Men sharing genital exam experiences

Have you shared details of a genital exam experience with a male friend? Who initiated the conversation? Did he share his experiences with you?

I lucked out in NYC finding other guys who were into physical exams, play, at first, but then someone who explored doctors as I did then, making appointments and sharing all the details with each other.

I've never been "brave" enough to broach the subject in any forum except online, behind a username.

Infrequently. Mostly if one of us was expecting an unusual trip to the doctor and the other one had 'been there, done that.'

I've never been in a situation where a group of guys are sitting around, just shooting the breeze and the topic of exams comes up. Never. It would certainly be interesting, but I've never experienced it.

I've never been "brave" enough to broach the subject in any forum except online, behind a username.

This is my feeling too. Ever since I started receiving physicals which included full examination of the genitalia, I have thought about other men going through the process of a physical exam wishing I could see them expose the genitalia and undergo examination. I have also wondered how they felt about the experience with regard to anxiety and nervousness but have never had the nerve to ask.

It's not easy subject to start. Most of the moment when I was able to talk about it was before or after some examination at school. First other guys were just joking about what will happen or heppened on exam to scared other guys but there was always few who were talk about genital exam seriously. They were happy to describe full exam in details but not in front of group but in one to one chat. Main question aways was "Did you get finger inserted into your anus" or "Did you have to bend over". More experince sharing was before Army Draft as some guys had only genital check , others genital and anus and some didn't have to drop underwear.

I've never heard guys talking about it but I have talked to my therapist at length about it. And my therapist is a female. How odd is that? I am a very private person who has always been very modest about nudity. Recently I've had issues and I have had to be examined "down there" by several different female clinicians. I was very nervous and anxious about each of these exams well before they actually occurred. Being examined "down there" was so foreign and wrong to me and for it to be done my a female made it that much worse. So I had to talk about this issue with my therapist.

Now things have gone full circle. I still get very anxious about upcoming exams but only because now I actually enjoy being examined "down there" and the anticipation and the exam is so erotic for me. I so look forward now to my next exam even though it is several weeks out.

My therapist doesn't know that I now enjoy being examine "down there" and that it is so erotic for me.

Should I tell her?

. . . . My therapist doesn't know that I now enjoy being examine "down there" and that it is so erotic for me.

Should I tell her?

NO

If you have spoken to your "therapist" for 6-8 hours in sessions

and they haven't told you what you need to do,

THEY HAVE FAILED YOU.

Your talking for hours on end with no definitive direction from them makes your sessions a waste of time.

I always think I'd like to inch a conversation towards sharing exam memories, but when I do, I usually chicken out. And then I don't want to keep brining it up because I assume after a while, a friend woukd think "wtf, why is he always trying to get me to talk about physicals?"

...but I have talked to my therapist at length about it. ...I am a very private person who has always been very modest about nudity. ....I was very nervous and anxious about each of these exams well before they actually occurred. Being examined "down there" was so foreign and wrong to me and for it to be done my a female made it that much worse. So I had to talk about this issue with my therapist. Now things have gone full circle. I still get very anxious about upcoming exams but only because now I actually enjoy being examined "down there" ....My therapist doesn't know that I now enjoy being examined "down there" and that it is so erotic for me. Should I tell her?

First of all, it depends what you want to achieve by discussing it with her. If it is merely to attempt to have some kind of an effect on her, then I would not encourage you to mention it. However, if you want to use it as a helpful point of discussion in describing & exploring your sexuality where you think she may be able to provide guidance, then you have it as a talking point.

If your therapist were to broach the subject of your discomfort in these situations as a follow up to your prior struggles, then i suppose it would be best to be honest about having turned a corner in how this kind of situation affects you.

You wouldn't want to bring it up for the sake of bringing it up. You would want to hold off until a point in your sessions where it would be a relevant part of your psychoanalysis or whatever.

@JTMac, HE LIKES IT and the mental sensations it creates.

It ISN'T a problem.

He just wants to act like a horny dog with a problem in order to get his rocks off by discussing it with a female "therapist."

NO

If you have spoken to your "therapist" for 6-8 hours in sessions

and they haven't told you what you need to do,

THEY HAVE FAILED YOU.

Your talking for hours on end with no definitive direction from them makes your sessions a waste of time.

@JTMac, HE LIKES IT and the mental sensations it creates.

It ISN'T a problem.

He just wants to act like a horny dog with a problem in order to get his rocks off by discussing it with a female "therapist."

If @Guy57 was in any doubt about the need for therapy before, he will surely need it now, after being on the receiving end of Susie's conclusions. 😄

@SwitchableSusie , I'm unclear how you can be so dismissive of his therapist without knowing the slightest thing about her. How can you know enough about his treatment to describe it as a waste of time, and twice put the word therapist in inverted commas? After @JTMac's thoughtful response, I looked at @Guy57 's posts on a Dermatology thread, and sure enough he had an attraction to the physician examining him then. He seemed to get over it, so his interaction with his therapist may get more comfortable also. I may agree with you that he enjoys the sensation, but a good therapist will have heard and seen it all. @Guy57 doesn't deserve to be called a "horny dog". However, that's just my opinion.

If @Guy57 was in any doubt about the need for therapy before, he will surely need it now, after being on the receiving end of Susie's conclusions. 😄

@SwitchableSusie , I'm unclear how you can be so dismissive of his therapist without knowing the slightest thing about her. How can you know enough about his treatment to describe it as a waste of time, and twice put the word therapist in inverted commas? After @JTMac's thoughtful response, I looked at @Guy57 's posts on a Dermatology thread, and sure enough he had an attraction to the physician examining him then. He seemed to get over it, so his interaction with his therapist may get more comfortable also. I may agree with you that he enjoys the sensation, but a good therapist will have heard and seen it all. @Guy57 doesn't deserve to be called a "horny dog". However, that's just my opinion.

MOST therapists can easily be dismissed because they are of such little value in teaching the client what they need to know to get on with their lives. They go through the bullshit of having the client talk and talk and talk, saying they want the client to self-discover what they need to do instead of ever coming right out and saying to the client, "look, this is what you need to do. . . . "

I said ACT like a horny dog, NOT IS a horny dog.

Shrinks can have a very deliterious effect on people's lives these days especially with everything being on the computer and freely accessible over the internet to all sorts of providers and insurance companies, among many other readers of supposedly private information. In light of all this, my advice to EVERYBODY is KEEP YOUR OWN COUNSEL.

@JTMac, HE LIKES IT and the mental sensations it creates. It ISN'T a problem.

He just wants to act like a horny dog with a problem in order to get his rocks off by discussing it with a female "therapist."

Thank you for the clarification, Susie.

Wow, somebody has issues

Wow, somebody has issues

Show me a member here who doesn't and I'll go out and say a prayer for them ... ha ha ha ha

Thanks for your feedback on my interactions with my therapist, my dermatologist and my PCP.

I tell my therapist everything and my sessions with her have been very beneficial. I got over my fears of being naked and examined "down there" by female clinicians with the help of my therapist.

Maybe she helped too much as I now find such exams to be erotic for me and I now enjoy them.

I should not fear such exams nor should I enjoy them. If I let my therapist know what has happened and discussed it with her then hopefully she could help me deal with such exams in a more normal manner.

I was talking with a buddy of mine about going to the clinic in town and seeing the new doctor they put on staff there. I mentioned she is horrible and has no problem spending her entire office visit inside her computer screen instead of dealing with the patient in the room with her.

My buddy goes into telling me that his doctor is great. He suggests I go see her the next time I go in for something. I thought the conversation would end there. However he goes on to tell me at his last visit, I forget what he went in for, she asked him to stand up and drop his shorts. He said he wouldn't turn down any opportunity to drop his shorts, and so did drop them.

He said she went right for his penis and picked it up. She pressed and massaged it. She then rolled back his foreskin and started to inspect the head of his penis. He said it was the best exam he ever had on his penis.

@JHG doctors/PA's/NP's and hospital RN's spend most of their time on the computer, no thanks to mandates from above. Pre computer the doc could scribble notes shorthand and spend a quarter of the time now spent typing.

Men really don't talk about this kind of stuff... at least I never have.

Never.

Do women frequently discuss their pelvic exams with their girl friends?

Here on zity, absolutely I have exchanged exam experiences. In person, nope.

When I was in high school we would talk about what went on during our sports physicals. It was fun to compare.

Once. Several of my male friends' families used the same family doctor. I had to get a complete exam for admission to a private high school. My best friend was going there, too. He'd already had his exam and I asked him about it. Nothing special, he said. Well, my exam included a lengthy rectal exam, what we would call a DRE today, my first, which I have never forgotten. The next day, I saw my friend and he asked how it went. Nothing special, I said. Then my friend asked if the doctor "did the finger thing" on me. I knew then I wasn't the only one and we talked about it. Turns out we both sort of liked it. We admitted it got us very excited, and that we'd each jacked off at home afterward thinking about it.

Growing up, there was hardly any reference to what took place in the exam room. There would be an acknowledgement that one of us had to see a doctor but hardly any specifics.

School physicals were given for sports at school in the nurse's office. These were different since you were in a group and saw plenty but that was while I was in high school. Even then, there was a code of silence despite having been seen standing there naked while the doc examined your privates. For sure I took mental notes as to how we all looked making comparisons about "size" and who seemed to be the most nervous and embarrassed.

It seems most of my male friends feel very comfortable talking to me about their medical exams - even now. Few know that I am a huge medfet dr. Growing up and listening to the stories of my friends going to see Dr Nash sent my head reeling (in the best of ways). Their stories provided the motivation to become a medfet doctor and well, happy ending.

We always talk about our school medical for example in the lockerroom after the exam. It is exciting. I have one friend, we know each other since our birth. We always talk about our experiences if we have a pediatrician exam or so. About our genital checks too, how it was done, who did it etc.

Before I found this group, I occasionally had friends with whom I shared this kind of thing. My first, was a friend in high school (we would jack off together sometimes and, among other things we talked about while doing that were our school physicals). Also at that time I had a female friend who was really fascinated by what happens to boys at physicals and she would always ask me about them. She and I even played doctor a few times.

Later, I found a friend in college who was into medical stuff, too, and he and I would do the same thing - share stories about exams we had and occasionally play doctor.

Also at that time I had a female friend who was really fascinated by what happens to boys at physicals and she would always ask me about them. She and I even played doctor a few times.

I would be really interested to hear details of your conversations and play with this female friend. What was she most curious to know about a boy’s physical, what details did you share, and what was her reaction? Was she surprised at the details?