom I was simply a chore . Add that to a nurse at the office that was a miserable cranky spinster and I HATED going to the dr . I also had a blood disorder that was not correctly diagnosed until I was 6 yrs old . I never put up much of a fuss I was always cooperative and respectful when out and about ( home was a different story 😉 )

Fast forward to me being a young teen mom with a high risk pregnancy that caused many dr visits that I found embarrassing and humiliating.

Four more pregnancies, being a diabetic and having a few other health issues I have had more than enough dr visits , tests, procedures, and hospital stays .

NONE that I have ever enjoyed nor been aroused by .

I have replayed some gyno visits in my head , substituting the dr for either a boyfriend or some fantasy man on a couple of occasions .

However I come here to Zity read the med /fet stories and get completely turned on !

Gyno role/ play with a special sweetie and OH MY !!!! My panties are damp immediately and usually always ends with an amazing orgasm .

I find it extremely hot to actually have a real life med/fet scene take place and I soooo look forward to it happening!

Now to explain where it stems from .....I really don't know but thats fine with me 😉