Embarrassing middle school physical.

When I was younger I always felt like physicals were the most embarrassing thing I went through. From the urine sample to undressing. In 7th grade I was told i was going to get a physical that day I could of died. I get to the office and Im not asked to undress for the first the everything seemed normal till the genital exam came around. She pointed to my breast and vagina and said she needed to check it. Without warning she pulled up my shorts and put her whole ungloved hand in my pants and moved my pubic hair around and spread my labia without looking then she pulled my shorts down and looked at it for what seemed like 5 minutes. Then without warning she put her hand up my shirt and cupped both of my breast. One of the most embarrassing exams I had

@thephysicalexam that just sounds like a groping and not an exam. 😮

The thing I can remember about in school physical exams is that all the girls seemed to exit the examination with a very red face. I think the doc enjoyed his job

It felt really weird after I felt violated I always seem to have the most embarrassing exams

I never had an exam in school. My mother always took us to our own physician.

This was at my regular doctor.

This was at my regular doctor.

Well what kind of bedside manner is that for a regular doctor? I just do not get these American exams for girls at all because they are really not needed at these ages.

Patient modesty was never paramount at my pediatrician either. The blind groping followed by the denuding and voyeuring of my genitals was common practice.

This exam would of been way worse had I been undressed

She was checking for pubic hair I had a full bush (almost overnight)

Sometimes the tough part is when the school demands the student produce a clean bill of health via an annual physical. Scheduling an exam during school days is impossible if the doctor doesn't have late afternoon appointments, with the child in school all day. That's when the school offers to examine the child themselves with the school nurse &/or doctor, once the parents give consent to go ahead & do so. It seems the school takes on the responsibility of their students not being exposed to a student that may have a health issue that may be contagious or whatever.

In the process, parents take the risk of having their children see a health care professional they don't know......

@health44 that is exactly what happened to me

Not sure what she gained by touching without looking in your original post. Touching your labia & cupping your breasts served what purpose?

"Checking it". To make sure you have them ? That you're not a boy masquerading as a girl ? Almost like a Crocodile Dundee move.

I think it was to check for pubic hair and development.

Well, to check for development, i could understand feeling the not so visible labia. But then she exposed you to check visually anyway. Maybe there's a reservation about looking & feeling at the same time. But if you're feeling & not looking, you may wind up feeling "around", which you wouldn't have to do if you could see what you need to check.

Now, unless your clothing caused your breast development to appear ambiguous, i question the necessity to reach up,& cup them to check for development. Unless she wanted to be quick & spare the time & embarrassment of undressing/redressing.

Which raises a question similar to airport security situations. Would you rather be patted down/ felt up, or viewed nude after a strip search / body scanner ? I donlt think the answers would be unanimous. I think they would be based on a combo lesser of 2 evils embarrassment/awkwardness/feeling of violation, and for some, the bigger thrill of being seen vs touched.

Now, say i'm a female medical professional at a school. Do i want a girl to run home and say "Mommy, she reached under my clothes and cupped my breasts !" or "Mommy, she made me undress to check my development !"

Me, i think I'd be more comfortable with the latter scenario as sounding more like acceptable behavior. But that's me.

Did you get at all aroused when she examined your vulva?

When I needed an examination at about the same age (early secondary school) it was the first time I went to the doctor unafraid because I reasoned that, not being ill, I would be spared the painful humiliation of pulling down pants and bending over the receptionist's lap for a penicillin shot. I had, however, forgotten about booster shots and had to assume that dread position for three quick stings in my vulnerable bare bottom which, whilst not hurting as much as penicillin when I got them, left me unable to sit down next day.

When I needed an examination at about the same age (early secondary school) it was the first time I went to the doctor unafraid because I reasoned that, not being ill, I would be spared the painful humiliation of pulling down pants and bending over the receptionist's lap for a penicillin shot. I had, however, forgotten about booster shots and had to assume that dread position for three quick stings in my vulnerable bare bottom which, whilst not hurting as much as penicillin when I got them, left me unable to sit down next day.

Rinse, lather, repeat.

That must have been embarrassing. I went to the same pediatrician till I was 16. My yearly physical always included undressing to my underwear. Eventually I would be told to pull them down for the hernia/tanner stage exam.