Pain and Play Exams

Most real life GYN exams are uncomfortable to say the least, but in real-time play when we're much more relaxed and aroused, it can be hard to replicate that feeling.

Is it important to have that uncomfortable or even painful feeling? As either doctor or patient, would you say sadism/masochism is a part of your exams?

My view is that in real life - when adoctor says it will hurt, we do it anyway! We trust them implicitly and go along with it. And I like this to be carried over into medfet play scenes too. Curious on everyone elses thoughts?

As a play doc, I have to say that I do not go for pain. Unless it is requested, and even than I try to error on the mild side. The very last thing you want to do is hurt somebody.

That being said, I do tend to try and make things a bit more embarrassing than in a real exam. I can not duplicate that medical apprehension in a play setting, but I think making it a bit less comfortable in terms of modesty keys the patents nerves up a bit. It is not the same note as in a real setting, but I do think it adds to the nerves going into it and the relief coming out, and that is what makes it such an emotional sensation.

When I say uncomfortable in terms of modesty I enjoy weighing my patients in their underwear and watching them undress. I enjoy taking a urine sample, that kind of thing. Nothing too over the top. Just enough to key it up a wee bit.

If you are doing "clinical" exams, realism is important. And for certain procedures, there can be discomfort, or even some pain, even in a play exam. That said, if it is med-fet and S&M, I don't believe in deliberately hurting someone more than necessary to play the scene to which we agreed. AND ABOVE ALL, safety and trust comes first. Agree on what will be acceptable before you start. And I always tell the "patient" if what I am about to so will hurt. Personally, I enjoy watching and listening to my patient's reactions, whether those be from discomfort, or pleasure, or something in between.

Thanks for your replies. Maybe i'm more sadist than initially thought!

I think you make an important point that in a real life scenario we just trust the medical professional. This is because we trust them to do the right thing and not harm us.

In the same way, during a scene, as Lon as there is proper trust that we are not trying to permanently harm te other then a bit of pain and discomfort is to be expected, and enjoyed!

For example, having your arse stretched an trained by increasingly large plugs or a speculum won't always be the most comfortable thing, but it is sure as hell hot.

This is exactly my point! I'm not looking to permanently hurt or harm anyone but I definitely look to cause them pain. Because ultimately, they'll do as they're told 😉

SableSable, I think I know what would help you to focus your ideas for inflicting pain. A good ginger root can be carved into a nozzle which will be attached to a two quart bag of epsom salt enema. Of course the ginger will burn and you will try to expel it but receiving a nice firm spanking with a wooden paddle while the enema flows into you should give you something to focus on beside the ginger in your anus.

Of course you would have to be in the knee chest position so the enema will flow in rapidly causing some cramping while the ginger and the paddle do their work.

When the enema is finished you may ask nicely and be allowed to go to the toilet, but only with observation.

When finished we can discuss your ideas for inflicting pain on others.

It is possible that after a thorough visual inspection of the external genital area a number of locations could be identified with hairs that are "at risk of becoming in-grown." To prevent an "infection" from developing, the play doctor would need to put the patient up in the stirrups, use a magnifying glass, a light, and tweezers to pluck these "at risk hairs." Of course a slow pluck vs a fast pluck would be at the discression of the doctor. This procedure would allow a variable amount of sting to be delivered without any lasting harm.

Later on during the internal exam with the speculum cranked wide and other tasks at hand, the doctor can notice a couple of hairs that were missed earlier, and may opt to just pause the current task and return to plucking while leaving the speculum and any other implements in place.

I dunno if it's just the pain or more the power that I crave in a scene. I've often made note of how many doctors say the cure will hurt in order to save more pain in the future. So I think I get where you're coming from.

Thank you dariachick - exactly what I was looking for and a very interesting saying I think I'll adapt for future scenes!

Hook - I rather like your idea, I'm guessing you like the element of Sadism to be present? Is it important?

Stephen, not entirely sure why you've projected your little fantasy at me as I'm clearly not looking to be a patient or how my question would warrant that kind of answer! Please make sure you understand a question before commenting.

SableSable I did not mean to irritate or aggravate you. After re-reading your profile I see that you are into inflicting pain, not experiencing it.

I think that some degree or pain or discomfort should be involved to make it more realistic, and more to do with the power element of it 😄

Im still new to this but i see it as if you have a real exam, then id want it to be the trust and go along with it, but if its a medical torture type thing, then i see that as different where pain is expected, just changed. I think if it was a real exam, i would want that painful feeling and uncomfortable feeling knowing something was coming up.

It has a power element for sure.

Perhaps medical Torture is my game...

I have to say - I am, at heart, a masochist, and as such, I enjoy painful and uncomfortable procedures.

As others have mentioned, I'm not entirely sure it's the pain itself, or the control that the pain implies, but either way I enjoy it. The unique feeling that comes when a medfet nurse/doctor says "I won't lie, this is going to hurt, but I need you to be still for me and relax. It will be over soon." The intense helplessness that brings on - every muscle in my body, every feeling, every emotion yells and screams 'run!', but I act on none of them, knowing I have to submit myself 'for my own good'. I know there is no way to avoid the pain coming, even as I watch my...torturer....prepare, whether it be a needle and syringe, a catheter, a large speculum, an enema bag, or any other painful instrument. I know that soon I will feel that painful tool used on me, and yet I can do nothing to stop it, but simply lie there, feeling as my pulse quickens, my muscles tighten, and breathing becomes an effort. Finally the pain comes, carefully controlled by the play doc/nurse. The gentleness, but firmness and controlling nature, the dichotomy of care and infliction hit home, as I struggle to endure the painful sensation. Sometimes the pain is over quickly, sometimes not. Sometimes its sharp and harsh, sometimes only dull and soft. Either way, I have no control whatsoever - I need to be examined and treated, and what needs to be done will be done, whether it's 'comfortable' to me as the patient or not.

So yes, I must say, as a patient, I VERY much appreciate pain. I love injections. I love caths and sounds. I love larger specula. I love painful enemas. I need and want to be hurt.

As a playdoc (I'm a switch, and while it's noted that I tend to prefer my role as a patient, since the question asks for insight from either side, I think it important that I answer from both), it's a bit different for me - I relish control more than pain. Some of my patients love pain, others prefer restraint and exposure, others simply the controlling experience of the exam itself. To me, what excites me as a top is meeting my patient's wants and needs, and creating an experience for them - whatever that happens to be. I will say that I tend to enjoy some uncomfortable procedures as a top as well, simply from my understanding as a bottom, and, if I have the right patient, knowing that I have the same kind of control I enjoy so much. There is definitely a rush to knowing what your patient is experiencing, and knowing that you are at the driving wheel - allowing sensation, creating discomfort, playing with embarrassment/exposure a bit, etc. To SEE a patient wince as a device is prepared, knowing that their heart is racing, that their body and mind is screaming for them to run, and watching them lie there for you - that is a thrill in and of itself. To know how excited they are, then push them past that edge.....that can be fun.

So in that sense - I suppose I'm not a true sadist, unlike my masochistic side, in which I actively enjoy receiving pain, I don't directly enjoy giving it; I enjoy the control before I enjoy the infliction, and hence, I play, more often, with those that prefer sensation, scene, and control more than pain and discomfort. And thus, that's probably where my preference toward the role of a patient/bottom comes from.

But each of us is different, and there is not, nor can there be, a right or wrong answer to this. As much as I, as a bottom, enjoy pain, so do others enjoy other topics. Kink is a personal journey - do what makes YOU happy, so long as it is safe, sane, and consensual, and be honest about it. And the great thing about the internet and Zity itself is that you are very likely to find someone who shares your perception of it. When you do, chat it up, and enjoy! 😃

It depends on the patient, right?

As a play-doc, I think it's very important to communicate with the play-patient before the session starts and be attuned to their needs. It's not about imposing my will of what makes me happy in the session with no regards for their input. The patient role IS inherently submissive, so sometimes a little pain will help them get in that space. But if it's not working for them, I'm not going to do things just for my kicks. The experience should be a duet, not someone playing over the other person.

I've never had a play exam, and those couple of times I've visited a gynecologist it was either very short or just uncomfortable or embarrassing. No pain involved. But for as long as I remember I've dreamed of a gyne exam where I'd be strapped to the exam table and forced to undergo more and more painful things. The idea of a spotlight shone between my legs and the doctor preparing instruments while explaining what will happen next, the fear and anticipation of those instruments and the pain they will cause is so exciting to me I'm almost scared to think of it. I imagine him using all sorts of surgical tools, needles, electricity, anything that is precise and controlled. Few drops of trickling blood involved, and in the end an exhausted but a happy patient. I can also imagine the feelings of satisfaction at myself for having bared each torment once they are over. I wish I could experience such exam one day, but my safety concerns override... I would never let an amateur doc do something like this to me. I wish I could find a real doctor with similar fetish.

I think that pain, weather mild or extreme is necessary in med-play.

Procedures are uncomfortable,humiliating and sometimes painful, very painful. But isn't that why we do medical play?

The things that are out of your control .

Things you would not do or let someone else do BUT a Doctor.

Things Only your Doctor will do.

But still you are willing. The Doctor knows best.

So, Yes I do thing that s&m (sadism/masochism) is a big part of medical play.

Just me opinion !

I'll go in the way SomeRandomGuy describe. What I'm awaiting from a medfet session is really to be in some discomfort, sometimes going to pain. I love injections, big enema or long retention time (keeping the balloon inflated), being restrained to the table or bed... I love being cathed, getting NG tubes or other really uncomfortable device, for all the time the Doc will think it's good.I think than some pain is a part of the medfet and loss of control is a plus. But as it was said, it must be a shared idea between Doc and Patient.

I try my best in my profession and in play exams to be as sensible as possible to the patients pain. On exploratory examinations I will say that there is an element of pain that is required to properly diagnose the patient which could be used I in play exams to add that element of pain if you so choose.

I agree with some of the above - it isn't "pain" but "control" and that the trust you have in the authority that even if something is unpleasant that you'll do it because they know better that you do.

That being said, in my personal life I do enjoy pain sometimes with biting etc. but pain in a medical setting is usually not a good thing for me but being told to spread wider (even when you think you are spread all the way) etc. is something that can be erotic.

For me, there is a core of compassion that goes into caring for someone either in a real exam or in playing out the fetish of a kinky visit. That said, a big part as others have said is the loss of control, the biggest way being discomfort in both physical and psychological ways.

I enjoy imagining the squirms and whimpers, knowing a big part of that is the patient revealing themselves without any disguise while on the table/chair.

There is usually always an additional procedure that can be done to keep a well experienced patient in anticipation while calming from the last part of the visit. An enema bag on a stand, a riding crop on the counter... All unique to each person and wonderful.

I'm not in to causing pain but I do like the idea that a gyn exam can be uncomfortable for a woman, both physically and mentally. The physical element can be as simple as just the feeling of the open speculum in the vagina or perhaps a procedure being carried out. The mental element is the feeling of embarrassment and exposure

I would expect to feel some discomfort but not real pain. My play doc may feel I need certain procedures that while are not painful, may be uncomfortable and / or embarrassing. He may feel I need to be positioned in a more blatant manner than a real doctor or spread my vagina wider, with a speculum, than the real MD normally would. I suppose the best way to describe what I would like in a play exam is exaggerated & prolonged version of a real exam.

"I would expect to feel some discomfort but not real pain........I suppose the best way to describe what I would like in a play exam is exaggerated & prolonged version of a real exam."

I very much agree with booksmjm1 above, very well said! As part of a play exam I would enjoy some level of the typical uncomfortableness associated with a real gyn exam. It would definitely add to that clinical realism that I so much enjoy.

I'd say a small amount of pain and discomfort is essential during a play exam, making it more realistic, and giving the Dr the power and authority in giving the exam, and as a patient being exposed to anything the Dr needs to do to examine you properly. The fact that it's uncomfortable makes the humiliation even more excruciating! "This maybe uncomfortable, just relax and breath for me while I examine your rectum/cervix/clitoris" etc..

Saying : " play exam is exaggerated & prolonged version of a real exam." is the best short sentence I read till now to desrcribe what a play exam must be

I never hurt my patients (such as use whips or paddes or injections with needles and no restraints whatsoever) even though I know there are those that enjoy that. Quite often apprehensiveness and anticipation can be just as bad though and I have plenty of that. I get the most reactions from (listed in order of progression during an exam) gag reflex, nipple discharge check, insertion/expansion of speculum, bimanual exam when manipulating uterus and particularly palpation of ovaries, stimulus response test, and rectovaginal/rectal (because of considerable internal probing). Some girls take it well and others are a basket case.

In the end, it's up to the players in the session. You want pain, your partner should find a way to stimulate that want, and vice versa.

Isn't it fantastic that this area of naughty play can be so many different things to each individual?

There is that expectation that a real gyn exam is going to be uncomfortable, but painful, probably not. So in a play exam, some of us are into pain, want to be restrained, or pushed to their limits. While others are quite content playing the role of the patient who obeys the doctor, and gets an awesome exam.

Finally, there's the whole bunch of us who want a little of everything, and that's super cool too.

Play safely, consensually, and awesomely.

Sablesable .I agree with the pain part of this and would only bear it if needed by a professional doc. I would trust you to play with my intimate parts any time .